Indyfitnerd
Tourist
I really appreciate your posts on this thread. They are encouraging. I may be a little more open again after reading this thread, but I was that way at age 21 to age 23. As I wrote above, I almost was able to get back with my first love, but she completely changed her mind after I mentioned zoo, even though she said that she liked the stories. She told a brother who then told a different family who has known me my whole life. I was open about it to my "buddies" too, but they started to tell friends of my parents. No major info got back to my parents, except once my dad told me that everyone knew I was a perv, but I think he said that because people knew I was interested in swinging as well.
Anyway, I still feel that being forward and telling a woman this on the 2nd or 3rd date is..... risky, but overall it may be a risk worth taking, especially if we look for clues of acceptance first.
I think each situation is different, you just have to kind of feel a person out. It also depends how much you like someone that may not be into it. I mean, I don't just blatantly say, "I want to watch you f**k my dog. " or, "I want to watch you flirt, tease, and try to seduce your *** or b*****r." After a couple dates. It also depends on how I met the girl I'm taking to as well. If we get into a conversation about if we watch porn, I'll be honest and say I watch specifically themed porn, almost all amatuer btw. But in 9 out of 10 scenarios the girl I'm talking to already knows what I like before we start talking. But again, I'm ridiculously open. On the old BF and IT forums I did have my full pic up with my face in it, as well as some other fetish specific sites. I only quit putting up the face pic because I was bombarded with emails from people saying I may not want to share my face for safety reasons. I'll also add, that if they aren't into any of it, that's fine. Again, if you really like them then it's ok to keep it as a fantasy, and there's enough places to find the porn you like online anyway lol.