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valleyyote

valleyyote

Esteemed Citizen of ZV
Good morning and good day to you all!

I hope you all are doing most awesomely excellent! I hope your new year is off to an amazing start and it continues to get better throughout the year!

For years now I have had this awesome dream about being able to spoil someone rotten with love, affection, and kindness. It entails them doing nothing while I give therm a place to hang out and do whatever their little heart desires, waiting on them hand and foot, breakfast in bed, etc... I am a guy who does all my own laundry, cleans house, can cook to some degree, etc.. etc.. so I think you get it. Sadly life has tripped me up in the financial department so I have to wait for that part of the puzzle to fall into place. If I had the money it would just be matter of finding that lucky individual or maybe more. I am not stingy where lover and affection are concerned if money allowed for it.

So I was just curious is something you all might consider realistic, something you might like, or is it just in the realm of fantasy?
 
Yeah, I have a feeling that most people would just take an advantage of that. Maybe you will get lucky but it's very risky when you specifically search for "someone rotten".
 
I'm with Pes above, I've got a feeling you'll get an awful lot more unconditional love and affection from a labrador. Or if you want to spend all your time waiting hand and foot on a sentient being without a thing to show for it in return get a cat.
 
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well, all i can do is wish you luck with that... just make sure to get to know the one very well before showering them with all the attention.

as for my fantasies that could be made real. i don't really have any at the moment, i am in an "okay" spot. of course, having more money would be nice, but what can i do... luckily, money (or getting rich) never was very high on my "what i want from life" list

ryirkil said:
Yeah, I have a feeling that most people would just take an advantage of that. Maybe you will get lucky but it's very risky when you specifically search for "someone rotten".
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i think he ment the phrase "spoil someone rotten" as in "spoil them very much" not that he's looking to spoil someone who is rotten
 
My friend, we are very much alike. I am also a provider that does everything and wants a queen to worship and wait hand and foot on. But like @pes said, you can be taken advantage of. I was... But then I found my true love, my girl, and now my life feels complete. But hey, that's me. You may find yourself someone perfect for you, it all depends on you. So it's as much realistic or fantasy as you want it to be, you just gotta be determined to get what you want. They can break you, but as long as they can't break your spirit you can't lose. Good luck in your efforts buddy, I believe in you!
 
Stutensindwunderbar said:
My friend, we are very much alike. I am also a provider that does everything and wants a queen to worship and wait hand and foot on. But like @pes said, you can be taken advantage of. I was... But then I found my true love, my girl, and now my life feels complete. But hey, that's me. You may find yourself someone perfect for you, it all depends on you. So it's as much realistic or fantasy as you want it to be, you just gotta be determined to get what you want. They can break you, but as long as they can't break your spirit you can't lose. Good luck in your efforts buddy, I believe in you!
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Good on you for finding someone worthy of your attentions.
 
All of what you said sounds nice but I wouldn't expect it. Being waited on sometimes is nice though. I would rather someone take care of the finances while I just become there baby maker. I would stay home take care of the kids wait on you when you got home and take care of everything at the house including the grass.
 
valleyyote said:
Good morning and good day to you all!

I hope you all are doing most awesomely excellent! I hope your new year is off to an amazing start and it continues to get better throughout the year!

For years now I have had this awesome dream about being able to spoil someone rotten with love, affection, and kindness. It entails them doing nothing while I give therm a place to hang out and do whatever their little heart desires, waiting on them hand and foot, breakfast in bed, etc... I am a guy who does all my own laundry, cleans house, can cook to some degree, etc.. etc.. so I think you get it. Sadly life has tripped me up in the financial department so I have to wait for that part of the puzzle to fall into place. If I had the money it would just be matter of finding that lucky individual or maybe more. I am not stingy where lover and affection are concerned if money allowed for it.

So I was just curious is something you all might consider realistic, something you might like, or is it just in the realm of fantasy?
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I'm one of those guys that is on the lookout for a woman to take me to her home on a permanent basis. Overall, I can clean up after myself, do my own laundry and clean up around the house, but I'm rather worthless when it comes to making food (unless I'm helping in the kitchen) or doing house maintenance (such as carpentry, pluming, and electrical maintenance); I'm really not much of a "handy-man" at all. I'm just hoping that all she requires of me is companionship, loyalty, cuddles, a good back massage, and an ear to listen to her...but I'm also hoping to be the guy that gets to please her in the carnal sense.
 
Daddy'sLittleCumSlutt said:
All of what you said sounds nice but I wouldn't expect it. Being waited on sometimes is nice though. I would rather someone take care of the finances while I just become there baby maker. I would stay home take care of the kids wait on you when you got home and take care of everything at the house including the grass.
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Your daddy must be very pleased with you, especially as provide him with grass on top of everything else?
 
Heres what I've found in my dating experience, love and devotion dont count for much to most women, if you arent also a provider, not trying to sound cynical, women are just practical that way.

Not all women are so black and white in that regard but it's a hard hurdle to overcome when they initially evaluate you.

I can cook, clean, do most home diy, automotive work, but due to certain circumstances, I can't also work given my other obligations, so I know what you're going through to an extent.

Beware, as others have said of those who will use you and string you along for their own reasons.

Just be patient and hopefully we all will find the one
 
Backgrounder said:
Heres what I've found in my dating experience, love and devotion dont count for much to most women, if you arent also a provider, not trying to sound cynical, women are just practical that way.

Not all women are so black and white in that regard but it's a hard hurdle to overcome when they initially evaluate you.

I can cook, clean, do most home diy, automotive work, but due to certain circumstances, I can't also work given my other obligations, so I know what you're going through to an extent.

Beware, as others have said of those who will use you and string you along for their own reasons.

Just be patient and hopefully we all will find the one
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That's one of the reasons why my exes left me; well, the 3rd one did anyways. The previous 2 cheated on me because I wasn't physically present in the geographical area (I was stationed in Okinawa while my 1st ex-fiancée was in Texas in 2007, and I was in Fort Walton Beach FL trying to get my financial situation stable after I separated from the USAF while my 2nd ex was in Alabama).

3 years later, I've nearly lost hope that I'll ever find somebody; fearing that I'll be evaluated over my financial situation.
 
Being caring, generous and loving are great traits to have, but as stated above, it's also a great way to get shit upon by someone who is only out for themselves.
Tread carefully is my advice
 
Lover of Centaurides said:
That's one of the reasons why my exes left me; well, the 3rd one did anyways. The previous 2 cheated on me because I wasn't physically present in the geographical area (I was stationed in Okinawa while my 1st ex-fiancée was in Texas in 2007, and I was in Fort Walton Beach FL trying to get my financial situation stable after I separated from the USAF while my 2nd ex was in Alabama).

3 years later, I've nearly lost hope that I'll ever find somebody; fearing that I'll be evaluated over my financial situation.
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My ex chose work over love when 6 months prior to her ghosting me I was the love of her life and she wanted to have a daughter together and how I was a great stepdad to son, we lived less than 20 minutes apart, but her work was what mattered most, she ghosted me on valentine's day, when I came over to bring her her presents. No explanation.

What's sad is that was easier to get over than the girl who found me on another website and after chatting for a few weeks was like so the only thing that gets me off is doggy porn and after multiple dates and chatting daily, for almost a year, without any intimacy because she told me she liked me and was damaged and all that other good stuff but was like, it's not you, you're a great guy but I think I can do better. I was feeling some heavy feels for her, thought I had found my soul mate, shes the only person I confessed this side of me too, found someone who was my other half and she was like nope. I'm still feeling like the universe set me up for that pain just to chuckle
 
Backgrounder said:
My ex chose work over love when 6 months prior to her ghosting me I was the love of her life and she wanted to have a daughter together and how I was a great stepdad to son, we lived less than 20 minutes apart, but her work was what mattered most, she ghosted me on valentine's day, when I came over to bring her her presents. No explanation.

What's sad is that was easier to get over than the girl who found me on another website and after chatting for a few weeks was like so the only thing that gets me off is doggy porn and after multiple dates and chatting daily, for almost a year, without any intimacy because she told me she liked me and was damaged and all that other good stuff but was like, it's not you, you're a great guy but I think I can do better. I was feeling some heavy feels for her, thought I had found my soul mate, shes the only person I confessed this side of me too, found someone who was my other half and she was like nope. I'm still feeling like the universe set me up for that pain just to chuckle
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Forgive me for quoting Depeche Mode; this actually reminds me of that chorus line from the song:
I don't want to start any blasphemous rumours
But I think that God's got a sick sense of humor
And when I die, I expect to find him laughing.
 
Lover of Centaurides said:
Forgive me for quoting Depeche Mode; this actually reminds me of that chorus line from the song:
I don't want to start any blasphemous rumours
But I think that God's got a sick sense of humor
And when I die, I expect to find him laughing.
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Atleast music is there to remind us we arent alone no matter what we're going through
 
Very cool stuff folks! Thank you for all the input. It truly is appreciated. Indeed as folks point out it can go in any direction as there are so many different kinds out there. I will just keep my head heald high and see wht comes in the future. I could indeed end up being a bachelor for the rest of my days if so so be it.
 
valleyyote said:
Very cool stuff folks! Thank you for all the input. It truly is appreciated. Indeed as folks point out it can go in any direction as there are so many different kinds out there. I will just keep my head heald high and see wht comes in the future. I could indeed end up being a bachelor for the rest of my days if so so be it.
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Look mate, find true friendship first, then just go from there.
 
The_Hound_OT_Zoovilles said:
OP, that ain't really a fantasy anymore these days, if you have the cash that is.
Google "sugar daddy" and sign up to one of the numerous apps, sites, etc catering for such delicacies ..
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You read his post wrong, he has no money, he was wondering if a woman would be ok with a guy who is more of a house husband instead of a provider till he is more financially secure
 
The_Hound_OT_Zoovilles said:
Cause no single soul will accept otherwise, yo
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That's not an absolute truth like you're implying. A lot of women subscribe to the song lyric, you got to have a J. O. B. if you want to be with me, but I've known personally women and men who will financially support their partner, and I'm not even talking about those who are trying to find a job or who were laid off I mean actual wastrels who sponged and didnt pull their weight in the household, they did it because they were in love with them, I didnt approve of those relationships of course because they were toxic, regardless, to say it's not a reality is just false.

Also to say not being a financial provider means you have to be a submissive cuck to be with a woman, uh hell naw, to the naw, naw, naw. That implies that being financially prosperous makes you dominant. I know someone that makes 100k a year and is an actual cuck by choice. A fetish has nothing to do with ones status in the relationship like you are implying. To say the only way a woman would have a stay at home partner in this day and age is if he is a sub, man that's such a black and white generalization.

The OP wasn't wanting a sugar momma, or to be a cuck, or a sub, he wanted a woman who would appreciate his situation and like him as a person and be able to look passed what he brings to the relationship in regards to monetary gain for the moment,he isnt a wastrel or a sponge, just struggling, if there are absolutely no people who look at relationships from that perspective then half the relationships on earth wouldn't occur.
 
Backgrounder said:
That's not an absolute truth like you're implying. A lot of women subscribe to the song lyric, you got to have a J. O. B. if you want to be with me, but I've known personally women and men who will financially support their partner, and I'm not even talking about those who are trying to find a job or who were laid off I mean actual wastrels who sponged and didnt pull their weight in the household, they did it because they were in love with them, I didnt approve of those relationships of course because they were toxic, regardless, to say it's not a reality is just false.

Also to say not being a financial provider means you have to be a submissive cuck to be with a woman, uh hell naw, to the naw, naw, naw. That implies that being financially prosperous makes you dominant. I know someone that makes 100k a year and is an actual cuck by choice. A fetish has nothing to do with ones status in the relationship like you are implying. To say the only way a woman would have a stay at home partner in this day and age is if he is a sub, man that's such a black and white generalization.

The OP wasn't wanting a sugar momma, or to be a cuck, or a sub, he wanted a woman who would appreciate his situation and like him as a person and be able to look passed what he brings to the relationship in regards to monetary gain for the moment,he isnt a wastrel or a sponge, just struggling, if there are absolutely no people who look at relationships from that perspective then half the relationships on earth wouldn't occur.
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THANK. YOU. I could not have said it any better than that.
 
It starts and grows in the Garden of Friendship. Without that you get nothing. With that as a base, at least you have that. There is NOTHING IN THIS WORLD worse than being in love with someone you don't like.....think that's not possible? Try it sometime.
 
Backgrounder said:
That's not an absolute truth like you're implying. A lot of women subscribe to the song lyric, you got to have a J. O. B. if you want to be with me, but I've known personally women and men who will financially support their partner, and I'm not even talking about those who are trying to find a job or who were laid off I mean actual wastrels who sponged and didnt pull their weight in the household, they did it because they were in love with them, I didnt approve of those relationships of course because they were toxic, regardless, to say it's not a reality is just false.

Also to say not being a financial provider means you have to be a submissive cuck to be with a woman, uh hell naw, to the naw, naw, naw. That implies that being financially prosperous makes you dominant. I know someone that makes 100k a year and is an actual cuck by choice. A fetish has nothing to do with ones status in the relationship like you are implying. To say the only way a woman would have a stay at home partner in this day and age is if he is a sub, man that's such a black and white generalization.

The OP wasn't wanting a sugar momma, or to be a cuck, or a sub, he wanted a woman who would appreciate his situation and like him as a person and be able to look passed what he brings to the relationship in regards to monetary gain for the moment,he isnt a wastrel or a sponge, just struggling, if there are absolutely no people who look at relationships from that perspective then half the relationships on earth wouldn't occur.
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Yep Yep...all very fine and dandy... But this is 2020 man. It is how women see things nowadays, not 10 or 20 years ago. That they are financially independent does not even matter. When you meet a girl or have a date, the very second question that comes your way after they ask you your name is: "What do you do for a living?"
They ask this for a reason. Maybe not everyone is a gold digger, but nobody wants a hobbo for a boyfriend/partner.
Maybe OP has plenty of savings and could keep a girl content for a while. But when he runs out of money, he can kiss her ass goodbye, sure as hell.

And what you describe is someone already in a relationship, then the guy losing his job afterwards some time into the relationship and the woman who already has feelings for him deciding to support him. That is very different from someone to want to begin a romantic relationship with a woman telling her he has no job or money. Pffff good luck with that dude. Fairy tales are usually just that, fairy tales
 
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