I very much agree that the art of conversation has degraded. People used to write letters to each other every day. Heartfelt, thoughtful letters. Deep poetic thoughts, lovingly, sprawled on pieces of parchment. They would do that for people they weren’t even in serious relationships with. Now you get people who are supposedly deeply and madly in love that barely speak to each other in a week living under the same roof.
You're nicer than I am if that's your mentality. I'll waste their time because I don't chat with people out of the blue. My sexy chats are a little bit tailored and require familiarity so I don't bother fostering it if I don't see it going anywhere.
Ehh. If they just give off bad vibes then I’ll play dumb for forever and just keep joking around. But if I’m in the mood and they don’t seem that bad, sure I’ll indulge a bit. I have random conversations with people all the time on here. I got my core friend group that I prioritize messaging and then I’ll dip into the “getting to know you” group of messages and then the random messages that people have sent me out of the blue. Never know when you might find a new bestie or something. My current bestie on here messaged me out of the blue and now he’s a bff.
Yeah it feels like most conversations fizzle out after the initial basic questions are asked. Being able to flow a conversation from one thing to the next or step outside the bounds of specific question/answer dynamics can be rather tricky. Especially if you’re the one putting forth most of the effort. For me, I currently have a couple guy friends that I truly enjoy chatting with that I consider good friends. I have 2 female friends that I consider good friends too. But the vast majority of conversations on here are with guys. Just because I’m much to afraid/awkward to message anyone first and typically I’m not sure that other women message first either.
Conversation comes and goes as people do. Life happens, but I have a few consistent friends. I agree that you never what might comes of something, but usually you know pretty well from the first few messages. Not being in the "hot girl club" means I get fewer messages though
Too true. Usually after the first handful of messages, you know if that person is gonna amount to anything in your online life. I’ve had some people start off real strong with great conversation and then it just degrades in quality so fast you wonder if they got taken out by the fed and now I’m just chatting with some random agent who hasn’t seen the sun or another human in years.Conversation comes and goes as people do for. Life happens, but I have a few consistent friends. I agree that you never what might comes of something, but usually you know pretty well from the first few messages. Not being in the "hot girl club" means I get fewer messages though
Most of the messages I receive are from men who don't read my profile and/or assume I'm a cis female. I don't bother much with those or the lurkers without a profile that are pushy in conversation. I probably message equally as many queer men as women (and NBs) but tbh I'm not that fond of using the site for messaging and I find some of the limitations to hinder progressing the conversation/level of familiarity. With about 6 people here I've moved over to talking on a secure chat platform when we both were comfortable with it.
That reminds me of being around my straight friends. One chick shows up to the party and suddenly she's the most interesting person on the planet.
Isn’t that just how it always goes. Any relatively attractive women enters most any situation or place and all the lonely horny dudes flock over for a crumb of attention.
I think it’s a universal problem. People imagine running online into the most ideal person ever born and they keep skipping over normal humans in the hope of finding that fantasy. To me, the normal ones are just as fascinating. I’ve known very few zoo super-humans. Most are just ordinary ones with fantasies and little experience but I like em. Lol
For sure. People will skip normal people who they could actually build something with or just have fun passing time with. I’ve been told so many times that I’m a waste of someone’s time because I won’t meet them or fuck them irl. Like, ok. So anyone in their life that they don’t put their dick in is a waste of time. Got it, no need for friends or people to just pass some time with. Must be a very lonely life. People will hyper focus only on what they want and miss out on just having fun or enjoying normal people online company. I always feel that people that claim to be zoo superstars with all kinds of experience are usually just lying anyways. It’s like getting messages by someone saying they’re an 18 year old girl with all kinds of kinky desires and experiences on here. Like, yeah, sure dude. Whatever you say.
most of the most amazing zoo chat friends I had there was zero chance of ever meeting for real. One was a rich doctor’s 50-something bored and neglected housewife, desperate for a thrill. One was a 24 yo nurse who has done all the taboos you would think of first. One was a chubby middle aged Mexican catholic guy with secret lusts. One was an American teacher in Brazil who’s tried more animals than anyone I ever heard of. He and his whole family. None of them were porn stars. You’d glance over them easily at first glance in a chat room. But each was amazing as a chat friend and we remained in touch sometimes for years. They become interesting as friends. Not just as sex objects.
