Is anybody else just fuckin lonely?
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knotforme94
Tourist
I’m pretty lonely quite a bit if I’m being honest, but I think it’s also easy to feel lonely these days even when you have a lot of people around you. I‘ve always been someone where the few deep connections are going to outweighs a lot of superficial ones anyway, though. So here’s to deep connections!
Since 2015.
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cutensensual
Zooville Settler
Hugzz
NaughtySnep
Tourist
Very much so yeah, bored out of my mind and no one to talk to about fun stuff like this :/
OtterSupreme
Lurker
lol yeah
Bossmandad
Esteemed Citizen of ZV
In my non-zoo life no, in my zoo life yes 
ZooDogLover320
Citizen of Zooville
Same here buddy... its tough to truely get close with someone... anyone... because they can FEEL that there is a big part of your personality you are leaving out. Girls ive dated drilled me about "What kind of porn do you watch? What really? Everyone has their go-to best porn"
Its not really fair to people to live such a lie, deep down knowing you can never truly let them in.
Its not really fair to people to live such a lie, deep down knowing you can never truly let them in.
Puhp
Esteemed Citizen of ZV
Go figure, we've got a part of our sexualities that doesn't play well with polite society. And for every misanthrope and hermit who feels better off being seperated from society, there are the rest of us who yearn for connection - familial, social, sexual - and yet, cannot connect in a meaningful and complete way while, at the same time, having to hide a significant part of our sexualities. And as arousing as all of this is, it's still something we need to come to terms with: that it's normal, natural, and exciting for us. It doesn't have to be for anyone else (though it should be for our partners), and we need not divulge this part of ourselves to everyone... but it can be fatiguing to have to live a life with an important part hidden, especially from the people with whom you should be able to share this side of yourself.
And, to be fair, I think that's very compelling support for a place like this. It's much more than just a place to get your rocks off. It's a place to interact with others who have the same very real, and very taboo side to themselves, yet don't necessarily feel the need to explore and express and enjoy it all the time. FFS, we've got threads where we're simply counting numbers, adding to the current and maybe putting a little creativity or chat into the thread. Why? Because it reminds us that we're normal, that we're among friends, that we can thrive as individuals, but that - as social creatures - we need some connection, too. Living as a zoo can be very lonely, the threat of ostracism or being found out is one thing, but the idea that you could lose your lover, your home, your family, your livelihood, and your freedom for this solitary part of our sexualities... That's a lot of weight on a simple thing.
So, yeah, come, participate. Play. Come on over to the counting thread or hang in the Fun 'n Games section and find something new. You'll be surrounded by all manner of people from all around the globe, all of whom have some place for these things in their hearts, as well as recognize the need for connection. Even a curmudgeon or two - railing from their caves about separation and privacy and how awful humanity - are doing so here, as a part of a larger sub-society, even if it is a microcosm.
And, to be fair, I think that's very compelling support for a place like this. It's much more than just a place to get your rocks off. It's a place to interact with others who have the same very real, and very taboo side to themselves, yet don't necessarily feel the need to explore and express and enjoy it all the time. FFS, we've got threads where we're simply counting numbers, adding to the current and maybe putting a little creativity or chat into the thread. Why? Because it reminds us that we're normal, that we're among friends, that we can thrive as individuals, but that - as social creatures - we need some connection, too. Living as a zoo can be very lonely, the threat of ostracism or being found out is one thing, but the idea that you could lose your lover, your home, your family, your livelihood, and your freedom for this solitary part of our sexualities... That's a lot of weight on a simple thing.
So, yeah, come, participate. Play. Come on over to the counting thread or hang in the Fun 'n Games section and find something new. You'll be surrounded by all manner of people from all around the globe, all of whom have some place for these things in their hearts, as well as recognize the need for connection. Even a curmudgeon or two - railing from their caves about separation and privacy and how awful humanity - are doing so here, as a part of a larger sub-society, even if it is a microcosm.
Mike_Hawksard83
Lurker
Lack of desire for human connection and tired of being afraid to be open about this "fetish", or "kink" if you will, is why I came here to this community, finally. I just desire to connect socially and personally with like minded folk. I wish I knew of a community local to me that I could spend time with and chat face to face. Learning how to approach the conversation or try to see if they are comfortable with the subject of zoo. Because I, like many others I'm sure, yearn for a relationship with a woman who is a doggy girl as I am a doggy guy. It would be nice to have that in common and neither of us have to hide it in shame from the other. I'm babbling sorry. Yeah I'm lonely and thank you ZooVille for having me.
Yeah life is hard. Ideally, I want to find someone close to me (even just the UK not a city near me, or planning to move here), close in age, who's at least open to zoo, shares my fetishes, shares my sex drive, shares my interests and hobbies who I can live a fulfilling life with.
The chance of that is so unlikely and it makes me feel shitty. My sexuality and desires are a huge part of me unfortunately and I will never be fully happy with someone who isn't up for near enough everything I want.
Being trans only shrinks the pool further TT.
Worse still being 19 and most people are still exploring themselves.
The chance of that is so unlikely and it makes me feel shitty. My sexuality and desires are a huge part of me unfortunately and I will never be fully happy with someone who isn't up for near enough everything I want.
Being trans only shrinks the pool further TT.
Worse still being 19 and most people are still exploring themselves.
I'm in the same boat dude
Panda Chen
Zooville Settler
I feel alone a lot. I'm not made like other people. I have never been great at making human connections and most of the people I have cared deeply about have either hurt me or left my life or died. I do have a few people that I care about still but I am the strong one that others rely on and I don't let others take care of me. I don't have time or energy for others like I used to. People want things from you and I only have so much and less all the time. Even when I fall apart I can't just fall apart completely because I still have to do what I need to do to keep things running and to take care of people. Except now I'm running thin but I keep going and hold up what I can. Because that's what I do.
rockymountaindog
Citizen of Zooville
I think lately I have felt more alone than I usually have in the past. With coming more to terms with my zoosexuallity and making zoo friends I have disconnected myself more from others. I find it difficult to be around my old normal friends that I have had for years and they can see it in me. Right now for myself I am figuring out what my old friends mean to me and how to reconnect with them. It is a struggle and each day I feel like I'm becoming more distant from all the people in my life.
Puhp
Esteemed Citizen of ZV
This can be a really lonely, alienating aspect of everyzoo's life. And it can not only drive us apart from non-zoos, it can also make us anti-social in general, and alienating from everyone else. This isn't helpful, it's harmful, and harboring such a secret can have real, lasting and incredibly detrimental impact on one's mental health, as well as their relationships. Especially if one doesn't have an intimate zoo relationship where they can express themselves fully and interact with another person who knows and accepts and ideally embraces zoo.
I've found it helpful to - if you can - attempt to shift your perspective on your own sexuality: consider how we generally don't explicitly share our sexualities with others, how it's inappropriate to do so (not that it's impossible, mind you, just socially inappropriate). Thus, you're keeping your zooishness to yourself the same way you keep other explicit sexuality to yourself - because it's not entirely appropriate to share.
That and come and interact and be in places where your zoosexuality is accepted and less of a big deal - like this online community. Try to interact, especially in places that don't focus on the zoo stuff so much, but are simply a part of it tangentially. And try to foster community and togetherness and acceptance, rather than further derisiveness, derision and hate.
It helps. Granted, it's a bandaid on cancer, but it does help.
I've found it helpful to - if you can - attempt to shift your perspective on your own sexuality: consider how we generally don't explicitly share our sexualities with others, how it's inappropriate to do so (not that it's impossible, mind you, just socially inappropriate). Thus, you're keeping your zooishness to yourself the same way you keep other explicit sexuality to yourself - because it's not entirely appropriate to share.
That and come and interact and be in places where your zoosexuality is accepted and less of a big deal - like this online community. Try to interact, especially in places that don't focus on the zoo stuff so much, but are simply a part of it tangentially. And try to foster community and togetherness and acceptance, rather than further derisiveness, derision and hate.
It helps. Granted, it's a bandaid on cancer, but it does help.
Panda Chen
Zooville Settler
Most humans are judgmental about something. People tend to like to think they are better than others.
rockymountaindog
Citizen of Zooville
100% agree with this. I encourage those here to find an outlet in which they can express themselves. Spent my life avoiding interacting with other zoos and just going through it alone. It ate me up and I'm still dealing with the effects almost a year later after finally reaching out.
TheRodofGod
Tourist
Times have been wild and getting more wild. Be kind and patient with yourself. Find the joy. Stay in it.
lutraphile
Tourist
Pretty lonely at times, I haven't been good at keeping in touch with friends the last few years. Besides I know nobody IRL I feel comfortable talking about how I feel in general, and especially not zoo stuff. And I have felt since forever I need to work on myself before getting into a relationship, zooey or otherwise. So here I am I suppose
I'm here. for real. Divorced as well.
jedro
Citizen of Zooville
Love meeting as well.