I agree with Pentalish though, it turns out to be a huge turn on if you can share kinks and the level of trust as well. Yes, it's dangerous. Someone may not be accepting and it could ruin a relationship buuuut i'd rather take that chance instead of living repressed and hiding a part of the things i like.
Obviously, it's not a need, but it's fun to be able to share and talk about things. I constantly reassure her and listen to her.
For example last night, she suggestively joked about riding a horse in a game we play together. This led to me asking her if she ever thought about sex with animals. She admitted that she thought about it in passing but never really consciously. I didnt press the issue further and i'm giving her time to get comfortable to think and talk about it. I hope that she will introduce some of it into the bedroom.
That said a bad dragon tentacle toy arrived that day. She enjoyed the fuck out of it last night. I told her we're getting a horse one next.