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How do you guys deal with the loneliness?

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ninety9ninety

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I'm basically coming to terms with the unlikelihood of meeting a partner with the same shared interests and understanding. It hurts to sort of live a lie like that but I guess that's how it has to be. How do you guys manage to deal with not having someone who shares the same interest as you? I'm mainly talking Zoophilia related but it could be something else too I suppose.
 
It just takes time to accept. It would be great to have a zoo bf but the personals section is almost exclusively people that just want to get fucked by a pet then leave. I want a relationship. So my goal is to fall in love with someone that will accept my philias. I don't expect them to participate. That's all I need
 
I would love to settle down with a woman and have a human-to-human relationship. But I highly doubt that will happen anytime soon, as I'm very picky over my human partners. I've seen it too many times where an ex ended up outing and exposing their former partners due to retaliation from the breakup.

Not only that, but sans an intellectual conversation, my doggy girls give me all the love and attention I need. Especially my Newfoundland girl. It's hard to be lonely when I'm so madly in love with her. If only she could talk to me verbally, I would be 100% satisfied.
 
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i just pull a BIGGG nope to humans so far. if there is a risk of them rejecting you and losing everything you worked for when a relationship ends usually your world does. im not opening myself up to another person due to that.
 
My biggest fear is my partner finding out and then using it as blackmail/against me later. Human relationships are nice but I would love to share that beast connection too. You see some of those vids of husband and wife having the best time ever together as they play with their dogs- I crave a relationship like that.

honestly how I deal with not having that connection in real life? Spending lots of time on places like this, chatting about zoo fetishes and desires. It's the best outlet I'm gonna get without any serious personal risk.
 
that's the one thing i don't envy non-exclusives... i live with 3 dogs and can't really say i ever feel lonely and this site seems to be enough as far as interaction with the like-minded goes. gotta admit tho, ever hearing "i love you" back is a lovely thought...
 
Maybe I can give another perspective.
I'm married to a man who is not zoo and not particularly interested in the desires I have. But he is always loving, understanding and even allows me to vent my thoughts, feelings, and new things I have learned about zoo.

To me, this is enough. We have not exactly crossed the bridge of us thinking about a dog and any conflicts that may cause, but I guess what I am trying to say is that if you desire human connection and contact, don't give up on it! Dating is hard, but remember everyone is allowed to live their own lives and not 100% everything has to be shared all the time. The key is to meet someone you connect with on multiple levels and who can accept you for who you are.

My 2¢
 
For me home and work life are normally a big enough distraction, but loneliness can set in when the dogs and I go on holiday. It's great to switch off from life and get close with the dogs, but beautiful moments like sitting on a beach with a beer and watching the sun set, I wish I had a human partner to share these with, maybe some day...
 
Don't be so pessimistic, put yourself out there, be patient, you never know who may come along someday to fulfil things with you. Otherwise yeah most of us are alone in it, we do have to keep it secret, but I think its similar to how most people keep their fetishes and love lives to themselves, but also see it as you're free to explore as you wish by yourself, no hold backs.
 
jellybean56 said:
Don't be so pessimistic, put yourself out there, be patient, you never know who may come along someday to fulfil things with you. Otherwise yeah most of us are alone in it, we do have to keep it secret, but I think its similar to how most people keep their fetishes and love lives to themselves, but also see it as you're free to explore as you wish by yourself, no hold backs.
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I've noticed that when I embrace alone time it starts to get almost addictive. Its totally the freedom to be myself and do whatever I like. of course it would be awesome to be 'out' and be accepted by someone else for it, but having a personal interest to explore isn't terrible either- think of it like a hobby.
 
As someone with a disorder, I've never exactly adapted to being alone.
 
It is difficult.
I would say keep your self open to the possibilities but be smart about it.
I would recommend the chat but too many there who will use someone looking for love if they are not super careful.
You deffinitly run the risk of falling for someone who is just using you or loveing someone who does not want you as a partner.
Love is always a risk. It is worth it but it is difficult and takes a lot of work and effort and also caution.
Don't believe people who say they love you. Decide by how they act and treat you. Actions speak more true than words, anyone can say they love you that is easy but who actually is there for you.
 
Today was pretty tough. Porn and other is how I have been dealing. I don't recommend that. I was good until I lost my job due to covid19. I finally found another job that is gonna pay pretty close to what I was making so hopefully that will help.
 
Bucephalus said:
Maybe I can give another perspective.
I'm married to a man who is not zoo and not particularly interested in the desires I have. But he is always loving, understanding and even allows me to vent my thoughts, feelings, and new things I have learned about zoo.

To me, this is enough. We have not exactly crossed the bridge of us thinking about a dog and any conflicts that may cause, but I guess what I am trying to say is that if you desire human connection and contact, don't give up on it! Dating is hard, but remember everyone is allowed to live their own lives and not 100% everything has to be shared all the time. The key is to meet someone you connect with on multiple levels and who can accept you for who you are.

My 2¢
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Sorry he doesn't share your interest but really glad you have someone so supporting
 
ninety9ninety said:
I'm basically coming to terms with the unlikelihood of meeting a partner with the same shared interests and understanding. It hurts to sort of live a lie like that but I guess that's how it has to be. How do you guys manage to deal with not having someone who shares the same interest as you? I'm mainly talking Zoophilia related but it could be something else too I suppose.
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A: by telling my husband I was a zoo when I first started dating him. He had his little tantrum, I called him infantile, we said our words, and we ended up getting married, anyway. I just stormed through and stayed assertive. I don't need a zoophile if I am looking for a romantic partner who is human. I can do zoophilia by myself with my own animal. An animal is not necessary for me to enjoy a human. I only need my human to not be a ridiculous infant about other dimensions of my sexuality.

B: for Platonic friendship with other zoos, I am just making local friends who happen to be zoos. It's easy.
 
Forums and knowing that nothing lasts forever. Eventually we'll get back to life as usual and we won't have to be so alone.

Also, seriously, so many people are into beast it's kinda weird to not be. Don't give up so soon. I'm easily one of the most depressed and lonely people in this place yet I'm far from giving up on finding a lover that's into the same things I am. There's 7 fucking billion people on this planet, If you're giving up it's because you're weak. :giggle:
 
jellybean56 said:
Don't be so pessimistic, put yourself out there, be patient, you never know who may come along someday to fulfil things with you. Otherwise yeah most of us are alone in it, we do have to keep it secret, but I think its similar to how most people keep their fetishes and love lives to themselves, but also see it as you're free to explore as you wish by yourself, no hold backs.
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Yeah! Just make sure they're the same race as you, right?
 
ninety9ninety said:
I'm basically coming to terms with the unlikelihood of meeting a partner with the same shared interests and understanding. It hurts to sort of live a lie like that but I guess that's how it has to be. How do you guys manage to deal with not having someone who shares the same interest as you? I'm mainly talking Zoophilia related but it could be something else too I suppose.
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I mean, I’m struggling to deal with not having someone period. Finding a partner in general is hard enough for me... finding a zoo partner would be like winning the lottery at this point. But I push on, because it’s the only thing I can do. I’ll find someone at some point.
Rev216 said:
It just takes time to accept. It would be great to have a zoo bf but the personals section is almost exclusively people that just want to get fucked by a pet then leave. I want a relationship. So my goal is to fall in love with someone that will accept my philias. I don't expect them to participate. That's all I need
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Yeah, that’s why I don’t use dating sites or the personals. I don’t want a one-night stand; I want a relationship, dammit! Zoo or not!
 
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