WHY THE FUCK DID YOU DO THIS!!!!! God damnit people! Stop thinking with your fucking dicks! Don't ever ever ever ever give anyone any "verification" bullshit!and asked for verification pics and videos, which were provided, with a view to arrange a meet.
Probably because not everyone is afraid of showing their face. It's things like credit card information not to give out. That's when they're trying to scam you for money.WHY THE FUCK DID YOU DO THIS!!!!! God damnit people! Stop thinking with your fucking dicks! Don't ever ever ever ever give anyone any "verification" bullshit!
Good luck with whatever the fuck is going to happen to you.
Probably because not everyone is afraid of showing their face. It's things like credit card information not to give out. That's when they're trying to scam you for money.
I'd want to know what someone looks like before meeting them too.
I'm aware. It's not like people weren't photobucketing before that though. What are people going to do with fake pictures when it would never hold up in a court of law because of how easy it is to fake?Did you know that there are AI based reverse search engines existing which can basically crawl the .nets with just one to two pictures of your face (or anything with your face being a part of it) and in many cases find lots of trails where you've posted..? Directly linking your "verification" to your real life with predestined results if it gets into the wrong hands?
Nooooo?
Have fun trying it with your own image for a test run: https://pimeyes.com/en
Holy sh*t, people are not clever nowadays.
Tried it with a pic of me, didn't work, didn't find any pic of me from Facebook or any other social media, it showed me pics of people who looked similar to meDid you know that there are AI based reverse search engines existing which can basically crawl the .nets with just one to two pictures of your face (or anything with your face being a part of it) and in many cases find lots of trails where you've posted..? Directly linking your "verification" to your real life with predestined results if it gets into the wrong hands?
Nooooo?
Have fun trying it with your own image for a test run: https://pimeyes.com/en
Holy sh*t, people are not clever nowadays.
Got a problem with chubbies? You know what they say, bud, "Buggers can't be choosers". Pretty lame, body shaming.Probably because not everyone is afraid of showing their face. It's things like credit card information not to give out. That's when they're trying to scam you for money.
I'd want to know what someone looks like before meeting them too. Imagine meeting somoene someone chubby. That just makes the first meeting awkward. Then it's like "You came here for nothing". I don't think showing pics is the problem. I think being shady enough to talk off site ASAP is.
I'm noticing they'll do it less then five messages in a convo. Session or telegram probably.
I got a problem with people that can't look after their health and make excuses for it. Chubby people pretend they're not unhealthy. To that I say I know a lot of people that have suffered and died from bad eating habits. It catches up when you neglet it.Got a problem with chubbies? You know what they say, bud, "Buggers can't be choosers". Pretty lame, body shaming.
And if you can't figure out a way of getting a look before introducing yourself, good luck the day a Cop shows up.
Pointless comment for a pointless Thread....Seems appropriate. I guess the 5% legit stuff keeps you here, hmm?What a pointless. thread if you think about it.
It has been nothing but AI generated shit pics and some poorly programmed chat bots 95% of the time on here since I joined.
Why not make a "Beware! Legit user awareness thread" instead? lol.
You have a point I guess.Pointless comment for a pointless Thread....Seems appropriate. I guess the 5% legit stuff keeps you here, hmm?
Tried it with a pic of me, didn't work, ..
Unless it was "attitude" inserted by a translator, your statement was pretty much the problem. The place is the only game in town. Youve been here 6 months....You ought to learn to navigate it. You do tend, in this world, to get what you give.You have a point I guess.
When you're right you're right. Even if you're being an ass about it.
I agree with what you are saying, a confirmation pic to strangers should never include your face, a piece of paper or any other part of your body can do the trick, but never your faceSocial network information or different contact information was quite thoughtlessly shared even two years ago.
I simply observed the behaviour put forth by people like you and then adopted that.Unless it was "attitude" inserted by a translator, your statement was pretty much the problem. The place is the only game in town. Youve been here 6 months....You ought to learn to navigate it. You do tend, in this world, to get what you give.
Except, that like many of the junior grade nutcakes here, you only saw part of it. You have no clue about what I may or may not be like. This is not the place for argument, in any case. True story.I simply observed the behaviour put forth by people like you and then adopted that.
True story.
The keyword is "Strangers"....expecting a doggie booty call after a day or a week is unreasonable....The person youre looking to meet, if legit, will understand slow. If they push, maybe that's the clue to bag it as experience. I've met ten people from the larger "Community"; taking the time to get to know them pays off. They are all still friends.I agree with what you are saying, a confirmation pic to strangers should never include your face, a piece of paper or any other part of your body can do the trick, but never your face
Funny....long before AI, people managed to meet. The ease of contact brought with the net, also seems to have increased, rather than lessened, fear.
Buggers?Got a problem with chubbies? You know what they say, bud, "Buggers can't be choosers". Pretty lame, body shaming.
And if you can't figure out a way of getting a look before introducing yourself, good luck the day a Cop shows up.
This may be true. There may have been places where it was legal. I'd have to see a law book to assess that. In many areas of the World, the fact that this was not specifically ILLEGAL reflects the mores of a time and a belief in class, and not the idea that no one cared. But as the World has developed, especially since WWI, the example of people setting standards has faded into nothing. The net allowed seekers to find. But it also has allowed seekers to be found....and there are reasons to worry about that.That's somewhat dependent on regions and risks. In this country it was fully legal to that time, as long as no cruelty / enforcing / torturing would've been applied. Even meeting with others and all such was fully legal.
Nowadays it's not only more risky by law (even if in detail - under specific circumstances - still not judgeable), but the "social" networks which proved to be a hoard for denunciation in extreme terms ..
.. can nowadays ruin a whole life by just stating something half-true to look true by just a partly screenshot of a conversation or comparable. Job gets instantly canceled to prevent bad influence on the company, every other dependence in life gets spied out and flooded by "haters" (which there are a lot in our topic) with "proof" and suggestive or endangering writings and so on. Family, friends, whole contact lists of "social" networks.
I can absolutely understand why there are new denunciation problems which weren't given around 18 to 25 years ago, let alone before this.. And surely the correct decision is to be somewhat more careful in terms of "the .nets don't forget".
I said it the way I meant it...either you know or you don't.Buggers?
Protecting yourself is not a job for someone else.....it's your job to do or not.
I did try the search. Nothing came up, just a random dude with a fisherman's hat smiling into cam.Did you know that there are AI based reverse search engines existing which can basically crawl the .nets with just one to two pictures of your face (or anything with your face being a part of it) and in many cases find lots of trails where you've posted..? Directly linking your "verification" to your real life with predestined results if it gets into the wrong hands?
Nooooo?
Have fun trying it with your own image for a test run: https://pimeyes.com/en
Holy sh*t, people are not clever nowadays.
It was for the best, u finding his true self. He nooo worth it ?While words matter, the majority of how we communicate is non-verbal which we don't get too much of through online communication. Without the non-verbal forms of communication at our disposal, it's easier for people to misrepresent themselves in all sorts of ways.
The fear comes from experiencing that phenomenon over and over.
I still remember the very first guy I met IRL from an AOL chatroom shortly after my divorce. He spent a good portion of our first and only date accusing me of misrepresenting myself. At first I didn't get it as I had sent him a photo I had taken the day I sent it, and didn't tell him anything online that wasn't true. I did leave off the zoo thing as that was extremely new and at the time I was pretending it never happened, but he didn't know that nor did he have a way of knowing that.
What it turned out to be was he hadn't gleamed from our online conversations and the headshot I sent him that I was about 5" taller than him, plus whatever heels I wore for our date which back then were probably the defacto 3". It was a date, I'm sure I dressed to impress.
And our date was really unpleasant because of it. It ended with him stomping out of the coffee house saying I'm a "lying piece of shit" to use his words. That was shocking to me, because that is not a phrase anyone had ever aimed at me previously.
Afterwards, I realized it had never occurred to me to mention my height unless asked as being tall is my normal. And it wasn't an issue in any way for my ex-husband or the several guys I dated before that. Granted, I met those men in face-to-face situations so they knew how tall I was before they approached me and introduced themselves.
And while that was accidental and not catfishing, it made me very aware of how easily it is for people, myself included, to plug the holes in information we're missing with assumptions and projections, only to be potentially disappointed down the road when we meet in person.
That was excellent. It said what had to be said, exactly HOW it had to be said.WHY THE FUCK DID YOU DO THIS!!!!! God damnit people! Stop thinking with your fucking dicks! Don't ever ever ever ever give anyone any "verification" bullshit!
Good luck with whatever the fuck is going to happen to you.
Still, I'm sorry you had to mess with that. You shouldn't have had to.AbsolutelyWhile a bit annoying in the moment, it's awesome when they blow themselves up before I finish my coffee!
Though that was like forever ago.
Yeah, speed makes me twitchy and the ladies don't like it.Thanks, though in my experience it's par for the course with online dating.
It's always felt like catalog shopping to me. Ooooh, a handsome fireman, let me order one of those! And of course being in such a catalog is just gross to me. But that's what online dating is it seems.
Not a fan of actual catalog shopping. Other than socks I still trek to stores to buy most of my clothes. I look at the stitching, feel the fabric's drape or stiffness, and I definitely try most everything on. Amazon is for gizmos and cheerios
Though, worse than online dating is speed dating lol.
It is. All tax attorneys are robots.Speed dating can cause twitchyness
To those not familiar, it's usually done in bars where say, 10 women sit at small tables in a row, and 10 men sit in front of them. Buzzer goes off and each couple has 3 minutes to get to know each other and make a good impression. Buzzer goes off again and the men shift one table over, and the new couples get 3 minutes to get to know each other. That continues until everyone had a chance to interact with each other.
Hence, speed dating.
How it ends is each guy can put 3 women's ID number 1-10 on their slip, and each women can put 3 guy's ID number 1-10 on their slips. The bar reconciles and for any mutual matches, the bar gives them each other's first name and phone number.
I only mutual-matched once out of the three or four times I tried it out. Probably because I couldn't hide how uninteresting I thought the process was.
<robot voice>"Hi, I'm Steve, I'm 43, I'm a tax attorney, I'm divorced, no kids, seeking the love of my life. What's your favorite color?" Beep.</robot voice>
The women weren't any better. Stats, stats, stats. Once in a while there would be a woman who would cut through the chase with vigor. "Hi, I'm Maureen, I'm looking to be married within a year and have kids. How much do you earn?" Wow woman, that's some moose balls ya got there!
For me, it was people-watching with a really nice glass of red wine and I always went with a friend who for whatever reason, thought this was her only option.
The one guy I did mutual-match with was quite cool. He didn't prattle off his name or stats, and instead sat confidently with a big smile, and asked me what my passion was. What excites me every day. What rejuvenates my soul. So I said I love to read, particularly in the warm sun, and I named three somewhat esoteric books I enjoyed. He had read two of them, then the buzzer went off and I was actually pissed!
So, I put him on my slip by himself, didn't bother picking others because after three or four of these I was kind of done with it anyway. And apparently, he had done the same - he put just me on his slip.
We went out on two dates and both were really cool. The problem was logistics - he was a DJ in various major nightclubs and slept all day, I worked a 9-5. He also lived three hours away. But he was a cool guy. When either of us travel, we send each other post cards even today. I think that's pretty cool.