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i do not wish to offend anyone with this post. do any of you feel... ashamed of who you are?

Goozeflzh said:
I am a 23 y/o transguy who have always been into girls.
I also happen to have a rather low sex drive, and I am very content with being single and I do not crave for any sort of intimacy. Especially not emotionally.
But at the same time, I have also always been into male dogs. Which is weird because I'm not into human males at all really. At least I don't think so. I consider myself straight. Seriously. I am so confused by this.

I do not live by myself at the moment, and I have only been with a dog yeaaaars ago, but ever since then I have had, uh, a craving. But I hate it. It makes me feel ashamed. I don't understand why. Is it the taboo of it all? What else could it be? I want to keep it behind closed doors, but internally acting out on it would make me feel so ashamed, even though I really want to act on it someday.

Does anyone else feel the same?
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I like k9 girls but because i may have some experience i will tell you. If you did at least one time sex with a dog, there is a bond that only a priest can cancel. You can fight that feelings but if you can’t win them you need a priest.You will have the memory of that sex but the guilt, shame, etc will go away. Going back to sex with dogs will bring feelings back. Hope it helps
 
I have a therapist that I talk to (not about this) that says shame is a worthless feeling. I’m growing to really appreciate and accept who I am. I have two furry friends that I love more than anything and finally feel like I can be with them how I want to. I love who I am and my friends and that’s all that matters.
 
coleraine38 said:
I have a therapist that I talk to (not about this) that says shame is a worthless feeling. I’m growing to really appreciate and accept who I am. I have two furry friends that I love more than anything and finally feel like I can be with them how I want to. I love who I am and my friends and that’s all that matters.
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Good for you keep up the good spirt
 
I love and enjoy playing, watching vids, and talking about zoo... But after I do feel rather ashamed. I think I'm twisted and would die if anyone ever found out. Being here and seeing so many others that think and feel like me helps a ton! You guys rock!
 
shay001 said:
I'm not ashamed, but I have to keep it a secret. But does keeping it a secret inherently mean I'm ashamed?
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No …u jus don’t wanna b judged. It’s ok….I’d nvr tell any of my frnds…..my bf’s frnds that knows me…understand that I will b hurt if they make fun of me. If my bf is out of town he usually leaves me with one of his frnds to watch me an they have been nice 2 mee??
 
I’m in pretty much the same boat as OP. But, I’m not sure if I’m “ashamed” or just overly cautious because views on zoophilia in my town is VERY off limits.
At times I wish it were different, but I see so much love and care in this community and I don’t want to give up on that hope that someday we might find an animal lover that fills the void in our heart.
 
BlueCoyote said:
I’m in pretty much the same boat as OP. But, I’m not sure if I’m “ashamed” or just overly cautious because views on zoophilia in my town is VERY off limits.
At times I wish it were different, but I see so much love and care in this community and I don’t want to give up on that hope that someday we might find an animal lover that fills the void in our heart.
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I feel your struggle and there have been days where I've thought of moving to another state just to not have to keep looking over my shoulder every 2 seconds. But really its no ones business who or what you sleep with and as long as you keep the curtains drawn and the tv or radio on no one is going to find out. Not unless you're neighbors are super nosey. They're not are they? Cause if you run into problems where they are all up in your business report them for violating your right to privacy.
 
I don't personally feel ashamed. When you adopt a dog you're making a 12 or 16 year commitment to meeting their needs. On love, vet care, nutrition and exercise everyone agrees, but why not sex too? I don't think frustration or castration should be the only choices.

My dogs have always known instinctively that they could find comfort with me and I've always chosen to be receptive. I take pleasure in their pleasure, whether it's on the beach throwing a ball or in the bedroom. It's very natural I think, and the deepest expression of love.

Of course I would be ashamed if anyone found out. I have a lot anxiety about that. Comet is very well trained and doesn't show interest in women in public settings but I constantly worry that people can look at us and just know ?
 
zaerin said:
I don't personally feel ashamed. When you adopt a dog you're making a 12 or 16 year commitment to meeting their needs. On love, vet care, nutrition and exercise everyone agrees, but why not sex too? I don't think frustration or castration should be the only choices.

My dogs have always known instinctively that they could find comfort with me and I've always chosen to be receptive. I take pleasure in their pleasure, whether it's on the beach throwing a ball or in the bedroom. It's very natural I think, and the deepest expression of love.

Of course I would be ashamed if anyone found out. I have a lot anxiety about that. Comet is very well trained and doesn't show interest in women in public settings but I constantly worry that people can look at us and just know ?
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Love it keep up the good work
 
For this lifestyle, no. For other reasons yes.
Dealt with depression and mood disorders for many years, the more I learned about myself I found that I was never satisfied that I was successful enough and still struggle with it.
 
Goozeflzh said:
I am a 23 y/o transguy who have always been into girls.
I also happen to have a rather low sex drive, and I am very content with being single and I do not crave for any sort of intimacy. Especially not emotionally.
But at the same time, I have also always been into male dogs. Which is weird because I'm not into human males at all really. At least I don't think so. I consider myself straight. Seriously. I am so confused by this.

I do not live by myself at the moment, and I have only been with a dog yeaaaars ago, but ever since then I have had, uh, a craving. But I hate it. It makes me feel ashamed. I don't understand why. Is it the taboo of it all? What else could it be? I want to keep it behind closed doors, but internally acting out on it would make me feel so ashamed, even though I really want to act on it someday.

Does anyone else feel the same?
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I am a 58 year old female. I just wanted to share with you my feelings and where I am at. I also had an experience years ago in my 20’s where I woke up with my make dog licking between my legs and after the initial OMG I was slow to push him away. Yes I enjoyed it. Yes I felt shame. Blocked it out of my mind until a few months ago. I’ve had a dog or multiple dogs my entire adult life. Recently I rescued a male dog. He is very affectionate with his kisses and Ive never discouraged that tongue kissing. In fact I caught it in video and when my boyfriend watched it.. it opened up a conversation. Now it’s an attraction we share and decide to join this platform for more information and it’s been so nice having a safe environment to ask questions and read about experiences. I thought about the guilt thing but I’m ok with the fact that I love my dog. We are still in the experimental stages of all of this but we are definitely moving forward. All I can offer is do what you feel comfortable with at the time. See if an opportunity presents itself. Acknowledge your true feelings and don’t stuff them down it will only manifest somewhere else. In the meantime keep reading and watching and asking questions. I am so grateful for the opportunity to share where I am at with you.
 
Goozeflzh said:
I am a 23 y/o transguy who have always been into girls.
I also happen to have a rather low sex drive, and I am very content with being single and I do not crave for any sort of intimacy. Especially not emotionally.
But at the same time, I have also always been into male dogs. Which is weird because I'm not into human males at all really. At least I don't think so. I consider myself straight. Seriously. I am so confused by this.

I do not live by myself at the moment, and I have only been with a dog yeaaaars ago, but ever since then I have had, uh, a craving. But I hate it. It makes me feel ashamed. I don't understand why. Is it the taboo of it all? What else could it be? I want to keep it behind closed doors, but internally acting out on it would make me feel so ashamed, even though I really want to act on it someday.

Does anyone else feel the same?
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I have but for different reasons.

What I can say is that I think it's because it's taboo and scrutinized by society. So we can't be out and about and be as open as we would wanted. That could lead to loneliness, depression, isolation, etc depending on the person. I'd suggest just really find a nice quiet place and just think on it. Try your best to unpack and understand all the pros and cons.

We are who we are at the end. How we go about finding and being happy matters. As long as you're a good person you're fine. Don't be a poop face and everything will work itself out. But don't beat yourself up about it either man.

Hope that helps. And if it doesn't, come back and we as a community might be able to help.
 
Malefusion said:
I used to feel shame. Over time I've come to terms with my attraction. I understand it. I can't participate, due to an allergy, so I'm resigned to watching. Which is also a problem outside of the internet, because I won't talk to anyone in rl about this. Personally I think the social aspect of the taboo gets alot of insecurities into our heads. Makes us feel shame for something that feels natural to us. Sometimes I feel like human on human can be more problematic than zoophilia. Humans carry diseases that are more easily spread than most animals. Also there are no mind games an animal can play on you. I would say that if you have a negative feeling about your impulses, look into were it stems from, what causes them and if you can take steps to lessen your shame then do so. Just don't lie to yourself. I just wouldn't go around telling people that you are possibly a zoo. Most people are violently repelled by just the concept.
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I don't think it was shame I felt, more of "did not know" if I was the only one or not in this world. This is before the internet took off. Would I openly say I was Zoo, no.....society mutates constantly and as yet views Zoo as weird if not outright wrong. So, it is none of the world's business and I am not about to become a martyr in futility, the world is not ready yet, private groups like this one are good, it is a step.
 
I do at times. I think shame comes from how society looks upon sex. Even vanilla man on woman sex has that stigma on it. As long as you're not hurting another living being, I say love what you love.
 
Growing up I sometimes felt ashamed for the feelings I had. As I got older those thoughts turned into depression and the occasional suicidal idealization. Last few years have defiantly been the hardest, especially not having a partner in my life. Being alone in all this has taken its toll, but I still go hoping for better.
 
Never shame, just annoyances if that makes any sense.

I never counted myself among the people who are "proud" about it, but i never felt much shame about it either. On occasion i wish i wasn't attracted to animals just because it would make life a whole lot easier, especially since when i first found out about that part of me, i was so allergic to dogs that i could not even be in the same room as one without having respiratory problems, and that took a loooong time to get rid off..

I tried repressing the zoo side of me more than once, but keep finding out that's easier said that done ?
 
I feel you on a lot of what you said. I feel like if anybody found out then I’d be totally judged for it and people would so talk crap to me for it.

There’s been multiple occasions now where it’s been brought up and I have to act like im disgusted by it too.

First time was when my best friend and I were in a party chat when we were playing video games. He brought up this video game streamer who has apparently made it known publicly about what he’s into; dogs. I just listened as he went on and on about it how that’s so fucking gross and disgusting. And how he feels that being into dogs isn’t an interest, it’s a mental problem. That he’s just fucked up in the head, that’s why he’s into it. I didn’t really respond, just shined him on as if I was really listening. Which I was, but deep down I just felt like damn. Imagine if he found out what I was into? What would my best friend think of me? I felt embarrassed and dumb deep down. But I can never tell anybody about it. I still wish I could tell him, I wish I could be honest with him.

The second time was when my wife and I were talking and she was telling me about this story. Just briefly about how she saw somewhere online about this couple having sex with there dog. Immediately she was saying how that was so disgusting and what’s wrong with people. Of course I had to yet again agree with her. What else am I supposed to do?

And the final time was a couple months ago. I was in a group text with two coworkers and one of them, as a joke, sent a video of a dog eating out some girls pussy. They thought it was all funny which is why it was sent. Then the other person in the group decided to show more people at work. Everyone laughing about it saying ‘what the fuck is that’ and ‘that’s fucking sick’. Then proceeded to mess around saying I probably like that stuff. About how they’ll get me a stray dog so I can play with it. And yet again, I played the part and acted like it was gross.

It’s hard to not feel ashamed or embarrassed about it, I wish I could not be into it sometimes. But I’ve come to realize it’s apart of me. I love it.

There is one person though who does know. I guess you can say a secret lover, although just a friend now I think. But we’ve never actually seen other face to face. She accepts me though with it, I thought she’d be disgusted by it too. But she wasn’t. She’s actually really into it, and only with me. When I’m not around she really isn’t all that crazy about it. But for me, she loved it. And that felt great.

Hopefully I can figure this all out. I hope everyone else does too
 
coltluck said:
It’s hard to not feel ashamed or embarrassed about it, I wish I could not be into it sometimes. But I’ve come to realize it’s apart of me. I love it.
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When the majority of society ostracizes you for it, it certainly is difficult. I feel similarly. I'm not at the point that I love it, but by joining this site I am trying to move towards accepting it as part of who I am.
Thank you for initiating this discussion!
 
oddball33 said:
When the majority of society ostracizes you for it, it certainly is difficult. I feel similarly. I'm not at the point that I love it, but by joining this site I am trying to move towards accepting it as part of who I am.
Thank you for initiating this discussion!
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I know I said I love it, but I’m actually not quite there yet either. I really really like it and eventually will get to a point where I do love it. I think that’ll come when I finally have someone to share doing it with. But that’s good you’re trying to accept it as something that is apart of you!
 
I think growing up and when I practiced I wasn’t aware of it being considered “wrong”. I think I had a sense that it was definitely taboo but I aligned it with my furry stuff and it wasn’t until much later I realized how different it was. I got called out by my ex a very long time ago when he found out, it made me feel a ton of shame and I was pretty frightened by his threats to tell everyone. That if anything created some trauma and made me develop more feelings of shame from then on. That was years ago though and now, being in a much more supportive, secure environment and having been through therapy, I recognize this as just something that is apart of me, it is what it is.
 
At first, yes, as of right now, after being in this forum, getting to know myself better through therapy and talking about it, actually seeing how much an animal can ask/enjoy sex, all of that made me realize, that even if the fear of getting outed or someone discovering it is probably never going away, I know i'm not doing something depraved or abusing an animal, or anything else that could make me feel ashamed, so no, right now, I'm not ashamed anymore.
 
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