I agree with the others dump his narrow minded intolerant arse. Please let us know how you're getting on?
Caught by Boyfriend
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SigmaTheZeta
Esteemed Citizen of ZV
Women in our culture are still more sexually repressed than they acknowledge. You come to sites like this one and find them to be male-dominated. Well, my theory as to why is that the feminist movement has really failed miserably at promoting sexual liberation. Instead, they are focused on reacting against rape-apologism; however, while it is right to care whether women have a voice in their sexuality, their approach is just leading to women being pressured into forming a self-protective, paranoid outlook on their sexuality, and I think they are just making themselves into prisoners in their own bodies. They are not really getting any instruction on how to engage their sexuality in a positive way. They are still chained down by Victorian Era and Edwardian Era thinking. They just haven't realized it yet.
The more sex-positive branch of feminism is a good idea in principle, but it still needs more development and promotion. I think that if it could be nurtured into a positive, pro-sex movement then a time would eventually come when these kinds of sexually themed sites are female-dominated, but this would lead to men having the same problem as women currently have on these sites, which is feeling like one sheep and two wolves arguing over what to have for dinner. Ah, well.
If you want to see more women on sexually themed sites, then bring on the sexual liberation.
Pretty_Vixen
Citizen of Zooville
No, he would have to provide proof. Just his word isn't enough.
Kristy
Esteemed Citizen of ZV
*raises my hand* Girl, here.
Pretty_Vixen
Citizen of Zooville
Hurray!!! Support! The cavalry is here!!!!!
Kristy
Esteemed Citizen of ZV
This BF is not BF material. Not for a zoo, nor anyone else Send him packing.
Follow the advice of others, here, regarding cleaning off your computer, and he has zero proof of your online activities.
He has no proof your activity with doggy. Given all that, nothing legal can happen to you.
Follow the advice of others, here, regarding cleaning off your computer, and he has zero proof of your online activities.
He has no proof your activity with doggy. Given all that, nothing legal can happen to you.
Kristy
Esteemed Citizen of ZV
All excellent advice, and stated very well.
azknottysex
Esteemed Citizen of ZV
well if your boyfriend cant see that he has a really good thing going on, he is a dumb ass and doesnt deserve you.
What-there-once-was
Tourist
Like many have said kick him to the curb and if he spreads roomers about you then say he demanded you to get rid of your boy and you said no hence the break up, then it looks like he's just making up stuff because he doesn't like the dog.
SigmaTheZeta
Esteemed Citizen of ZV
To be safe, might want to do a full format on your hard drive. No better time to switch to Linux
Doggo513
Citizen of Zooville
Pre
pretty sure this is the worst time possible to try and get her to find a new man
Reconscope
Supreme Citizen of ZV
his word vs yours.
Doggo513
Citizen of Zooville
Do NOT be ashamed of him catching you. Kick his ass to the curb for not accepting you or the fact you are into zoo. He can’t force you to get your dog neutered. I’m so sorry he acted this way, i hope you’re mental state is alright and heals fast. It’s really sad people are not more open minded these days
Reconscope
Supreme Citizen of ZV
*unzips* prepare for them dic picks lel (5 minutes later)
the part where he says wow im blowing up. after you say im a girl.
Reconscope
Supreme Citizen of ZV
i dont know why a guy wouldnt be into a girl whos into zoo? what? he should count his blessings for meeting someone so open.
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MareButtUddrrLovrr
Guest
IKR? I'd marry her in a heartbeat!
Doggo513
Citizen of Zooville
He should be so lucky to have a girl so open as you!
Reconscope
Supreme Citizen of ZV
question here: (yes im aware this time i just didnt wanna sound offensive so im stating my intent) why would a guy get disgusted by a woman into their dog? i mean i would understand more if the gender roles were opposite due to the cheating effect is more severe if the guy wants to bone a female dog but the other way around i dont understand? its not like she can concieve or isnt hurting the creature.
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MareButtUddrrLovrr
Guest
That one's actually easy to answer; there's 2 answers to that:
1. jealousy
2. religious stance
"Oh no! She sinned against God! Thou shalt not lie before a beast! Heresy!"
Basically, it's THAT attitude that some men have during their public mode. Some are the hypocrite zoos that will keep their zoo life in the down-low and take out their shame on the woman, or...some guys are genuinely THAT religious.
Yeah, I don't want this to devolve into Dumpster Fire fodder, but this is my observation over the years.
Reconscope
Supreme Citizen of ZV
you mean like how stinkmeaner hates his own kind? to put as a example if you seen boondocks. about hypocrite zoos.
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MareButtUddrrLovrr
Guest
Not sure it's a Col. Stinkmeaner example; I don't know if there's a better example of a hypocrite closet guy attacking women that share the exact same fetish as an attempt to hide/distance his own fetish from the public eye.
Col. Stinkmeaner just seemed like a generalist misanthrope.
Reconscope
Supreme Citizen of ZV
its actually pretty sad though having to Egg others to make someone's else standing seem higher.
oh i see what you mean on the 2nd part
I'm going to play The Devil's Advocate for a minute.
How her (I hope ex by now) boyfriend reacted could've been that either he was shocked or sick. You have to remember, a majority of society doesn't have enough of an open mind to see bestiality without a nonjudgmental lens. They see humans, then they see animals as not-humans.
Then there's the other factor - she's having sex with someone else, in this case a dog. It could be that he assumed that he was in a "monogamous" relationship. It could also be that he's also jealous of the dog.
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Now, back to the OP - she should definitely do whatever she can to defend herself but it boils down to nothing more than "he said, she said", as there's no evidence for his claim other than what he saw. Either way, it would be best for her to format her drive (and use a VPN to access this website if she hasn't already).
Just to be safe I'd say to move on from him if he is hostile towards you and your dog.
How her (I hope ex by now) boyfriend reacted could've been that either he was shocked or sick. You have to remember, a majority of society doesn't have enough of an open mind to see bestiality without a nonjudgmental lens. They see humans, then they see animals as not-humans.
Then there's the other factor - she's having sex with someone else, in this case a dog. It could be that he assumed that he was in a "monogamous" relationship. It could also be that he's also jealous of the dog.
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Now, back to the OP - she should definitely do whatever she can to defend herself but it boils down to nothing more than "he said, she said", as there's no evidence for his claim other than what he saw. Either way, it would be best for her to format her drive (and use a VPN to access this website if she hasn't already).
Just to be safe I'd say to move on from him if he is hostile towards you and your dog.
Ilovetooswallow
Lurker
You sound like a fun gal. Find a guy that's turned on by your sexuality and that would love to participate in making you completely sexually satisfied, and comfortable in expressing what turns you on. Life is to short to spend with a emotional manipulator, with only his priorities as important.
DanChrist
Citizen of Zooville
Dump him! If he calls the cops then play the rape card. Tell the police that he forced you to do it and that when you threatened to leave he said that he would call the police. This is why you never record yourself. I'm just going to put this out there; you wouldn't be the first woman to hit herself in the eye with a cast-iron skillet, and then took pictures of her black eye to hand to her lawyer. just sayin.
nekdoneco123
Esteemed Citizen of ZV
yeah, pulling the rape card on someone who was in the wrong place and wrong time while it's the op who fucked up by not being careful enough is a totally sane advice
seriously, shame on everyone who gives any form of "ruin his life" advice
DanChrist
Citizen of Zooville
Shame on him if he threatens to have her locked up because her sexual lifestyle went against his own personal sense of morality. She did not hurt anyone. You've obviously never been fucked over by an ex. It pays to treat your partners right even if you break up.
Reconscope
Supreme Citizen of ZV
If he goes that far to screw up her life yes i believe so. Her life is not his to screw up.
SigmaTheZeta
Esteemed Citizen of ZV
To those that feel triggered by a willingness to use extreme means of dealing with an anti, you have not met some of them that I have. Many of them are so convinced of their own moral righteousness that it's like they live in an alternate universe, where you are genuinely more evil than Adolf Hitler and Joseph Stalin combined, and all of the poor, innocent, helpless little animals need them to come and save them from you. The problem is that they believe it, and you will not stop them from believing it.
Think of it like dealing with an extremist terrorist that thinks that he is fighting holy Jihad by murdering you in the name of Allah. This person has had "America is Satan" drilled into his head for his entire life. This person genuinely thinks that you are the very definition of evil. This person does not care if you are an American man or an American woman or an American child. As far as this person is concerned, your entire world is nothing except a morally disgusting casino populated by criminals and whores, and your children must also be sadistic and disgusting. To this person, killing you has no more moral consequence than killing a zombie. Based on who you are, you are profoundly horrible, and your entire life is based on finding new and more horrifying ways of making the world more immoral and impure. You cannot change this person's belief, but it is also morally untenable to let this person murder people in the name of his extremist belief. Even though Osama bin Laden might have genuinely believed that he was a morally pure person and believed that he was on the side of right and believed that he was doing God's work and believed that the angels were on his side, it would have nevertheless been morally untenable to fail at making sure that he was killed dead in the night.
Maybe, on some level, you feel sorry for this person, but you owe it to yourself and your animal to do whatever you need to do in order to protect the safety of yourself and your animal.
Hopefully, this guy just got shocked and got carried away over a sympathetic nervous system reaction to seeing something he was not ready for. If that is the case, then this will only be a lesson to him about how he never has a right to demand the castration of an animal or any violent or grotesque act of vengeance, no matter how upset he is. Most likely, he is not an extremist, but he is also not ready for a steady relationship with a complex, three-dimensional human being that is likely to surprise him more than once. Best case scenario, this will just be a lesson to him about controlling his reactions.
However, whenever you are dealing with an extremist, then do not show mercy because they will not. There is nothing extreme about doing whatever you have to in order to render an extremist incapable of hurting you.
This guy is almost certainly not an extremist. His reaction was too impulsive to fit the bill. I suspect that this will just be a lesson for him, and it is also a lesson that he needs to learn. When he gets older, he will probably have more self-control, and it will be partly because he learned this lesson. Later on in his life, he will make another woman very happy and very safe because he learned this lesson, and most likely, this lesson will make his life a better one and a more noble one than it would otherwise have been.
I just cannot find it in me to condemn someone that has had experience with extremists and are prejudiced toward erring on the side of assuming that someone can be an extremist. When you have run into one that has genuinely attempted to destroy everything about your life, then that experience never leaves you. Once someone that dangerous has become real to you, then it sticks.
I am confident that this guy is not an extremist and will just want to escape the situation, but if he is an extremist, get him behind bars if possible. You can never be safe as long as an extremist walks free. If he is an extremist, then change your address, change your phone number, change your name, and start applying for jobs in another state if you can't get him in jail. Fortunately, I think this situation is unlikely because he was impulsive, and extremists are not impulsive.
Think of it like dealing with an extremist terrorist that thinks that he is fighting holy Jihad by murdering you in the name of Allah. This person has had "America is Satan" drilled into his head for his entire life. This person genuinely thinks that you are the very definition of evil. This person does not care if you are an American man or an American woman or an American child. As far as this person is concerned, your entire world is nothing except a morally disgusting casino populated by criminals and whores, and your children must also be sadistic and disgusting. To this person, killing you has no more moral consequence than killing a zombie. Based on who you are, you are profoundly horrible, and your entire life is based on finding new and more horrifying ways of making the world more immoral and impure. You cannot change this person's belief, but it is also morally untenable to let this person murder people in the name of his extremist belief. Even though Osama bin Laden might have genuinely believed that he was a morally pure person and believed that he was on the side of right and believed that he was doing God's work and believed that the angels were on his side, it would have nevertheless been morally untenable to fail at making sure that he was killed dead in the night.
Maybe, on some level, you feel sorry for this person, but you owe it to yourself and your animal to do whatever you need to do in order to protect the safety of yourself and your animal.
Hopefully, this guy just got shocked and got carried away over a sympathetic nervous system reaction to seeing something he was not ready for. If that is the case, then this will only be a lesson to him about how he never has a right to demand the castration of an animal or any violent or grotesque act of vengeance, no matter how upset he is. Most likely, he is not an extremist, but he is also not ready for a steady relationship with a complex, three-dimensional human being that is likely to surprise him more than once. Best case scenario, this will just be a lesson to him about controlling his reactions.
However, whenever you are dealing with an extremist, then do not show mercy because they will not. There is nothing extreme about doing whatever you have to in order to render an extremist incapable of hurting you.
This guy is almost certainly not an extremist. His reaction was too impulsive to fit the bill. I suspect that this will just be a lesson for him, and it is also a lesson that he needs to learn. When he gets older, he will probably have more self-control, and it will be partly because he learned this lesson. Later on in his life, he will make another woman very happy and very safe because he learned this lesson, and most likely, this lesson will make his life a better one and a more noble one than it would otherwise have been.
I just cannot find it in me to condemn someone that has had experience with extremists and are prejudiced toward erring on the side of assuming that someone can be an extremist. When you have run into one that has genuinely attempted to destroy everything about your life, then that experience never leaves you. Once someone that dangerous has become real to you, then it sticks.
I am confident that this guy is not an extremist and will just want to escape the situation, but if he is an extremist, get him behind bars if possible. You can never be safe as long as an extremist walks free. If he is an extremist, then change your address, change your phone number, change your name, and start applying for jobs in another state if you can't get him in jail. Fortunately, I think this situation is unlikely because he was impulsive, and extremists are not impulsive.
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