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Are you a submissive or dominant?

MDF-MS said:
In all fairness, you have to be very, very short and thin for a question like that to happen.
That or the dead starfish is so loose below that doing her would be like slamming your first in a 5 gallon bucket filled with lukewarm water.
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I, unfortunately, have experienced the latter. Twice. I have NO idea what was(n't) going on in their heads but "enthusiasm" didn't seem to be anywhere in the same zip code.

One was thoroughly satisfied, the other might as well have been a poorly made fleshlight for all the effort.

I could never make sense of the dead starfish approach. *shrugs*
 
MDF-MS said:
If "the dead starfish" happened to you multiple times, you should start thinking about why you lack the ability to have your sex partners be enthusiastic when having sex with you.
Just saying.
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That's a definite minority of partners.

One of the two dated a friend of mine for a while well after we'd had our... interaction. He had a similar experience.

It seemed like she was expecting to simply "receive" sex like a car gets a tire change or something?

However enjoyable or awkward, there's always been some kind of communication, interaction, etc. But for a completely sober, experienced adult human to drive to my place, walk upstairs, undress, and just lie there... it's just a whole mindset I didn't engage with. Even kisses were like dead-fish handshakes.

I guess why bother if that's the level of motivation to begin with?
 
knotagentleman said:
That's a definite minority of partners.

One of the two dated a friend of mine for a while well after we'd had our... interaction. He had a similar experience.

It seemed like she was expecting to simply "receive" sex like a car gets a tire change or something?

However enjoyable or awkward, there's always been some kind of communication, interaction, etc. But for a completely sober, experienced adult human to drive to my place, walk upstairs, undress, and just lie there... it's just a whole mindset I didn't engage with. Even kisses were like dead-fish handshakes.

I guess why bother if that's the level of motivation to begin with?
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That would be so fucking boring on so many levels.
But I'm gonna do it tonight, just lie on the bed with my arms and legs wide and wait to be served.
Even gonna squeeze in a "you done yet?" after a few minutes.
 
MDF-MS said:
That would be so fucking boring on so many levels.
But I'm gonna do it tonight, just lie on the bed with my arms and legs wide and wait to be served.
Even gonna squeeze in a "you done yet?" after a few minutes.
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I feel like I owe your S.O. a beer after inadvertently suggesting it.

Please extend my apologies.

On tbe flip side of the problem, my current partner completely loses her mind when we're going at it. Almost distractingly so. Digs nails in, writhes on the bed/surface/etc., bites the pillow, bites me (that's nice actually) but at some point convulses as climax approaches.

Haven't been together long but I'm hoping it dials down from 11 to maybe 7 or 8? I haven't had much issue with my past partners thoroughly enjoying our engagements, but *damn*. Maybe it's just because she hasn't had the best partners in the past - think it might tone down as she gets used to our particulars? *headscratch*

Humans on this planet are weird.
 
knotagentleman said:
I feel like I owe your S.O. a beer after inadvertently suggesting it.

Please extend my apologies.
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I don't know if I can play that part too good for it to appear real, so don't worry about him.
knotagentleman said:
On tbe flip side of the problem, my current partner completely loses her mind when we're going at it. Almost distractingly so. Digs nails in, writhes on the bed/surface/etc., bites the pillow, bites me (that's nice actually) but at some point convulses as climax approaches.

Haven't been together long but I'm hoping it dials down from 11 to maybe 7 or 8? I haven't had much issue with my past partners thoroughly enjoying our engagements, but *damn*. Maybe it's just because she hasn't had the best partners in the past - think it might tone down as she gets used to our particulars? *headscratch*

Humans on this planet are weird.
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Trust me on this, it won't dial down.
Been with my guy for over a decade, and his shoulders are filled with bite marks, and his back has enough scratch marks for it to be obvious what he's been up to.
 
MDF-MS said:
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I don't know if I can play that part too good for it to appear real, so don't worry about him.

Trust me on this, it won't dial down.
Been with my guy for over a decade, and his shoulders are filled with bite marks, and his back has enough scratch marks for it to be obvious what he's been up to.
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Shit.

Guess I'll be wearing shirts in public from now on.

*rubs shoulder*

When she said I was the biggest she'd ever been with I got a little worried it was *too* big.

When she said she'd never experienced sex as an activity to share and enjoy, like, *with* a partner, my heart broke a little.

In that light, definitely not complaining. I'll figure out some pain management techniques for my back and neck. But DAMN humans are statistically crap at a lot of things most of the time!
 
And thanks for the candid reply. Thou appearest to be, in the vernacular of the current generation, "based".

MDF-MS said:
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I don't know if I can play that part too good for it to appear real, so don't worry about him.

Trust me on this, it won't dial down.
Been with my guy for over a decade, and his shoulders are filled with bite marks, and his back has enough scratch marks for it to be obvious what he's been up to.
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knotagentleman said:
I feel like I owe your S.O. a beer after inadvertently suggesting it.

Please extend my apologies.
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I managed to be the dead starfish while he touched me with his hands, but when he entered I could not remain still anymore, just feels too good to not move at all.

"You done yet" resulted in the throat grabbed, hand om hip too and thrusts of a much more speedy variant with more force behind it. He was not done.

I don't think you owe him a beer.
 
Submissive.. dominant? That's a good question. Me and my Wolfie always did this in my bedroom. I can say before mating I was dominant because that was my decision when he may take me. He learned I was ready when I took of my clothes and was naked, that was signal for my doggie.
During the mating - he was dominant and I was submissive. That was very exciting, me under my dog, that strange feeling in tummy, like butterflies when fell in love or after first kiss..
Usually I'm very independent, quite confident and also can defend myself in various situations (like arguing etc). But in bed with my Wolfie - I exposed my second nature, sensitive, fragile and obedient ?
 
In normal and real life and work situation im a natural strong and dominant person... sometimes i tend to be a dominant slave (i try to guide the dominant in what i have to do) but in my deep and without filter this is my results:

== Results from bdsmtest.org: ==
100% Degradee
98% Submissive
94% Experimentalist
92% Voyeur
89% Slave
88% Pet
83% Non-monogamist
83% Brat
76% Primal (Prey)
71% Rope bunny
71% Exhibitionist
60% Masochist
60% Switch
37% Master/Mistress
29% Owner
29% Primal (Hunter)
25% Dominant
23% Rigger
16% Sadist
16% Vanilla
9% Degrader
6% Brat tamer
4% Daddy/Mommy
0% Ageplayer
0% Little
 
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MDF-MS said:
I managed to be the dead starfish while he touched me with his hands, but when he entered I could not remain still anymore, just feels too good to not move at all.

"You done yet" resulted in the throat grabbed, hand om hip too and thrusts of a much more speedy variant with more force behind it. He was not done.

I don't think you owe him a beer.
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Sounds like maybe I'm owed a tasty ethanol beverage. Lol.
 
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