Zoo's and the Trans Community (Discussion)

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Ive noticed a trend that most trans people Ive encountered tend to also be zoo's. Which makes sense. Being trans theyre bound to be more open minded about many things. I have no issue with them. Except socially in certain areas and on politics a lot of the time. Actually I think theyre pretty hot, especially the ones that have crossed "passable" and can hardly tell a difference. Like Chloe Salpa or Natalie Mars.

It is possible that you gravitate to trans zoos, or they to you, because you are zoo yourself. I haven't noticed much difference among my trans friends, except perhaps greater empathy and allyship.

While it's cool you find some trans people attractive, and that they might appreciate knowing this, be careful not to objectify trans bodies. "Passing" in my experience is more important to cisgender people than to trans people, and causes undeserved stress and anxiety for some of my trans friends from the pressure to conform.

and this is totally reasonable behaviour and response! I've said it in my post above that I've made a bad experience with transgender persons and i didn't mean to say they are all like that. I meant to say that i think it's totally wrong to pressure someone into accepting a trans-person as possible relationship partner as for example heterosexual, just because the trans person identifies as female.

I'm sorry but that's just not gonna fly and there are people out there suggesting this kind of freedom of choice reducing behaviour should be seen as 'acceptance of trans people'

I realize that it could be a language barrier causing this, but some of the language you're using could be perceived as hostility by others here. "Transvestite" is outdated. "Ladyboy" is offensive. "Butthurt" is dismissive of another's feelings as illegitimate. You will find others are more receptive to your opinions if you consider your words.

 

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It is possible that you gravitate to trans zoos, or they to you, because you are zoo yourself. I haven't noticed much difference among my trans friends, except perhaps greater empathy and allyship.

While it's cool you find some trans people attractive, and that they might appreciate knowing this, be careful not to objectify trans bodies. "Passing" in my experience is more important to cisgender people than to trans people, and causes undeserved stress and anxiety for some of my trans friends from the pressure to conform.

I realize that it could be a language barrier causing this, but some of the language you're using could be perceived as hostility by others here. "Transvestite" is outdated. "Ladyboy" is offensive. "Butthurt" is dismissive of another's feelings as illegitimate. You will find others are more receptive to your opinions if you consider your words.

That is possible yeah. And sorry but objectification is inherent to any physical attraction. Some level of objectification is inevitable if you enjoy bodies. You just dont want to overly objectify by totally forgetting theyre still a person. Doesnt mean you cant give compliments or show preferences. We have to meet in the middle somewhere. It cant be 100% on us to nerf the world and tiptoe around everyones feelings all the time. We can do our part to be courteous but they need to do theirs by not being so insecure, to the absurd degree. Its a much better way to go through life rather than risking offense by every little thing. I'll give them credit enough to think they can handle it. Seems a little insulting to think trans people are that fragile.