This question, and the same for are you dominant always makes me laugh because some of the answers are just..........
Like, I just do what I do, I don't even ask because it never even occured to me to ask, we'll find that out sooner or later. It honestly never even enters my head if someone is or isn't submissive.
Its not a requirement for me that she be submissive. It's not like I'm turning down pussy because she wants to be on top, lol.......who cares?
The ONLY time I've ever noticed a difference is when we AREN'T fucking. Then, things are going to be bumpy if she's bossy, lol
I KNOW it's a sexual trait, but, it's MUCH more a personality trait than anything. We can fuck just fine, but getting to a decision on where to eat might be a fucking problem.
I honestly don't care, as long as she has a spine in there of some sort. Super huge turn off for me personally, is if she has ZERO personality of her own because she's Uber,super, duper submissive and mousy personality wise.
Other than that, it makes no difference to me. We either get along or we don't.
I do know that if all the people who say they a Dom actually were dom then the world has a definite submissive crises in full swing. And, I think most people lean a bit this way or that but aren't truely most of the way to one side or the other.