Considering all the issues with being open, I think there are a lot of people who keep everything a super secret. For me it was a super secret with a big added dose of paranoia!
It took me a long time just to be brave enough to sign up for this forum. I lurked for a while, reading and wanting to tell you all some of my ideas and experiences but I was too nervous too
i think there are a lot of people out there like me, some are active, some dabbled and maybe some are just fantasy, but they would never tell a soul.
how do you count them?
This is probably true. I'm talking with someone I met on Reddit who reached out to me from a post I made in one of the hentia forums. Then she admitted to her turn on about this and even fantasy of taking a knot. She feels bad for having them, but it's there. She feels more comfortable knowing there are others with the fantasy and even active. I've shared a few responses from here (no names) and she feels better seeing them that there are woman doing her fantasy and that she is okay not weird for having them. She admitted it once to someone, I think online, and that person then started talking down to her, the usual degrading "slut, you're not worthy of respect because you want to fuck dogs" fantasy versus an equal and this is something that turns her on. Guess he tried to be a Dom, but it turned her off and scared her away from even admitting the fantasy to anyone and happy her and I can talk now. She's a professional, good job, well respected, and fears if anyone ever found out she even had thoughts of it or her other kinks. Tried to meet up with her for coffee when I was working in her area but timing didn't work with our schedules. She was partially excited to push herself to meet someone who knew and accepted her, but also scared that it puts faces to the words and the possible repercussions. So you are right, that there are probably many many more out there than any survey might guess, who have the even just thoughts, but never share them with anyone, except maybe if you kinda "corner them" like I did saying "hello, why did you like my comment to that post?" They lurk and think and have guilty pleasure fantasies.
In general, years ago, I was told it was much more common than people would think by a couple that shared their boy with women all the time, and introduced many women interested. Of course that was women into being knotted, which is more my thing and why I was talking to the husband about his wife and their female friends. I can't speak for men interested other than the jokes that have been said for years with sheep and seeing posts and my own curiosity that grew thanks to talking with women.
Since being more online the last 10-15 years bouncing between various areas out there and talking, there seemed to be a lot in the UK and Germany, maybe more in Germany (is it in our DNA, is my ancestry what made me curious and think of more kinks than exes liked?). Then here in the States it seemed to be Texas a few years back, and more recently everyone seems to be on the West Coast and California. Not sure why suddenly there seems to be a surge of women in specific areas over time, but it's maybe just me noticing and frustrated it's not near me! lol
But reading through the thread here has made the answer to the question more blurred for sure: is it their sexual orientation or is it just part of the kinkiness alone or shared with a partner. I might like a fleshlight, but it won't replace a woman. But it would make me probably closer to that woman is she used a fleshlight on me. Sort of my vision of this. I would wouldn't want to be replaced and be #2, but wouldn't mind sharing the experience together. But where does that have me fall in this survey? And like was mentioned here, any poll would be of those that actually would respond, how many would nod in agreement, but not click "yes" if they saw a poll?
