I usually out myself, actually. I have two methods that I’ve done it - the first, I’ll bring up kinks. I’ll start with some basics, which usually makes them ask if there’s more. I tease a bit more and ask if they wanna see a full list. If they do, I send them a link to my f-list, which has more acceptable blend of kinks. If they respond well, I’ll say “well, I do have another list with some more taboo listings...” and send that if they want to see it. the other way is to drop a “i’m feeling kinda knotty
” and if they don’t know what I mean, I’ll say it’s a rope bondage thing