40+ years marrage and I began cluing her in on my interests in the first year, once I was certain she was 'THE ONE'. She was against it at the time, partly because she was an animal cruelty investigator for the Humane Society at the time and just couldn't make the two mindsets work together. But I play the long game, and a couple of months ago, in the middle of foreplay, she blurted out that she wanted to give a stallion a 'hand job'. I'm assuming she only said it to ramp me up higher, but hey, PROGRESS... God I love that woman!