I understand your thinking but don't you think that your openness on those site is going to meet with a strong opposition? My thinking is that trying to be open about it on sites where zoo is clearly not accepted is going to be like tossing gasoline on yourself and lighting a match.
At my old hangouts, I didn't have any real problems until recently, and right now, I feel relatively secure. I have talked openly to the people that make decisions about policy enforcement, and they agree that, regardless of what I do in private, I am protected by the same agreement that others are and also bound by the same agreement. I follow the rules there to a T without exception. I don't even swear or make all that much innuendo.
One of the greatest works of genius by me, in that scenario, is that I got the haters screaming anti-zoo slurs and obscenities in a conversation where I myself had not even once mentioned zooness. It was very simple. One of the haters started with the bullying and talking crap about zoos, and I said,
"I disagree with you, and I find those accusations to be hurtful."
"I have done no such thing."
"I reject those statements, and I refuse to put the point up for discussion."
"I reject those statements."
"I regard those statements as hurtful, and I reject them."
"I will not engage in this argument. I am feeling harassed."
"No, you expect me to behave as if I am on trial and as if you are judge, jury, and executioner, so you can spout some highly flawed syllogisms that would never pass muster in a professionally moderated debate, frankly due to a paucity of mutually accepted premises, and then assert that I deserve to be treated this way. What is actually happening is that you are harassing me in public."
"No, you are talking about this as if both of us had previously agreed on deontological premises for the discussion, and I have said several times that I reject deontological reasoning and adhere mostly to a rule utilitarian approach. You are not going to change that fact."
"That's it. I am going to stop feeding your taunts, and I am going to change the subject."
"Conveniently enough, I am in the middle of making a roux for a Cajun-style soup that I am making tonight!" (to the room)
"Wow! I didn't know that you lived in New Orleans! If I had known, I would have dropped in and paid you a visit!" (to someone else)
"Oh, no: I don't really have any Cajun or Creole in me, but I do have some French." (to same someone else)
I wasn't talking about animal sex. They were. They just wanted to establish the idea that they had a right to put me on trial over it, and I wasn't going to play. Eventually, I got one of the trolls banned, and the rest of them sat down and shut up. Without their utterly fake moral crusade, they are still the same tiresome destructive moochers that they have always been.
The way these scum operate is that they troll you and try to bring out the nasty in you, and when you refuse to rise to it, they eventually become so over-the-top from their own frustration that they will self-destruct. They will self-destruct almost every time. Even if you only get this source of satisfaction once, there is nothing in this world that is more satisfying than stepping out of the way of Sir Lancelot and letting him charge his way over a cliff.
You can win at non-zooey venues if you remember always to follow the AUP to a T and keep open communications with the people that are responsible for enforcing it. Be a model citizen and a pillar of the community. People will eventually notice that the local zoo is the cat's pajamas. You do not really have to keep it a secret around non-zoos.
