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Just be honest with people

I don't get a chance to come on here very often, so when I do, I answer my messages and make sure to politely explain about - and apologize for - the delay.
 
If I am to be totally honest...

I just want to find someone here and get married to her; zoo kink or not.

I'm just...worthless when it comes to competing with other men.
 
Kristy said:
I get the ones from guys who define a lesbian as a woman who hasn't met the right guy. Pretty insulting.
Even worse, they believe they are the guy who can make the difference. Pretty stupid.
Even, even worse, they believe all lesbians are actually bisexual and won't always admit it. Pretty moronic.
Fortunately, I do talk to a LOT of men in this site who are not this way.
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Please don't hate me for this, but I was TOTALLY *THAT GUY* when I was a teenager. ?
 
Pretty_Vixen said:
My other favourite is "How often do you fuck every day?" Imagine going up to a total stranger in a bar and saying that to them? :giggle: That's how I see us all on here, in a bar.
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My personal theory is that since this is a zoo forum. A lot of people assume that everyone here is a degenerate or something by default so that's why there is an increased number of them here. Same applies to furries
 
Mikhail43 said:
My personal theory is that since this is a zoo forum. A lot of people assume that everyone here is a degenerate or something by default so that's why there is an increased number of them here. Same applies to furries
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Why do people dislike furries?
 
Reconscope said:
Why do people dislike furries?
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I only speak for myself as I say this:
I do not have a hard hatred for Furries; I merely have a traumatic aversion to them. I once had my heart broken by a Furry back in 2011.
 
It's not so much as not being able to trust Furries, but more of...
Any furry simply reminds me of her.

God, I hate my disorder...
 
I always answer someone when they message unless no post history or they just piss me off. Those clowns I have no time for. Manners cost nothing and there is a line that you just don't cross on this forum.
 
BishiBashiSpecial said:
I always answer someone when they message unless no post history or they just piss me off. Those clowns I have no time for. Manners cost nothing and there is a line that you just don't cross on this forum.
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So very true. After all it only takes a couple seconds.
 
Reconscope said:
Looked it up... Dang i hate that disorder it limits your capacity to form close friends. Must be torture. How do you cope?
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Fantasies and escapism, but that really isn't coping.

I had a preprogrammed response to the question "how do you cope?"

I don't; I merely...survive it.
 
Reconscope said:
you try to make connections though against your disorder? Or its just unbearable to do that.
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Oh, I've tried. Some have fallen apart over the years, while a select few remained friends. I can count the number of friends I have with just 1 hand. But the problem is exacerbated with arguments and fallouts; the instant an argument happens, the anxiety kicks in, and I get the fight-or-flight response and cut contact with them.
If this happens when I have arguments and conflicts with just friends, imagine how much worse it is with women I'm attracted to...AND to the logical extent: partners. They've left me; my first 2 exes cheated on me, and the 3rd one straight-up abandoned me. None of them were the Furry, by the way...

Even worse is that the last 2 were zoos; my 3rd and most recent ex confided in me that she legit wanted to have sex with a real-life large breed of dog.

And now...here I am.
 
MareButtUddrrLovrr said:
Oh, I've tried. Some have fallen apart over the years, while a select few remained friends. I can count the number of friends I have with just 1 hand. But the problem is exacerbated with arguments and fallouts; the instant an argument happens, the anxiety kicks in, and I get the fight-or-flight response and cut contact with them.
If this happens when I have arguments and conflicts with just friends, imagine how much worse it is with women I'm attracted to...AND to the logical extent: partners. They've left me; my first 2 exes cheated on me, and the 3rd one straight-up abandoned me. None of them were the Furry, by the way...

Even worse is that the last 2 were zoos; my 3rd and most recent ex confided in me that she legit wanted to have sex with a real-life large breed of dog.

And now...here I am.
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just wow how at that moment you know who your real friends are (the ones still by your side dispite all this). its so wrong they betrayed you like that instead of being straight forward of how it isnt working out. all i can say is that WOW that sucks.
 
Im not even looking for a female user lol more for animal action but im not trying to be rude about it, i know people just ask for it straight up and stuff and most owners dont want to share which is also understandable, its more now that i see people are active recently and just still dont respond
 
Kristy said:
I get the ones from guys who define a lesbian as a woman who hasn't met the right guy. Pretty insulting.
Even worse, they believe they are the guy who can make the difference. Pretty stupid.
Even, even worse, they believe all lesbians are actually bisexual and won't always admit it. Pretty moronic.
Fortunately, I do talk to a LOT of men in this site who are not this way.
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Ouch.

I have to be honest with one thing:

I feel like I still am that kind of guy, to this day, however, with a few changes made over the years.
I still feel as if there are some lesbians who could possibly be bi, but instead of trying to challenge them on that, I've learned to just let them be and leave them alone. My personal and darkest regret is that part of me still clings to the vain hope that there is a woman in there that is the right person for me, and discovering that she's not into men at all tells me that's just 1 more woman on this planet that is off-limits, and I lose hope of finding the one that I was hoping would become my wife and/or long-term life partner.

What is also depressing is the conflict I feel in resolving the two stances within myself: the reality that this form of thinking is genuinely rude, vs. the despair it causes me in losing one more potential partner due to statistics. But in the end, what's really important is her happiness and her well-being.

I'll just have to accept that she'll never be a part of my life, and I'll never be part of her's.
 
I try to respond to all messages but it is difficult You have a point.
 
Aholes ruin it for the rest of the male population.... Being nice, period, gets you way farther than any other method but they still dont get it
 
ReddestRocket said:
theres been a few people now that ive messaged that just ignore my messages now and its like just tell me if i went to far or was annoying or whatever. id rather you tell me then just ignore every msg afterword, how hard is it to be a decent human being
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First and foremost, form is important.

Alot of people write like this:
"hi my Nam is blubdiblub.im nw to this and have no ixperinz what to cfangr this.can you helpp me"

If you do not put any effort into gramma, punktuation or or anything, I will put no effort into responding. I guess a lot of people feel this way.


Second, descretion. If you ask within the first sentence for sex, you won't get it ever.
 
ReddestRocket said:
theres been a few people now that ive messaged that just ignore my messages now and its like just tell me if i went to far or was annoying or whatever. id rather you tell me then just ignore every msg afterword, how hard is it to be a decent human being
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I know exactly what you mean. Happens on here, happens on other dating sites, and sadly happens in real life with friends even. Like if you're not interested in me or interested in talking to me just tell me. But at the same time it's a lot less work to ignore someone. And a lot less hassle, how many times have you heard horror stories about people losing their mind because somebody isn't interested in them.
 
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