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What's Your Biggest Barrier To Meeting Others

Knutshack

Knutshack

Esteemed Citizen of ZV
As the thread title says, what's your biggest barrier stopping you from meeting other zoos or getting experiences?

I know most people here aren't owners and are looking, but I mean providing you had the regular opportunity to have sex with animals, what would be the biggest barrier preventing you from meeting?

For example, parents? Family? Work? Not living alone? Etc.
 
Currently I am sanctioned in my state, meaning if I leave I'd be officially a criminal. Reason is I owe a massive amount of medical debt that was dumped on me when I turned 18.

Luckily over the years ive been fighting this injustice in court. Im 22 now and my case is finally winning. Hopefully it will end soon, this debt has ruined my life and killed many opportunities for work and pleasure.

Even when I'm free money will be a problem for a while. But I hope to move and restart my life somewhere else. Hopefully closer to zoo friends I have who support my dream of having a dog wife. But we will see, it is too early to tell.
 
As an owner, the only problem I have meeting is.... who. My state has almost nothing to offer. 90% of interactions I've had here are other men asking for "a turn".
When i had my male I had a few women that turned up, but for the same. Wanting to try their first dog. I even humored a few of the men. But it's never a friendship they are looking for. Just a chance.

Now I'm a bit more picky about who I let actually get close. I want to chat for a while. If we hit it off, a meeting is cool. If I don't feel it there, that's where it stops.
 
Knutshack said:
As the thread title says, what's your biggest barrier stopping you from meeting other zoos or getting experiences?

I know most people here aren't owners and are looking, but I mean providing you had the regular opportunity to have sex with animals, what would be the biggest barrier preventing you from meeting?

For example, parents? Family? Work? Not living alone? Etc.
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Finding owners,
 
Jester said:
As an owner, the only problem I have meeting is.... who. My state has almost nothing to offer. 90% of interactions I've had here are other men asking for "a turn".
When i had my male I had a few women that turned up, but for the same. Wanting to try their first dog. I even humored a few of the men. But it's never a friendship they are looking for. Just a chance.

Now I'm a bit more picky about who I let actually get close. I want to chat for a while. If we hit it off, a meeting is cool. If I don't feel it there, that's where it stops.
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Even as a non owner I understand this and am often worried about meeting cause I don't want to come off as one of those kind of people. They tend to piss me off. I too am looking for legit friendships.
 
The fact that it’s illegal and I don’t want to be imprisoned. I don’t remember my states exact laws, but I know some of them your pets get seized and possibly even euthanized and some you’re forbidden from living with, working with, essentially even just being alone with an animal, for up to life. All that legality aside, I also work with animals for a living and love what I do, so if people knew, it could destroy my career due to their lack of trust in me.
 
Jester said:
As an owner, the only problem I have meeting is.... who. My state has almost nothing to offer. 90% of interactions I've had here are other men asking for "a turn".
When i had my male I had a few women that turned up, but for the same. Wanting to try their first dog. I even humored a few of the men. But it's never a friendship they are looking for. Just a chance.

Now I'm a bit more picky about who I let actually get close. I want to chat for a while. If we hit it off, a meeting is cool. If I don't feel it there, that's where it stops.
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This is how I am personally also. I don't want to chat with people simply because I am/they are an owner. It doesn't always have to be about sex/zoo talk. I would much rather gain trust and become a friend with someone rather than being just a fuck buddy/someone who's got an animal they can play with.
 
As a woman I’d have to jump to the obvious. I’d either be entering a strangers home, or a hotel/ air BnB. Some of the people I have dming me are people without dogs, just wanting to fuck me themselves. You’re putting a lot of trust in a stranger. Even if you meet them a few times prior. I’m not sure on how to guarantee once you enter their home, will they let you out again
 
irishzoogirl04 said:
As a woman I’d have to jump to the obvious. I’d either be entering a strangers home, or a hotel/ air BnB. Some of the people I have dming me are people without dogs, just wanting to fuck me themselves. You’re putting a lot of trust in a stranger. Even if you meet them a few times prior. I’m not sure on how to guarantee once you enter their home, will they let you out again
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I really can't stand the people that open conversations or quickly transition the conversation into one about meeting up and fucking (either myself or my dog). Some people don't have any awareness of how the other person, especially women, feels about the interaction. It's literally the exact same thing as going up to a stranger on the street and trying the same tactic.
 
DogsHorsesCows123 said:
I really can't stand the people that open conversations or quickly transition the conversation into one about meeting up and fucking (either myself or my dog). Some people don't have any awareness of how the other person, especially women, feels about the interaction. It's literally the exact same thing as going up to a stranger on the street and trying the same tactic.
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Exactly this. Some of them don’t want a genuine conversation or send weird pics right off the bat
 
irishzoogirl04 said:
Exactly this. Some of them don’t want a genuine conversation or send weird pics right off the bat
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Yep! I have no problems with pictures but not till later, dont open with that crap. Just out of pure curiosity when I get those messages, I will try and change the conversation into one thats more normal to see if they're a sane person, but they usually just dodge my questions/statements and goes back where they started. I consider myself pretty socially awkward but my god, some people are actually oblivious to how they talk to people on here.
 
It’s all about trust. I cannot imagine even considering meeting someone in real without a long process of getting to know them. Also. Something intimate would be an additional hurdle to overcome.

I don’t look at my Shepard as something to be shared, like a toy or an object. I am not saying I couldn’t get to that point, but I haven’t so far. It would take a lot of time to build that kind of trust
 
irishzoogirl04 said:
As a woman I’d have to jump to the obvious. I’d either be entering a strangers home, or a hotel/ air BnB. Sthisome of the people I have dming me are people without dogs, just wanting to fuck me themselves. You’re putting a lot of trust in a stranger. Even if you meet them a few times prior. I’m not sure on how to guarantee once you enter their home, will they let you out again
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Do you think it's more dangerous when it's dealing with people into more extreme things like zoo stuff? I feel like this would be a fear in any situation but the added factor of it being illegal probably adds to the fears, I would like to think that most people on here who are really interested and not scammers and fakes seem mostly really lovely people but that's just from the interactions I've had and I'm sure it's different for women
 
ausbeast420 said:
Do you think it's more dangerous when it's dealing with people into more extreme things like zoo stuff? I feel like this would be a fear in any situation but the added factor of it being illegal probably adds to the fears, I would like to think that most people on here who are really interested and not scammers and fakes seem mostly really lovely people but that's just from the interactions I've had and I'm sure it's different for women
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well women have been taken advantage of for far longer in history so they've developed a higher alertness. Although in recent years I see the rise in male alertness as well. The modern world doesn't discriminate who it will steal the lives of. I myself have been a victim of much injustice and so I am always weary of such interactions.

In terms of zoo. Yes it does become more dangerous as there are different levels seriousness in the sexuality. Some take it to extremes that others don't. Which can create very uncomfortable or hostile interactions. Which is why patience is key when meeting people.
 
BentoBox69 said:
well women have been taken advantage of for far longer in history so they've developed a higher alertness. Although in recent years I see the rise in male alertness as well. The modern world doesn't discriminate who it will steal the lives of. I myself have been a victim of much injustice and so I am always weary of such interactions
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I'm sorry to hear that man
 
Mainly i am rather anxious about leaving the state to meet someone for something like this. Haven’t found anyone close enough for it to feel reasonable.
 
Wanting to make an actual connection rather than be a means to an end, location, social anxiety, the number of fakes and weirdos, trust issues from being previously burned, and lastly wanting to meet a woman while having to break through the "men only want one thing" barrier perpetuated by previously mentioned weirdos.

Oh, and that 6 foot anthropomorphic wolf women don't exist, but I can move past that one.
 
Jester said:
As an owner, the only problem I have meeting is.... who. My state has almost nothing to offer. 90% of interactions I've had here are other men asking for "a turn".
When i had my male I had a few women that turned up, but for the same. Wanting to try their first dog. I even humored a few of the men. But it's never a friendship they are looking for. Just a chance.

Now I'm a bit more picky about who I let actually get close. I want to chat for a while. If we hit it off, a meeting is cool. If I don't feel it there, that's where it stops.
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New here and its kind of heartwrenching to read the language some humans use to talk about these beautiful individuals :(
 
In Australia there's just not many people in general, let alone single women, who are into zoo.

Add on all the trust and safety issues for both men and especially women (as irishzoogirl04 talks about in this thread) and it just feels impossible sometimes. It sucks :(

It would be great if there was a more popular site for talking with other zoos nearby as it's just too risky/difficult/statistically impossible to bring up being zoo in IRL dating (Or I'm just paranoid about safety)
 
irishzoogirl04 said:
As a woman I’d have to jump to the obvious. I’d either be entering a strangers home, or a hotel/ air BnB. Some of the people I have dming me are people without dogs, just wanting to fuck me themselves. You’re putting a lot of trust in a stranger. Even if you meet them a few times prior. I’m not sure on how to guarantee once you enter their home, will they let you out again
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I know it doesn't make it easier or excuse it but I hope the reality is it's a loud/assholish minority that do that, with the genuinely decent ones either being too respectful/shy to reach out or already being in a relationship.

It's shitty you have to deal with that as selfish assholes like that just makes things suck for everybody =/
 
darkwolf2k6 said:
Wanting to make an actual connection rather than be a means to an end, location, social anxiety, the number of fakes and weirdos, trust issues from being previously burned, and lastly wanting to meet a woman while having to break through the "men only want one thing" barrier perpetuated by previously mentioned weirdos.

Oh, and that 6 foot anthropomorphic wolf women don't exist, but I can move past that one.
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I am sooo ready to meet a 6-foot anthropomorphic wolf-woman.
 
i don't have any faith or hope left that io could not only meet someone, but to establish an intimate trusting relationship with. it is absolutely a hopeless endeavor. as well as any hopes for even just someone to have sex with is just not something i deem as a possibility anymore. i'm very stricken by this and am not dealing so well with it. much like so much more in my life that i've lost, it gets piled up in that place where i once thought a soul existed. i'm not so much depressed or sad, just as disappointed as a man trueely can be with himself and the choices i've made have been my own downfall. they will be my end, because in the end i am alone and nothing about me is worth much to anybody i suppose... i'm just saying, live as much as you can and try to stay strong when it all goes wrong. i hate to imagine anybody else ending up like me.
 
I'm cripplingly socially awkward and make situations uncomfortable for all involved, despite my best efforts at avoiding exactly that.
 
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