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How do you guys deal with the loneliness?

Conversation on this forum helped me a lot when I was lonely. After a while I went looking for a local zoo friend and actually ended up finding my boyfriend here. I don't know if it's that easy for everyone (especially the straight guys) but talking to people does help either way.
 
I'll let you know when I find something that works lol. To be honest in regards to relationships I'm torn between finding myself a normie and hiding this part of myself or trying to find myself a partner who is also into zoo. The latter appears to be a unicorn lol.
 
ninety9ninety said:
I'm basically coming to terms with the unlikelihood of meeting a partner with the same shared interests and understanding. It hurts to sort of live a lie like that but I guess that's how it has to be. How do you guys manage to deal with not having someone who shares the same interest as you? I'm mainly talking Zoophilia related but it could be something else too I suppose.
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What loneliness?
 
420Fatty said:
Forums and knowing that nothing lasts forever. Eventually we'll get back to life as usual and we won't have to be so alone.
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I would caution against seeing this as thoroughly deterministic. That is likely to be the case, yes, but only because we bother to continuously complain about how zoophiles are being treated, lately. The non-zoos out there that are not complete narcissistic sociopaths will eventually hear us broadly enough to start putting a damper on the witch-hunt's sense of moral authenticity. We have to keep reaching out like many of us have been trying to do for the message to eventually chip its way through. It is almost a certainty that we will eventually get past the late witch-hunt, but we must be active agents in that certainty actually coming to pass. It doesn't just happen on its own because of the orientation of the planets.
 
SigmatoZeta said:
I would caution against seeing this as thoroughly deterministic. That is likely to be the case, yes, but only because we bother to continuously complain about how zoophiles are being treated, lately. The non-zoos out there that are not complete narcissistic sociopaths will eventually hear us broadly enough to start putting a damper on the witch-hunt's sense of moral authenticity. We have to keep reaching out like many of us have been trying to do for the message to eventually chip its way through. It is almost a certainty that we will eventually get past the late witch-hunt, but we must be active agents in that certainty actually coming to pass. It doesn't just happen on its own because of the orientation of the planets.
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......I was talking about when a vaccine comes out.
 
Pillar said:
Um... what you said wasn't "preference" - what you said is that you don't condone mix racing. That's not a preference.
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Yeah I don't condone it. Like I've mentioned before on this site, you think due to your sexual interest in animals thats deemed immoral by society, that means have all morals go out of the window. I don't condone it and I have no attraction to other races, its both a preference and a moral belief of mine. Boo fucking hoo. Get over it.
 
FloofyNewfie said:
Indeed, @420Fatty comment came from this thread → HERE.

Where she basically stated that she doesn't "condone race mixing."

Personally, if I were to ever land myself into a human-on-human relationship, I don't care about race. I'd care about trustworthiness and personality.
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Good to know you freaks stalk my posts lmao I'm not denying anything I've said btw, I stand by proud by my choices and what I've wrote, fucking weirdos.
 
jellybean56 said:
Good to know you freaks stalk my posts lmao I'm not denying anything I've said btw, I stand by proud by my choices and what I've wrote, fucking weirdos.
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Posting some racist bullshit in a heavily trafficked area of the forum for anyone to to see and regulars to remember, Is not stalking. It does amuse me that you think anyone here cares enough about you to stalk you. Clearly you think more highly of yourself than anyone else does.

Let's be real, The best thing about you is your avatar.
 
jellybean56 said:
Good to know you freaks stalk my posts lmao I'm not denying anything I've said btw, I stand by proud by my choices and what I've wrote, fucking weirdos.
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Yeah... umm... I'm not stalking you, I just happen to remember the thread where you stated your position. I remember it mainly because of the shitstorm it kicked up.

I didn't even click on your profile to find it, I clicked on the section "the dumpster fire" to do so.
 
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Over time I have had one human partner, and I assume she was non-zoo: she didn't say and I didn't ask. It was nice for the time the relationship lasted, but since then I haven't had human partners, something that I lamented at the time, but now - in my 40s - I do acknowledge the likelihood that this is how it is going to be for me. It doesn't mean that I will refuse human partners, but I also won't actively seek them out. After all, it is tricky to be in a relationship with a human partner if you have to keep your zoo love secret because you know asking about it might very well crash and burn your relationship, if not more.

Of course, you could then suggest me to look for human partners who are already openly zoo, but for me it doesn't work that way. I didn't end up in a relationship with my then-girlfriend because she was straight and female. We ended up dating because of the whole person, her ways of doing things, witty remarks, etc. If for instance I had been gay or she had been lesbian, we still would have been close friends, but then without the sexual aspect.

On finding a zoophile girlfriend - or at least a girlfriend who is ok with me doing overtime in my mare's stable - I fear that the attitude "we are both into zoo / tolerant of zoo" is one aspect of finding the right human partner, but us both being zoo doesn't automatically mean that we will like the whole of the individuals that we are. So, I rather get to know the individual first before the chat drifts towards the stable escapades.

And that's where I think the problem is: when I would search a human partner 'out there' in the non-zoo world, chances that she would be tolerant of zoo are slim (and I don't know if I would dare to ask). If I would search a human partner here, chances are - due to the set-up and the expectations on this forum - that any relationship would be focused on being zoo, without any exploration of the individuals behind the zoophiles that we are.
 
AppleDash said:
Over time I have had one human partner, and I assume she was non-zoo: she didn't say and I didn't ask. It was nice for the time the relationship lasted, but since then I haven't had human partners, something that I lamented at the time, but now - in my 40s - I do acknowledge the likelihood that this is how it is going to be for me. It doesn't mean that I will refuse human partners, but I also won't actively seek them out. After all, it is tricky to be in a relationship with a human partner if you have to keep your zoo love secret because you know asking about it might very well crash and burn your relationship, if not more.

Of course, you could then suggest me to look for human partners who are already openly zoo, but for me it doesn't work that way. I didn't end up in a relationship with my then-girlfriend because she was straight and female. We ended up dating because of the whole person, her ways of doing things, witty remarks, etc. If for instance I had been gay or she had been lesbian, we still would have been close friends, but then without the sexual aspect.

On finding a zoophile girlfriend - or at least a girlfriend who is ok with me doing overtime in my mare's stable - I fear that the attitude "we are both into zoo / tolerant of zoo" is one aspect of finding the right human partner, but us both being zoo doesn't automatically mean that we will like the whole of the individuals that we are. So, I rather get to know the individual first before the chat drifts towards the stable escapades.

And that's where I think the problem is: when I would search a human partner 'out there' in the non-zoo world, chances that she would be tolerant of zoo are slim (and I don't know if I would dare to ask). If I would search a human partner here, chances are - due to the set-up and the expectations on this forum - that any relationship would be focused on being zoo, without any exploration of the individuals behind the zoophiles that we are.
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Don't give up looking on here. Just make it clear you want to date and get to know her then.
 
I have a non-zoo partner. Even then I feel like it gets lonely. My partner knows, and I guess its hard to ever feel like someone who doesn't have this feeling can understand you the way you want to be understood, but we never really get to understand people completly anyways. I thought I needed a zoo partner, but as others have said, there is a lot more to a relationship than this one facet, and you just cant build a relationship on just that one thing, there is chemistry that has to happen. Now I am just looking for zoo friends to talk to, and see what things we as a community have in common.

A side note. If you are having a hard time, depressed, feeling lonely, seek out therapy. You don't have to be open and out about this exactly, but you can still get help with the feelings you feel.

I also have listened to soom of the zooier than thou pod cast, watched the 2007 movie Zoo, and am reading through Uniquely Dangerous. Surounding yourself with stories of other zoos, while often tragidies, has helped me feel less alone.
 
ninety9ninety said:
I'm basically coming to terms with the unlikelihood of meeting a partner with the same shared interests and understanding. It hurts to sort of live a lie like that but I guess that's how it has to be. How do you guys manage to deal with not having someone who shares the same interest as you? I'm mainly talking Zoophilia related but it could be something else too I suppose.
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Well, a good suggestion would be, get yourself a dog?
 
I sorta went through a crisis surrounding this issue myself recently… being single for almost 7 years and having a girl I really liked suddenly ghost me on top of not having any animal companions of my own was really killing me.
Accepting my zoo nature seems to have been the turning point, that and the promise of a new puppy entering my life soon ? but yeah I’m sure I’ll still be lonely.
The thing is that human partners seldom satisfy all of our social needs anyways; most of us are better off with a network of people. It sure takes a lot of pressure off of a relationship… I don’t see myself ever needing a wife/partner as long as I can have a female dog companion/mate and a throng of my hippie friends around me ?
 
I mean, to me it's easy. Do you normally go around telling people that you love masturbating? Do you share all your kinks and fetishes with the world? Probably not. There are some things that are just private "you" things. Personally I'm used to it, I have a bunch of kinks/taboos/fetishes even outside of this. And it helps that for each of my sexually frowned upon by society interests I've managed to find some site/forum/community online like this to share the interest with others.
 
I draw the girls and whatever creatures I'm attracted to; either draw them as they are (how I see them), or draw them getting fucked.
 
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