i do not wish to offend anyone with this post. do any of you feel... ashamed of who you are?

[ausbeast420]

Sometimes I wish I could have spoken up for someone who was being ostracised, teased or attacked by people using the subject of zoophilia or attraction to animals to belittle them, sometimes I feel ashamed that I have denied my own feelings and even used disgust as a deflection, it's started to dawn on me that my shame is driven by others displaying their own prejudice against zoos who very well could have been doing the same thing to deflect, I'm ashamed of the projection of my insecurities about being outted as a degenerate might have feed into others denial and repression of their own thoughts, it's a vicious cycle to get caught into and helps no one

 

[humananimal]

I think everyone goes thru the same things the shame feeling dirty I still get it sometimes now but it passes and I won't change the feeling will alway come and go

Oh, then I am the only one.
Because I have never felt ashamed.
But of course kept my secret.

 

[ausbeast420]

Oh, then I am the only one.
Because I have never felt ashamed.
But of course kept my secret.

Why would you be ashamed? As a human animal it's just natural behaviour yeah?

 

[humananimal]

Why would you be ashamed? As a human animal it's just natural behaviour yeah?

I really don’t know why anyone should feel ashamed.
But I answered a previous post where it was said that all feels ashamed sometimes

 

[voextunr]

Gone through a phase of shame when I was younger and didn't understand why I felt this way. But now? Who TF cares lol the world's on fire, live your best life

YOLO

 

[anhinga]

You are speaking here, so you are not isolated ...

i only recently arrived here...

 

[Sumpup]

We congrats...I'm officially offended

 

[xuxiao]

I've always been a little bit ashamed and still unsure of everything

 

[sheepshagger69]

I have never been ashamed of being me, but I did used to feel great shame after sex with an animal. To be honest, I should have been too, because I was essentially raping them. These days I am at peace, I dont take a female, I woo her, and if she allows it, we mate, and I see nothing wrong at all with this. Not that I would let anyone know, but that is because of social opinion, not shame.

 

[enjj]

I think it's normal for people to feel a little ashamed about this. It definitely is taboo. I can't say I've never felt ashamed myself. I think its really important to surround yourself with people who are like you or at least accept you though. There's nothing good about shaming yourself for sexual urges

 

[zinzintex]

Not

 

[donkeyluv]

When I was younger not so much, but as I get older it is less and less acceptable to be a single man who likes farm animals a bit too much. I am also gay with a boyfriend (who is anti-zoo) and feel shame towards that too and am not open to my family. It's reached the point where I have isolated myself from them because I am sure it would greatly disturb my family to know I am into animals and they would probably always be wary of me. Especially around animals. They would view me as a pervert on the level of a pedophile. I've had these feelings when I was a teen and when I finally had my first experience it was a snowball effect. Sometimes I wonder if I hadn't been exposed as a young teen to these ideas from the internet and beastforum if I would have never ended up a zoophile since I didn't grow up around animals except cats (which I'm not into). But it's too late. I can't get rid of the desires I have now.

 

[BathiaFerva]

I've always struggled with levels of shame and disgust honestly. Sometimes I still struggle but I'm trying my best to accept myself and what I am and what I like. I don't really want to live in hatred of myself for the rest of my life. But I also don't want to never experience something I've always wanted to. I get these feelings of shame very much, but I'm working towards embracing myself.

 

[RR711]

I've always struggled with levels of shame and disgust honestly. Sometimes I still struggle but I'm trying my best to accept myself and what I am and what I like. I don't really want to live in hatred of myself for the rest of my life. But I also don't want to never experience something I've always wanted to. I get these feelings of shame very much, but I'm working towards embracing myself.

Once you understand that the shame comes from norms that mayority forced on us you will no longer feel that way and move slowly to "I dont give a F what someone thinks" oppinion

 

[sparadrappy]

I get you. 30yo transguy here. I always feel intense shame and guilt and yet the craving is so strong...

 

[daltonjack]

At first...yeah. growing up being gay always felt shame. Add in the fact that I loved dog cock on top of that was another level of guilt. But...I dont care anymore.

 

[TantsPants]

I've never felt any shame or guilt for who I am, either in relation to my zoo side or more generally - more 'sadness' I guess, that I can't be as open about such things with the people in my life

 

[furtalk]

Not ashamed myself but lonely. Sometimes that lonely turns to wishing things were better for me. Or that I wish others were more open to what I'm into. Or that we all didn't have to hide. Truth be told most of my zoo life has been just me sticking to myself not talking and hiding.. I regret the fact we have to do it this way.. much of what should be fun and exciting and loving has been turned into me fearing everything and not trusting ppl or being sad. But I don't regret who I am

 

[daltonjack]

Not ashamed myself but lonely. Sometimes that lonely turns to wishing things were better for me. Or that I wish others were more open to what I'm into. Or that we all didn't have to hide. Truth be told most of my zoo life has been just me sticking to myself not talking and hiding.. I regret the fact we have to do it this way.. much of what should be fun and exciting and loving has been turned into me fearing everything and not trusting ppl or being sad. But I don't regret who I am

100%. Well said. And...its lonely even if your with someone but have to hide still

 

[zbfloof]

I don't feel there's a need for me personally to feel ashamed, though there are definitely some in this community who should be. I know I can be left alone with an animal without a need to has sex with it

 

[RR711]

I don't feel there's a need for me personally to feel ashamed, though there are definitely some in this community who should be. I know I can be left alone with an animal without a need to has sex with it

If sex is only thing someone care about then that person is not a zoo.

 

[Two Dogs Deep]

Not even a little, it's just part of who I am, just like someone who likes whatever else. It's not a big deal and you shouldn't feel guilty about your private life

 

[UseForNow]

no but the mismatch with people around me makes me unhappy

 

[Isabelle_k9]

I'm not ashamed of who I am but I'm a little confused at why I enjoy what I like, scared at times , excited and turned on by the sheer naughtyness, thrilled by the adrenaline rush I get by doing something so kinky then let down by the guilt I feel afterwards.

It's 95% the same for me

 

[TheGreyWolf]

I regularly do, though it depends on the period how much. If I could get rid of this orientation I certainly would. Even if zoophilic acts would be fully legalized and the animal behavioural science would fully confirm that its ethical, I regardless could never admit to my friends or family that I have this orientation, and life without that heaviness in heart would be a life much better lived.

 

[RR711]

I regularly do, though it depends on the period how much. If I could get rid of this orientation I certainly would. Even if zoophilic acts would be fully legalized and the animal behavioural science would fully confirm that its ethical, I regardless could never admit to my friends or family that I have this orientation, and life without that heaviness in heart would be a life much better lived.

If you would find your true love in some animal partner then you would not think that ...

 

[daydreamer96]

I've always struggled with levels of shame and disgust honestly. Sometimes I still struggle but I'm trying my best to accept myself and what I am and what I like. I don't really want to live in hatred of myself for the rest of my life. But I also don't want to never experience something I've always wanted to. I get these feelings of shame very much, but I'm working towards embracing myself.

Glad you joined here...and are learning how to accept your inner desires and be safe in doing so. ....say hi

 

[K9Evangelist]

Not even a little, it's just part of who I am, just like someone who likes whatever else. It's not a big deal and you shouldn't feel guilty about your private life

I think a woman should feel proud of her ability to please and satisfy dogs.

 

[knotluvr96]

Constantly. I feel disgusted with myself. But if a male animal didn't want it, they wouldn't mount, right? But then there's so much discourse and it's pounded into our heads that it's wrong and I feel so repulsed by myself, but I keep coming back.... I would love to meet others, but the utter fear drives me away. So I'm left in this weird stasis of hating myself and wanting to embrace it all at once.

 

[TheGreyWolf]

Constantly. I feel disgusted with myself. But if a male animal didn't want it, they wouldn't mount, right? But then there's so much discourse and it's pounded into our heads that it's wrong and I feel so repulsed by myself, but I keep coming back.... I would love to meet others, but the utter fear drives me away. So I'm left in this weird stasis of hating myself and wanting to embrace it all at once.

It's a hard lot for the likes of us, especially if we care about the desires and feelings of the animals and don't just consider them toys for our own pleasure. Ethics are never easy with any subject matter, and even less so for us who would lose our faces and possibly even face criminal punishment in case of discovery.

However, the way I try to rationalize it to myself is that despite how I feel about my sexuality, it's nonetheless part of me and will likely stay with me forever. Thus I at least try not to hate myself for being what I am, because it was never my choice. What we do with our sexuality in real life is another matter of course, but at least fantasizing about the matter in a way that doesn't hurt anyone, yet allows me a venue to express myself sexually, is not evil.