CuriousK9er
Tourist
Well when I first joined I was so nervous it was almost bipolar. Id be right into it one night then id delete my account the next lol. So definitely have to be compassionate and understanding.
Why to guys always go quite when you wanna arrange a meet lol.
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Well when I first joined I was so nervous it was almost bipolar. Id be right into it one night then id delete my account the next lol. So definitely have to be compassionate and understanding.
CuriousK9er
Tourist
You're not wrong there.
MasterWhipYoAss
Citizen of Zooville
Ohh i get that. I did have a year or two early in my life i went through something similar.
Lol never deleted my account though, but by the time i signed up to Zooville id already had 2 long term zoo relationships.
TheJamesk9
Tourist
because no one wants to get busted
CuriousK9er
Tourist
I think thats the primary concern honestly. You have to tread a lot more carefully with your words in person with the assumption that nothing is public is private... unlike here behind a screen with the exception of hiding your identifying marks. But even then talk is just talk until action is taken. Ppl are allowed to express their imaginations, however wild.
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piperthedog
Tourist
The one time I actually pulled together the confidence to meet someone else on the forum, I ended up getting ghosted. I’m worried about people being fake or incompatible and also worry about getting busted and all that, so it’s hard to talk to people here. So it only makes it much worse when all that effort was for nothing.
CuriousK9er
Tourist
Treat every word like a fantasy and throw in "im not sure if i could ever do it" here and there. And wait for them to show you first haha there are lots of ways to be cautious its just not organic which can make it awkward.
duncanwolfpaw
Tourist
My most recent vanishing act came when family stuff boiled over. Sick parents, kids having a really hard time.
Was difficult to let anything as self indulgent as a meet happen.
Real world just got to real
Was difficult to let anything as self indulgent as a meet happen.
Real world just got to real
MasterWhipYoAss
Citizen of Zooville
But isn't an organised meet up real life as well.?
It's dealing with Someones thoughts, feelings and emotions, and all topped off on a sensitive subject.
Yet you would find the time to call your boss if you couldn't make it to work, call the mechanic to cancel a car service, call a doctor to cancel an appointment.
Send your daughter a message telling her your running late to pick them up.? Etc etc.
But can't send a message to let someone know that you cant make a meet up because of xyz.?
I understand that life gets in the way at times and well... Things happen that you can't foresee.
But an arranged meet up is real life too.
You planned and organised it with the other person.
Gives me the impression that the person and meet up really meant nothing to you.
It's dealing with Someones thoughts, feelings and emotions, and all topped off on a sensitive subject.
Yet you would find the time to call your boss if you couldn't make it to work, call the mechanic to cancel a car service, call a doctor to cancel an appointment.
Send your daughter a message telling her your running late to pick them up.? Etc etc.
But can't send a message to let someone know that you cant make a meet up because of xyz.?
I understand that life gets in the way at times and well... Things happen that you can't foresee.
But an arranged meet up is real life too.
You planned and organised it with the other person.
Gives me the impression that the person and meet up really meant nothing to you.
My most recent vanishing act came when family stuff boiled over. Sick parents, kids having a really hard time.
Was difficult to let anything as self indulgent as a meet happen.
Real world just got to real
doglover15130
Tourist
So how did you find a zoo relationship before the forum if you don’t mind me asking?
doglover15130
Tourist
Telling everyone your with is wild to me, in the US people have a way more closed off way of thinking and in my opinion you’d just be setting yourself up for a visit from the cops
loverboy17
Citizen of Zooville
I never understood why people would do that it always made me mad. I'm like come on if you didn't want to actually meet them say something. I would love to meet up with other zoo friends and play
Right? Like if nerves take over just tell them and let them know, don’t make them waste their day travelling or feeling anxious themselves
CuriousK9er
Tourist
Its not that abrupt so that it shocks them haha you have to feel them out and start slow and know when to see they aren't open to the idea. It wasnt a lot of women...
MasterWhipYoAss
Citizen of Zooville
1st one was when i was 18, took a gamble on my girl friend after a few drinks one night and touched on the subject, not long into the conversation and my dog was between her legs. Was with her for 25 yrs. My next one was through tinder. And i might add my 1st and only tinder encounter. That one lasted 3 years, distance made that one a bit difficult and so a mutual agreement to not continue.
I have thought of going back to tinder but i struggle to justify paid subscriptions.
deeplovetrainingcamp
Lurker
I have the answer to this question that I've learned over the years of organizing and participating in gangbangs. Well, at least for the most part as replies up to now also discuss some of the other various reasons. As an example, if you invite 10 guys that express interest to an event you'll be lucky if maybe 2 or 3 show up, and leading up to the event those no-shows will have a constant stream of questions; "send me more pictures", "do you have video of the girl", "tell me what she'll do", "tell me about what will happen" etc. These guys are getting off on the thought of acting out their fantasies fueled by pictures and talk of the act, getting invited and having the chance, but when it comes down to it they have zero actual interest in meeting up because the fantasy has already been lived out in their head after they have pleasured themselves to all of the talk and build up. It's actually pretty mind boggling that many of those guys will actually keep messaging up until the event going so far as to saying "I'm on my way, be there in 10 more minutes" and they don't show. I went to one last month where the organizer had hundreds of replies and at least 20 confirming they were attending.......me and one other guy showed up. Add in the legality and risk of this forums subject matter and I'd imagine you have the recipe for many many ghosts.
Good question I know part of me wants to build a connection before I meet someone but I also really want a threesome for me and my girl
HappyHorse
Zooville Settler
I personally have never ghosted anyone, and I've always said if I wasn't interested in meeting but have met up with people
XenoKing117
Tourist
I feel this ive tried to schedule meets a few times now and I either get ghosted or they come up with an excuse every single time
doglover15130
Tourist
I think allot of people just get scared, where you from though?
Balthazarhazard
Tourist
Really?? You're not on the right country
OutFarming
Citizen of Zooville
It's the same with women as well, if you believe in women on the Internet, they get excited about the idea, you set a date, they suddenly stop talking for the 3 days or so before the date.
"Hey I'm free Friday and will be in your area, get coffee and do the real person check?"
"Ohh I'm available!"
Three days of crickets lol.
"Hey I'm free Friday and will be in your area, get coffee and do the real person check?"
"Ohh I'm available!"
Three days of crickets lol.
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XenoKing117
Tourist
Gere
Zooville Settler
I think many men say they have dogs when they have not, 99% of all DM is guys asking uss to share pic and experiens. But no one of them have dogs. Many "laides" to".
So many probably is just planing darikg and dont show upp to sound cool and experiens
Dogdaddy69
Esteemed Citizen of ZV
Because most of them are here to whack off. Almost none of them own a dog, most have never been in the same room with a dog. It's all this giant cyber whack off fantasy.
And as for the "women"....the big majority of those are ALSO men, just cyber whacking from the other side of the fence, because if they cyber it as a girl, that means they aren't gay......whatever mental gymnastics are needed, I guess.
Very rare occasions, when the person IS actually what they claim they are, they bail because it all gets too real, too quick.....by too quick, I mean EVER. MOST of these shitstains who ghost out are just fake all the way around, but, there are a select few that simply wet themselves at the thought of meeting a real human face to face because most of these autistic fucks wet themselves when they have to talk to the checkout girl.
MY advice to the OP, or anyone else having this problem consistently is to take notes. Any behavior that you CONSISTENTLY notice that all these fucks seem to have in common, put that on your checklist......and, going forward, ANY of those things on your list that pops up in future conversations, cut bait and stop wasting YOUR time with these time wasting fuckers.
And as for the "women"....the big majority of those are ALSO men, just cyber whacking from the other side of the fence, because if they cyber it as a girl, that means they aren't gay......whatever mental gymnastics are needed, I guess.
Very rare occasions, when the person IS actually what they claim they are, they bail because it all gets too real, too quick.....by too quick, I mean EVER. MOST of these shitstains who ghost out are just fake all the way around, but, there are a select few that simply wet themselves at the thought of meeting a real human face to face because most of these autistic fucks wet themselves when they have to talk to the checkout girl.
MY advice to the OP, or anyone else having this problem consistently is to take notes. Any behavior that you CONSISTENTLY notice that all these fucks seem to have in common, put that on your checklist......and, going forward, ANY of those things on your list that pops up in future conversations, cut bait and stop wasting YOUR time with these time wasting fuckers.
Natassasin
Tourist
The guy I'm dating has told me he has met other women in the past in a public place such as outdoor cafe or park. He brings his dog along so that the woman knows he has a dog and she is who she claims to be. He has said some women have met guys who claim to have dogs but don't. Then try to still be in touch with them bc they say they can find a dog.
I never knew about this lifestyle before him. I'm glad I have experienced it with him. I trust him and I don't know if I would be seeking this with someone I never trusted.