Women what are you hoping to get from this site?

pipchub said:
Honestly to find people who I can relate to. As we all know it's exhausting hiding.
I enjoy reading other people's perspectives, and if I get to meet people irl thatd be pretty cool, but ofc not expecting anything
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Hope u get to make a few friends you can be your self and feel comfortable with
 
knotjen said:
The big problem on Fetlife, at least in my view, wasn't the volume of unwanted inquiries though that did get old before mail controls were implemented.

It was the guys who not only sent an unwanted inquiry, but wouldn't take no for an answer.

"I'm into (X)"
"No thanks"
"But I'm really into (X) and you should be too."
"Go away please"
"BITCH/CUNT/FAT FUCK I DIDN'T WANT YOU ANYWAY!"

If when I said "No thanks" they went away, it would have been far less of a problem. None of them seemed to understand that no reply at all is actually a reply. It's clearly a no.

The worst were guys seeking a dominant or a mistress. I'm 6'1" barefoot so it's always assumed that's what I must be.

My height was also why I stopped wearing any kind of fetish wear to local kink events. 6'1" in a latex catsuit with 3" heels resulted in an endless stream of wanky men following me around begging for me to beat them in the event's dungeon.

The last few times I went, I wore street clothes - usually a floral sundress with suitable sunhat. Way less pestering.

It amazed me how much my doing that "ruined" their fantasy and they assumed something entirely different I guess.

Which just shows how much some of the patrons of the event really dwell on porn-based stereotypes and fantasies.

If they stopped that, and actually spent 10 minutes getting to know someone, they'd have a significantly different result than what they get - systematic "fuck off asshole" online and off.

I have so many stories lol
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Sorry that happened. I used Fet but it was not a great experience for me. I can't imagine how it was for a female. Hope u feel comfortable here and make some close friends.
 
I joined because when I first started out, women posting was the reason I felt better about being Zoo. If there are more girls posting on the site, then more will see that it isn't some rare thing to do in your bedroom that no other woman does. I've had multiple PMs from women talking to me about it so I know it works.

Plus I like being aroused, and this is a sex forum. It works.
 
Katelyn said:
I joined because when I first started out, women posting was the reason I felt better about being Zoo. If there are more girls posting on the site, then more will see that it isn't some rare thing to do in your bedroom that no other woman does. I've had multiple PMs from women talking to me about it so I know it works.

Plus I like being aroused, and this is a sex forum. It works.
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Yes. I like the bit where other women feel comfortable. It also would seem to help them actually chat and maybe connect with a few of us men from the hordes of horny guys on here. Like me. lol
 
Katelyn said:
I joined because when I first started out, women posting was the reason I felt better about being Zoo. If there are more girls posting on the site, then more will see that it isn't some rare thing to do in your bedroom that no other woman does. I've had multiple PMs from women talking to me about it so I know it works.

Plus I like being aroused, and this is a sex forum. It works.
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That is so great that your using your experiences to encourage and meet other women. Thank you and keep it up
 
Katelyn said:
I joined because when I first started out, women posting was the reason I felt better about being Zoo. If there are more girls posting on the site, then more will see that it isn't some rare thing to do in your bedroom that no other woman does. I've had multiple PMs from women talking to me about it so I know it works.

Plus I like being aroused, and this is a sex forum. It works.
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I felt the same way, I enjoy being part of the community and not feeling so alone with my sexuality. In real life i can't talk to anyone
 
Katelyn said:
I joined because when I first started out, women posting was the reason I felt better about being Zoo. If there are more girls posting on the site, then more will see that it isn't some rare thing to do in your bedroom that no other woman does. I've had multiple PMs from women talking to me about it so I know it works.

Plus I like being aroused, and this is a sex forum. It works.
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I can’t agree more. I think this works in general for likeminded people here.
Realizing we’re not alone in this helps with accepting who we are and what we like/love.
Unfortunately there too many thirsty dicks around who scare woman away. (As a guy I so often feel ashamed for men).
 
I guess I joined at first because I had the thoughts for so long about the topic and with the little experence I had when I first joined I always felt guilty about it so nice there was a place with other people like me. It was also a place I could vent and be open about something I could not be anywhere else. Also nice to be able to make friends who are into the same thing you are to know you aren't so alone in it
 
SweetEvie said:
I guess I joined at first because I had the thoughts for so long about the topic and with the little experence I had when I first joined I always felt guilty about it so nice there was a place with other people like me. It was also a place I could vent and be open about something I could not be anywhere else. Also nice to be able to make friends who are into the same thing you are to know you aren't so alone in it
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That is a great response. Thank you for sharing
 
knotjen said:
The big problem on Fetlife, at least in my view, wasn't the volume of unwanted inquiries though that did get old before mail controls were implemented.

It was the guys who not only sent an unwanted inquiry, but wouldn't take no for an answer.

"I'm into (X)"
"No thanks"
"But I'm really into (X) and you should be too."
"Go away please"
"BITCH/CUNT/FAT FUCK I DIDN'T WANT YOU ANYWAY!"

If when I said "No thanks" they went away, it would have been far less of a problem. None of them seemed to understand that no reply at all is actually a reply. It's clearly a no.

The worst were guys seeking a dominant or a mistress. I'm 6'1" barefoot so it's always assumed that's what I must be.

My height was also why I stopped wearing any kind of fetish wear to local kink events. 6'1" in a latex catsuit with 3" heels resulted in an endless stream of wanky men following me around begging for me to beat them in the event's dungeon.

The last few times I went, I wore street clothes - usually a floral sundress with suitable sunhat. Way less pestering.

It amazed me how much my doing that "ruined" their fantasy and they assumed something entirely different I guess.

Which just shows how much some of the patrons of the event really dwell on porn-based stereotypes and fantasies.

If they stopped that, and actually spent 10 minutes getting to know someone, they'd have a significantly different result than what they get - systematic "fuck off asshole" online and off.

I have so many stories lol
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Fetlife male subs put me off domming so hard I can barely dom my partner.

Dudes claiming to sub for me while making bratty remarks and demands for how I should dom them made me feel so used and stupid. I’d rather sub and pretend to be debased rather than be humiliated like that.

I haven’t dommed a woman in the last few years unfortunately
 
Tbh the connection with the people who share the same major interest as i. Not just the ones who bring it up as a joke. Hoping to make friends in my area or close enough to make me feel not so uncomfortable about enjoying something so... So great.
 
johnthisisthrice said:
I read this thread addressed to men and there were really interesting comments. So I’m really curious as to the breadth of perspectives, interests and opinions from the female community in this group.
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I appreciate you posted this thread and all the replies. I intuited the same, that people come here to have a sense of community, to see that they are not the only one having thoughts that are "taboo", among other things. I had the same drive years ago, but in searching to see if there are mature women who are into younger boys. I know it doesn't really compare, but I feel it's the same curiosity, "am I the only one? is there a counterpart to me?".

I wonder how anyone feels about someone not being into bestiality, but coming here to understand the world. Would such a person be interesting? (shamelessly I'm talking about me)
 
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