Would be easier if you were in Washington.
Married but alone in this ... you too?
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heckinboy
Tourist
That's rough buddy
Steven Raccoon
Citizen of Zooville
Keeping secrets from your partner is the secret ingredient to a doomed relationship.
Secrets can only stay secret so long before it isn't a secret anymore.
Secrets . . . I'm getting semantic satiation here,
Forget what I said here.
Secrets can only stay secret so long before it isn't a secret anymore.
Secrets . . . I'm getting semantic satiation here,
Forget what I said here.
trainrails
Citizen of Zooville
Same here
Lol shoot where have u been! Secrets is exactly what keeps our marriage alive! Lol we'd be divorced if i shared this secret! Lol
I have a rather large collection of porn, no an absurd amount(by my standards
) I prefer to think of it as being varied and thorough. When I was married my wife of course was well aware that I had a very high sexual appetite and also well aware that I enjoyed watching pornography which she had no issues w/ and quite often would watch w/ me. She also knew that my tastes kind of leaned more towards the more eccentric side of things and while most of it she had no interest in doing herself, wasn’t so much bothered by it as she knew that I would never ask her to do those things so she never really made a big deal about me watching whatever it was. Until…..so I don’t know if I left something open, if I left something in browser history or if she came upon it by accident or intentionally but she happen to find a few of my beast videos and questioned me about it. She was very obviously appalled by the entire thing and made no attempt to hide her disapproval. It was ok w/ me that she wasn’t into some of the things I liked and I never felt ashamed about those differences until she looked at me and w/ a face that was partially disgusted and partially scared she said “oh my God you don’t jerk off to this shit do you” the fear of hearing me confirm that I did now took over her faces expression completely, ashamed and embarrassed I completely lied and said no I just had to see it for myself because I couldn’t believe anyone would really do that. She gave out a sigh of relief and I told her not to worry and yada yada yada. That was just under 20yrs ago yet I still til this day remember the fear and shame that that one sentenced caused me to feel. That one moment was part of a ripple effect that I never would of expected. See the thing is when you lie about something or you keep a secret from someone that knows you in the most intimate and private ways, you have to close parts of yourself in order to keep it that way. When you start closing off certain parts of who you are even the smallest of portions, you hinder and damage growth and bonding. Trust and comfort w/ that other person begins to feel less and less certain as they once may have been. Now to divorce my wife simply because she wasn’t into something sexually that I liked is ridiculous and absurd, plenty of people have different sexual interests and have a relatively happy marriage but the damage came from that feeling of her disapproval, not just in the act but in me. There would be times when we would be engaged in a conversation in which the topic would be about sex, when she looked at me it was that same look she had that day and I would instantly become aware and very very cautious about what I would say or my input no matter how minor. I will note that although we may of had different tastes in certain things sexually, my wife satisfied me sexually and I had no reason to complain. How ever I no longer felt safe opening up to her about things that I was uncomfortable or insecure about. Eventually some years later we did end up divorcing and I’m not trying to say it was because of this but the fact that I had to lie and keep secret something that was very heavily thought of by myself and the need to maintain my wifes respect and love in how she saw me as a man, as husband and as a person was constantly in question, did not allow for us to grow together in a way that strengthened our bond certainly was a consequence that made its mark. I don’t mean to say a relationship can’t survive if you can’t tell your spouse or significant other. I only mean secrets and lies have far reaching effects that aren’t always apparent and that it is a very hard thing to have to endure but all the same, we must be true to ourselves
) I prefer to think of it as being varied and thorough. When I was married my wife of course was well aware that I had a very high sexual appetite and also well aware that I enjoyed watching pornography which she had no issues w/ and quite often would watch w/ me. She also knew that my tastes kind of leaned more towards the more eccentric side of things and while most of it she had no interest in doing herself, wasn’t so much bothered by it as she knew that I would never ask her to do those things so she never really made a big deal about me watching whatever it was. Until…..so I don’t know if I left something open, if I left something in browser history or if she came upon it by accident or intentionally but she happen to find a few of my beast videos and questioned me about it. She was very obviously appalled by the entire thing and made no attempt to hide her disapproval. It was ok w/ me that she wasn’t into some of the things I liked and I never felt ashamed about those differences until she looked at me and w/ a face that was partially disgusted and partially scared she said “oh my God you don’t jerk off to this shit do you” the fear of hearing me confirm that I did now took over her faces expression completely, ashamed and embarrassed I completely lied and said no I just had to see it for myself because I couldn’t believe anyone would really do that. She gave out a sigh of relief and I told her not to worry and yada yada yada. That was just under 20yrs ago yet I still til this day remember the fear and shame that that one sentenced caused me to feel. That one moment was part of a ripple effect that I never would of expected. See the thing is when you lie about something or you keep a secret from someone that knows you in the most intimate and private ways, you have to close parts of yourself in order to keep it that way. When you start closing off certain parts of who you are even the smallest of portions, you hinder and damage growth and bonding. Trust and comfort w/ that other person begins to feel less and less certain as they once may have been. Now to divorce my wife simply because she wasn’t into something sexually that I liked is ridiculous and absurd, plenty of people have different sexual interests and have a relatively happy marriage but the damage came from that feeling of her disapproval, not just in the act but in me. There would be times when we would be engaged in a conversation in which the topic would be about sex, when she looked at me it was that same look she had that day and I would instantly become aware and very very cautious about what I would say or my input no matter how minor. I will note that although we may of had different tastes in certain things sexually, my wife satisfied me sexually and I had no reason to complain. How ever I no longer felt safe opening up to her about things that I was uncomfortable or insecure about. Eventually some years later we did end up divorcing and I’m not trying to say it was because of this but the fact that I had to lie and keep secret something that was very heavily thought of by myself and the need to maintain my wifes respect and love in how she saw me as a man, as husband and as a person was constantly in question, did not allow for us to grow together in a way that strengthened our bond certainly was a consequence that made its mark. I don’t mean to say a relationship can’t survive if you can’t tell your spouse or significant other. I only mean secrets and lies have far reaching effects that aren’t always apparent and that it is a very hard thing to have to endure but all the same, we must be true to ourselves
Christensen
Tourist
Currently going through a divorce. Part of the friction between us was my inability to tell them about my desires, including zoo.
I’m sorry and can relate - it’s hard to have a trusting relationship when you don’t feel safe being vulnerable
Not a great way of living life imo. Sometimes things need to fall apart to be better.
Duckman045
Tourist
I am with my GF and she shows no intrest in my taboos or what ever yall want to call my sexual desires, i have always wanted to find either a women that is intrested as i am to marry or have a side girl that is into this but seems i can never find one in West Texas
Steven Raccoon
Citizen of Zooville
you're sure about that? your partner could have been with animals far longer than you. Sad, that 2 zoos could be married for decades, members of zooville complaining about being alone in zoo and that you'll be divorced if the other knew. Possibly great friends in here but dont have a clue that they're your spouse living right under your nose. But, whatever, go on and lie if it makes you think your marriage is the best it can be.
gaspard
Tourist
I know how it feels. I hope you can enjoy it anyway.
Maldoror
Citizen of Zooville
The first and last time I had a girlfriend I coldn't resist the maleness of her dog and had an affair with him. I realized I was so wrong doing this. "Fortunately", our relationship wasn't the best at the time because of her possesive personality so I broke up with her. It was a big relief knowing that finally I was being honest, at least to myself, and wouldn't be risking doing worse damage to her or her dog. She got hurt of course, but I could have been way worse for all. My suggestion: if you love your human stay away from animals. If you are a real zoo, do the opposite.
dirtyjaneuk
Zooville Settler
Married and alone in this kink as well, husband is a nice guy but so very vanilla, i need those itches scratching more and more often x
goodboy1uk
Citizen of Zooville
My situation is exactly the same!
beastlover121
Zooville Settler
that sounds sooo familiar
Bossmandad
Esteemed Citizen of ZV
Putting my hand up for this, Married 25+years and she thinks zoo is disgusting so have never opened up about it and it hurts keeping this a secret and is what I call my dark passenger
Do you ever wish that you had someone that shared in it? I do.
DoggieDoesIt
Tourist
I have been fortunate to have had 2 SO who did share the interest and openness. But currently she is anything but open. Yes! I would far rather share with her than seeking out others. Sexual incompatibility is seemingly at epic proportions. We each choose our own way of dealing with it. My way is right for me. But I would never try to tell anyone else they should do it my way.
bluemoon2208
Tourist
Same here married and she has no idea. Maybe we could share our experiences together x
Maybe she was testing the waters.
jhallec3875
Citizen of Zooville
I am looking for a mate/spouse that I can do big things with. Travel, lounge around the home, grow gardens, and if s(he)'s into it, maybe even explore some animal partners too.
My biggest fear is having a human lover be turned away by my desires - I want nothing more than someone who loves this sort of thing as much as I do. I'll find her some day.
My biggest fear is having a human lover be turned away by my desires - I want nothing more than someone who loves this sort of thing as much as I do. I'll find her some day.
Well i'm married and love my wife but she doesnt wanna do the k9 thing, i'm more into finding a girl that likes k9 and male and females that is looking to live with some one that isnt looking for marriage but wants a relationship where she can enjoy her self with both male and k9! Lol but what man wouldnt want that!