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What's Your Biggest Barrier To Meeting Others

Family is the main one, distance is another
It's hard to find an excuse to slip away for the time needed to travel to those that have offered.
 
Past experiences of betrayal, dishonesty, and trauma have led to a lack of confidence in others. I also have personality traits like a tendency to be suspicious of everything that seems too good. I have been here almost a year and have only talked to one person I would ever meet, but it took the whole year to start trusting them because they seemed too good to be true. Plus, they were everything I had been looking for and the first person I started talking to here. They reminded me so much of someone I'm still in love with in my past so I didn't trust my feelings. We have been talking this entire time, just getting to know each other. I expect nothing from them except friendship if we ever meet, just as I would any other person I meet in real life. The zoo site may have brought us together, but it's everything else that matters, and the zoo stuff will take care of itself.
 
It took me many years of shame ,guilt on this journey and I have come to terms with it and the acceptance. I really have trust issues with people who may or may not turn out to be as they say or talk. Frankly, I am really thinking why do I need to meet others, to gain that acceptance or approval? to gain specific knowledge? I am at a stage where I have accepted well, the knowledge/guides/notes are all possible to share and discuss online. Perhaps when I was starting out it was more appropriate but I was super paranoid, the trust factor and unknowns were much more back then. This is my view, of course all of my fears may vanish morrow and I might drop in at a zoo meet somewhere.
 
For me personally it's trust. Ive became an owner in the past year and ever sense more and more people have been interested in being "friends". It's doesn't take long to uncover that the majority want to be friends because I have a dog and hope to gain some experience.
 
We haven't met anyone trustworthy, yet. We've had a few conversations here with people that were waaaay too eager and had questionable post history. In our state (Florida) even possessing bestiality material carries the same penalty as CSA material.

We're cautious.
 
The chances are, people may have already unknowingly met others that indulge in this lifestyle when going about their daily business.
Understandably, such a thing is kept secret for good reasons, therefore I would say secrecy is the biggest barrier of all.
For those that are owners, they are mainly content with their own arrangements and don't want to meet others or share their companions.
For those searching or looking to break the barrier, you only have to read the comments in this post and other threads. Trust. Finding genuine people. The endless searching and being let down, or fantasists with no intention of meeting, are all a deterent, which in turn can lead to people giving up and another barrier put in place.
So many barriers, so little time. Especially with real every day issues being thrown into the mix as well to hinder progress in the search for someone's goal.
 
Knutshack said:
As the thread title says, what's your biggest barrier stopping you from meeting other zoos or getting experiences?

I know most people here aren't owners and are looking, but I mean providing you had the regular opportunity to have sex with animals, what would be the biggest barrier preventing you from meeting?

For example, parents? Family? Work? Not living alone? Etc.
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Im scared. At least in real life. I still feel kinda wrong about the attraction.
 
I trust too easy and it was starting to become a problem so I dialed it way back when BF went down. I liked seeing the best in people though so I'm trying to let new people into my life again. So I guess I haven't been able to trust myself to not trust others too readily. Which makes me wary and hard to connect with when I normally wouldn't be.
 
For me it’s just the travel and money really. When I can sort out both hopefully I’m set to meet others 😁 When it comes to trust I’ve gotten decent at telling who’s being genuine
 
A lot of things. I’m socially awkward when I meet someone new since I don’t know how to act around them. Most people are pretty far, I don’t have much time to go places, I don’t know any owners in my area, and I have a hard time physically opening up to other humans.
 
For me it would be distance and money. The closest zoo is about an hour away from me and a I usually have no extra $$$ after bills to meet up for a coffee or lunch. I want to get to know the person first and vice versa.
 
for me its so hard to find others in my area, and since it's illegal its just so dangerous to meet in the first place.
I'd love to make friends and meet up with someone I trust of course, and hopefully I could be friends with an owner of sorts who could help me explore these feelings I have (online or in person), but that's extremely secondary to trust and friendship.
I'd also rather have an animal partner of my own. I don't want to come across as wanting to use another's partner just for sex. I want to have a deep and personal connection to the owner and their animal partner if I even consider meeting up.
unfortunately I'm not sure if I'll ever be able to have a partner of my own without being caught.
 
Security and my schedule honestly. I’m poly and work full time, my schedule is fully booked most months. Plus, the anxiety of a potential sting operation is uh. Yea. Terrifying lol
 
DogsHorsesCows123 said:
I really can't stand the people that open conversations or quickly transition the conversation into one about meeting up and fucking (either myself or my dog). Some people don't have any awareness of how the other person, especially women, feels about the interaction. It's literally the exact same thing as going up to a stranger on the street and trying the same tactic.
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I understand your point, some people on here don’t have a lick of common sense or decency. Much less the proper skills to carry on a full conversation. However remember, you’re on a website dedicated to the subject of having sex and or “relationships” w/ animals. Getting upset w/ someone for getting right to the point about what they want is like working at Pizza Hut and getting pissed because someone orders a pizza 10 mins before closing. We are all here because we find pleasures in one way or another in having sex w/ animals. Again, these people may be idiots in how they vocalize their desires but you shouldn’t fault them for getting right to it. I constantly read about how people get annoyed at this site being treated like it’s a dating site, which I sorta can understand but again. We are all here, to find like minded people, people that enjoy sex w/ animals and other wonderfully pleasurable perversions that aren’t so easily had outside of this forum so what exactly do you think I want to talk about. If you want polite conversation that isn’t centered around having sex, then you should probably join a book club. This site is for people that enjoy sex W/ animals and those that enjoy them. Not a site to discuss the latest in home theater or the weather
 
Distance is a big one. Most of the people I talk to from here are in different states, and we can't just drop everything to go meet up because of the vast distances and different work/life schedules. But also, my general shyness and social awkwardness, coupled with not trusting random people on the internet easily/quickly. Also the feeling of potentially being lured into a trap, and getting into life ruining trouble, is not an easy feeling to shake off.
 
For me the main reason is trust and fear that the person will use it to blackmail me or share my illegal sexual urges to my friends and family. I’ve met up with one guy off here before, met in the pub for a drink and a chat in the quiet beer garden which was nice but the whole time planning the meet I kept thinking “am I being set up, is he a cop and is he gonna arrest me upon meeting” it’s very nerve wracking.
 
DogsHorsesCows123 said:
I really can't stand the people that open conversations or quickly transition the conversation into one about meeting up and fucking (either myself or my dog). Some people don't have any awareness of how the other person, especially women, feels about the interaction. It's literally the exact same thing as going up to a stranger on the street and trying the same tactic.
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I understand your point, some people on here don’t have a lick of common sense or decency. Much less the proper skills to carry on a full conversation. However remember, you’re on a website dedicated to the subject of having sex and or “relationships” w/ animals. Getting upset w/ someone for getting right to the point about what they want is like working at Pizza Hut and getting pissed because someone orders a pizza 10 mins before closing. We are all here because we find pleasures in one way or another in having sex w/ animals. Again, these people may be idiots in how they vocalize their desires but you shouldn’t fault them for getting right to it. I constantly read about how people get annoyed at this site being treated like it’s a dating site, which I sorta can understand but again. We are all here, to find like minded people, people that enjoy sex w/ animals and other wonderfully pleasurable perversions that aren’t so easily had outside of this forum so what exactly do you think I want to talk about. If you want polite conversation that isn’t centered around having sex, then you should probably join a book club. This site is for people that enjoy sex W/ animals and those that enjoy them. Not a site to discuss the latest in home theater or the weather
 
In my experience there seems to be an assumption that if your an owner that you will instantly be happy to share your dog with another, along with photos and videos. Many of the people looking for owners don't seem to grasp that owners already have what they seek. We don't need to share anything. The risk is mostly on us. They need convince us that they are trustworthy and suitable for us to share what is so precious with them.
 
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