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[valleyyote]

Yep Yep...all very fine and dandy... But this is 2020 man. It is how women see things nowadays, not 10 or 20 years ago. That they are financially independent does not even matter. When you meet a girl or have a date, the very second question that comes your way after they ask you your name is: "What do you do for a living?"
They ask this for a reason. Maybe not everyone is a gold digger, but nobody wants a hobbo for a boyfriend/partner.
Maybe OP has plenty of savings and could keep a girl content for a while. But when he runs out of money, he can kiss her ass goodbye, sure as hell.

And what you describe is someone already in a relationship, then the guy losing his job afterwards some time into the relationship and the woman who already has feelings for him deciding to support him. That is very different from someone to want to begin a romantic relationship with a woman telling her he has no job or money. Pffff good luck with that dude. Fairy tales are usually just that, fairy tales

You are so far out in left field it truly is pathetic. Also for your information I have no desire to even consider dating until i am truly financially independent. It is never fair to a partner to put an undo burden on them in this fashion. Also as my situation sits I can pay my own personal bills with my va disability and I get $204 a month in ebt and can make up to $1300 a month an still have that. I also bring many skills to the table that many lack that can be very useful especially if one is living in the country and has property to maintain, I do landscaping, farm chores, yard maintenance, brush clearing, ditch digging, road building, tree felling, etc... etc... I am not a slacker nor have I ever been. One can compensate in may different ways other than monetairly. I am not adverse to getting my hands dirty and working up a good sweat. I mow acres of land by hand. I made anywhere from $10 to$15 an hour back in the late 80's and early 90's doing yard work while I was in jr high and high school. I payed for all my own clothing and school supplies. I also supplimented my income while attending college by doing grounds work for them. I also do things for those who are unable to do them for themselves and ask nothing for it in return, it is an awesome way to build lasting, forever friendships. Most often those you help in this fashion are very generous because they appreciate the help. I also do work for those who need and extra hand doing anything they may need help with it pays very well most often.

Also I am one who would take in someone I was compatible with and never expect anything from them in return for the joy and love of having a partner. Sometimes there are those who wish to make someones life a living paradise because they themselves know how much of a pain in the ass real life is due to the roadblocks and bumps they have encountered in their life. I have always struggled in life and nothing has come easily to me and thus I am painfully aware of just how ugly it can get sometimes. Also it used to be the norm for a a man to take in a woman and support her and give her all that was necessary for a happy, carefree life. I hate to say this but woman's lib really screwed that up. BTW I have no issues with independent women, I love it when they want to compete on an equal level.

Please never assume to know a person or their motives without knowing them on a truly personal level.

You made a huge ass out of yourself by doing so.

 

[valleyyote]

I wish to thank those who stood up for me here it is truly appreciated. I never understand those who assume so much with out ever getting the whole story and assuming the worst things. It is truly sad.

 

[The_Hound_OT_Zoovilles]

You are so far out in left field it truly is pathetic. Also for your information I have no desire to even consider dating until i am truly financially independent. It is never fair to a partner to put an undo burden on them in this fashion. Also as my situation sits I can pay my own personal bills with my va disability and I get $204 a month in ebt and can make up to $1300 a month an still have that. I also bring many skills to the table that many lack that can be very useful especially if one is living in the country and has property to maintain, I do landscaping, farm chores, yard maintenance, brush clearing, ditch digging, road building, tree felling, etc... etc... I am not a slacker nor have I ever been. One can compensate in may different ways other than monetairly. I am not adverse to getting my hands dirty and working up a good sweat. I mow acres of land by hand. I made anywhere from $10 to$15 an hour back in the late 80's and early 90's doing yard work while I was in jr high and high school. I payed for all my own clothing and school supplies. I also supplimented my income while attending college by doing grounds work for them. I also do things for those who are unable to do them for themselves and ask nothing for it in return, it is an awesome way to build lasting, forever friendships. Most often those you help in this fashion are very generous because they appreciate the help. I also do work for those who need and extra hand doing anything they may need help with it pays very well most often.

Also I am one who would take in someone I was compatible with and never expect anything from them in return for the joy and love of having a partner. Sometimes there are those who wish to make someones life a living paradise because they themselves know how much of a pain in the ass real life is due to the roadblocks and bumps they have encountered in their life. I have always struggled in life and nothing has come easily to me and thus I am painfully aware of just how ugly it can get sometimes. Also it used to be the norm for a a man to take in a woman and support her and give her all that was necessary for a happy, carefree life. I hate to say this but woman's lib really screwed that up. BTW I have no issues with independent women, I love it when they want to compete on an equal level.

Please never assume to know a person or their motives without knowing them on a truly personal level.

You made a huge ass out of yourself by doing so.

Dude.....I am not your potential girlfriend, what the fuck are you telling me? Save all that for your next date

 

[valleyyote]

Dude.....I am not your potential girlfriend, what the fuck are you telling me? Save all that for your next date

And who said you were? God, some folks are just unbelievable. You were trashing me without having a clue about reality and kept it up assuming the worst even though there were those ho were nice and kind enough to figure the truth out without any assumptions and thought the best of me. It was a necessary thing to defend my position.

If I was the wealthiest man on earth and you were in the gutter starving I would buy you a home and stock it with all your favorite things and good things to eat. This is who I am and how I do things regardless of how someone might think of me or treat me. A human treats others with love and compassion always it is how we should always be towards one another. I follow the golden rue always. If they are hungry feed them, if they are naked cloth them, if they need shelter bring them in, etc.. etc... treat them as you wish to be treated and judge them not. If it comes down to it give them them your clothing and food.

I personally hope you are doing most excellent in this the new year and things just get better for you and yours. May life always smile on you and bring you good fortune. I hope you have a most excellent day!

 

[The_Hound_OT_Zoovilles]

And who said you were? God, some folks are just unbelievable. You were trashing me without having a clue about reality and kept it up assuming the worst even though there were those ho were nice and kind enough to figure the truth out without any assumptions and thought the best of me. It was a necessary thing to defend my position.

If I was the wealthiest man on earth and you were in the gutter starving I would buy you a home and stock it with all your favorite things and good things to eat. This is who I am and how I do things regardless of how someone might think of me or treat me. A human treats others with love and compassion always it is how we should always be towards one another. I follow the golden rue always. If they are hungry feed them, if they are naked cloth them, if they need shelter bring them in, etc.. etc... treat them as you wish to be treated and judge them not. If it comes down to it give them them your clothing and food.

I personally hope you are doing most excellent in this the new year and things just get better for you and yours. May life always smile on you and bring you good fortune. I hope you have a most excellent day!

Man..whoever made assumptions or trash anybody??
I haven't turned up to the date as I am clearly not interested in you at all, and you are still ranting.
You've been stood up, deal with it.

Point your anger and resentment at those bitches instead of shooting the messenger. Whether it's me or someone else, you will be told at some point, as you are very clearly delusional. I tried to do you a favour, but don't worry I am already out. Good luck

 

[valleyyote]

Man..whoever made assumptions or trash anybody??
I haven't turned up to the date as I am clearly not interested in you at all, and you are still ranting.
You've been stood up, deal with it.

Point your anger and resentment at those bitches instead of shooting the messenger. Whether it's me or someone else, you will be told at some point, as you are very clearly delusional. I tried to do you a favour, but don't worry I am already out. Good luck

Date there was no invite to a date. You read way to much into this simple question.

Wow i have been nice and you treat me like dog shit typical of so many of the woman out there these days. Oh btw I have no animosity towards these so called ladies you pulled out of thin air. So nice of you to trash on your own kind and use such a derogative, filthy term for other woman btw. Shows how truly classless and vulgar you are. The only one that would deserve that honor is you. Woman have always been nice to me. Why because I have always been a polite gentleman to them. Also there is no delusion, there are many woman who would jump at the opportunity to be in a relaxing relationship with no duties or responsibilities. I think looney tune and delusional are more your cup of tea.

 

[caikgoch]

Date there was no invite to a date. You read way to much into this simple question.

Wow i have been nice and you treat me like dog shit typical of so many of the woman out there these days. Oh btw I have no animosity towards these so called ladies you pulled out of thin air. So nice of you to trash on your own kind and use such a derogative, filthy term for other woman btw. Shows how truly classless and vulgar you are. The only one that would deserve that honor is you. Woman have always been nice to me. Why because I have always been a polite gentleman to them. Also there is no delusion, there are many woman who would jump at the opportunity to be in a relaxing relationship with no duties or responsibilities. I think looney tune and delusional are more your cup of tea.

Calmly now. There is no need for you to exert yourself over it. It's doing an excellent job of making itself miserable already. In other words, don't let fools drag you down to their level where they have the advantage of experience.