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I hinted to my girlfriend and now I'm singel. She didn't take it well?
Should I tell my bf?!!
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Bluephoenyx
Esteemed Citizen of ZV
Well, i'm on the side that i got in a relationship with a girl that she knew from the start i was into this. And she literally told me to forget about this whole topic, and that even she wouldn't include it in her life. I mean, telling it may be a critical hit to your own moral, so, i wouldn't suggest you to do so. I mean, not many are open minded enough to get it, and the odds to be injured/disadvantaged are high, and sometimes you must re-think if it really matters. I'm actually thinking that even that we consider this world/lifestyle/fetish/kink as something beautiful, not everyone are ready/capacited to think about it, and many have negative reactions, sadly this is the world we live in.
Pd: Giving hints wouldn't hurt i guess, but consider not telling and opening yourself that much, sometimes you can't even do that to your significant one, and this makes you wonder if your significant one is really the one.
Pd: Giving hints wouldn't hurt i guess, but consider not telling and opening yourself that much, sometimes you can't even do that to your significant one, and this makes you wonder if your significant one is really the one.
So then, if a zoo is in a relationship with a non-zoo human, should they live a "double life" in which they secretly have sex with animals (while still in a human relationship)?
I think the way you hint is important to keep the possibility the person would consider it - I had a friend that we were close and I just told her "I saw a movie of a dog fucking a woman" in very light and flowing way - her response was "show me" and after that she was in to it. the way you do it is important and I think you should find someone who suits you and the lifestyle.
vic96
Citizen of Zooville
yes! def this ? i did the hinty is-she-joking thing with my bf for a long time before i felt like i knew what his response was going to be. turned out great ??
Bluephoenyx
Esteemed Citizen of ZV
Well, here is where i have my "grey point". To be honest, i'm not actually someone who's "dying" for being a zoo. I think it's more like a "pseudosexuality" instead of a sexuality itself, as i don't see the point on considering a "relationship" between a human and an animal, i respect people who believe in that, but if i'd pick between a human and an animal, i'd pick the human as i find it more situable for me in relationship terms. But this is something i'd be able to "turn aside" if my partner isn't into it, but i have some odd thoughts about if it's okay that the another person says to you to stop doing it. It's weird.
Hewflungpew
Citizen of Zooville
First off you should be asking yourself is this somthing I am going to be doing the rest of my life?
If the awnser is yes, then ask yourself is having this part of my relation ship somthing I want? Is it part of me or is it a faze?
If loving animal's in both ways is part of you then I suggest you talk about it with him.
After all you have one life!
I have said this before and I will say it Agin.
People with these type's of questions really just need to figure out who they really are and what they want and don't want.
You will awnser your own questions just by self exploration.
Who are you really?
What do you really want?
What matters to you?
Awnser tthese and in time you will have your awnser
MasterKnight42
Tourist
I , possibly along with other males would love to be in this position, but I suggest gauging his interest first. Tell him a friend of yours sent you a video of a dog fucking a woman and that the friend thought it was funny. See how he reacts to that.
Also I have a female friend who lives out of state who was in this same position. She is younger than me and had an interest in k9. Her bf did not know. She wanted to tell him and I strongly suggested against it. She told him and he watched her with a dog. Then he got greedy and had his friends watch. Soon she was performing in front of multiple guys and fucking multiple dogs.
Their relationship ended and others found out about her fucking dogs. She was able to deny for awhile until pics were shown. Life was made miserable for her for awhile.
If you believe he is strong enough and open minded enough to share this, I say have no secrets. Always gauge their reaction with something that does not involve you first.
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BlueBeard
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This brings up concerns for me. It would involve copy/pasting words from here into an online translator, off site. I do not know what that exposes you to. Even translate.google.com/ makes me concerned, since Google has so much interest in tracking where users have been.
I recommend using a personal VPN, for sure (I am on IPVanish right now). And then use a private page in Safari or some other browser, maybe Duck Duck Go? Search for a translator there?
Anyone else have advice?
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BlueBeard
Guest
Wow. So it kind of spiraled out of hand.
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BlueBeard
Guest
As with most topics I *finally* read, get into, this one had aged quite a bit since the OP posted. So it gets more general and general. That in mind, still an important topic. Huge decision. I don't know what happened to the OP but seconding some of the advice given here in the thread and providing some personal examples.
My first wife did not know. I only hinted at the topic once, barely even broached it. Her reaction was explosive disgust. So that topic never came up again, and mostly I just "didn't." But... we had dogs. Large breeds. Indoor. And... it's pretty difficult "not to."
In short, I *lived* that double life that's been mentioned. It's a horrible way to live. It's like not being "fully married," because you are basically cheating -- or it feels like that. Married more than 20 years that way. When she filed for divorce, guess what ONE topic from years before got brandished for the world to see? And suspecting she could find dirt on me, she took my personal computer to a computer expert who was able to retrieve files I thought were all erased long ago. Got into my email accounts, retrieving emails I had trashed and deleted long ago. I don't know how. But she had conversations I had with people living a thousand miles from me, no way of meeting, but we had discussed things.
Nice. I had to play it down to co-workers, extended family, neighbors.... Thank GAWD almost everyone, even her own family, knew her to be a vicious, spiteful person with a hate on for the world. I could write her off as just making shit up about me, and they nodded, sympathetically. Helps, too, that she supplemented her rants against me with even more outlandish stories that couldn't possibly be true.
But people she had personal contact with, she showed them a stack of printouts. Stomach-crushing nightmare, even though none of it was porn or selfies. I just never keep stuff like that, and I've always known better than to send pictures of myself doing anything. If she'd had access to such things, holy crap.
So, yep. EVEN THE NOTION you might be a zoophile is a weapon a jilted lover could use later to destroy you. How much later? For the rest of your life.
Anyway, I moved away and lived on my own for a couple years after that. Didn't have a dog. Wasn't a practicing zoo. Then I met a woman that made me loopy. Damn! I was comfortable living on my own, feeling my freedom, vowed never to marry again, and next thing you know, I'm married. And it's been wonderful. AFTER WE WERE MARRIED, I discovered she was also zoo. She was so comfortable with me, she's actually the one that disclosed it and then there was a sudden, breathless sharing moment, trading interests, histories, desires back-and-forth.
I've lived both ways. This one is MUCH BETTER! I get to be "fully" married to someone, whom I do not fear would ever try to harm me. She's just not that mean. Very pleasant, cheerful, wholesome person.
In spite of that, I'm still going to say be very, very careful. There's still no guarantee that another person "knowing my business" isn't going to blow up in my face. I've occasionally seen news articles about boyfriends turning in their girlfriends, husbands turning in wives. Then their names are smeared not just locally, but internationally.
If you are like the OP, you would *hope* that your boyfriend would be your deepest secret keepers. Total trust, forever. But anything goes wrong, anything -- you've given him a powerful means of hurting you. And that's even if he's zoo himself! Even if he *does* approve (though less likely).
I'm married to another zoo. Even then, it's no guarantee. Because if she gets careless (as in the example directly above my response here), or, since about half of marriages end in divorce, she wants to fling something hurtful at me, guess what she can use as a powerful weapon if she decides to twist the story, lie, say *I* made her do it? It was a type of abuse? In my case (being male) that's an easier story to believe than that she was first to broach the topic.
On the other hand, I had been in a marriage where I could not tell my wife, where I felt "creepy" or dishonest, or not totally into the relationship because because I had to keep such a huge part of myself secret from her. So I fully "get" the need to confide. My wife now my life-partner, best friend, and every cliche you've probably ever heard about closest companions. I don't have to "sneak." I have don't have to lie or hide. That is a HUGE, wonderful thing to have in life.
It's that big a deal. Generally the advice here is going to be "No! Shhhhh!" But only you can know. This is incredibly thin ice you're talking about walking on.
My first wife did not know. I only hinted at the topic once, barely even broached it. Her reaction was explosive disgust. So that topic never came up again, and mostly I just "didn't." But... we had dogs. Large breeds. Indoor. And... it's pretty difficult "not to."
In short, I *lived* that double life that's been mentioned. It's a horrible way to live. It's like not being "fully married," because you are basically cheating -- or it feels like that. Married more than 20 years that way. When she filed for divorce, guess what ONE topic from years before got brandished for the world to see? And suspecting she could find dirt on me, she took my personal computer to a computer expert who was able to retrieve files I thought were all erased long ago. Got into my email accounts, retrieving emails I had trashed and deleted long ago. I don't know how. But she had conversations I had with people living a thousand miles from me, no way of meeting, but we had discussed things.
Nice. I had to play it down to co-workers, extended family, neighbors.... Thank GAWD almost everyone, even her own family, knew her to be a vicious, spiteful person with a hate on for the world. I could write her off as just making shit up about me, and they nodded, sympathetically. Helps, too, that she supplemented her rants against me with even more outlandish stories that couldn't possibly be true.
But people she had personal contact with, she showed them a stack of printouts. Stomach-crushing nightmare, even though none of it was porn or selfies. I just never keep stuff like that, and I've always known better than to send pictures of myself doing anything. If she'd had access to such things, holy crap.
So, yep. EVEN THE NOTION you might be a zoophile is a weapon a jilted lover could use later to destroy you. How much later? For the rest of your life.
Anyway, I moved away and lived on my own for a couple years after that. Didn't have a dog. Wasn't a practicing zoo. Then I met a woman that made me loopy. Damn! I was comfortable living on my own, feeling my freedom, vowed never to marry again, and next thing you know, I'm married. And it's been wonderful. AFTER WE WERE MARRIED, I discovered she was also zoo. She was so comfortable with me, she's actually the one that disclosed it and then there was a sudden, breathless sharing moment, trading interests, histories, desires back-and-forth.
I've lived both ways. This one is MUCH BETTER! I get to be "fully" married to someone, whom I do not fear would ever try to harm me. She's just not that mean. Very pleasant, cheerful, wholesome person.
In spite of that, I'm still going to say be very, very careful. There's still no guarantee that another person "knowing my business" isn't going to blow up in my face. I've occasionally seen news articles about boyfriends turning in their girlfriends, husbands turning in wives. Then their names are smeared not just locally, but internationally.
If you are like the OP, you would *hope* that your boyfriend would be your deepest secret keepers. Total trust, forever. But anything goes wrong, anything -- you've given him a powerful means of hurting you. And that's even if he's zoo himself! Even if he *does* approve (though less likely).
I'm married to another zoo. Even then, it's no guarantee. Because if she gets careless (as in the example directly above my response here), or, since about half of marriages end in divorce, she wants to fling something hurtful at me, guess what she can use as a powerful weapon if she decides to twist the story, lie, say *I* made her do it? It was a type of abuse? In my case (being male) that's an easier story to believe than that she was first to broach the topic.
On the other hand, I had been in a marriage where I could not tell my wife, where I felt "creepy" or dishonest, or not totally into the relationship because because I had to keep such a huge part of myself secret from her. So I fully "get" the need to confide. My wife now my life-partner, best friend, and every cliche you've probably ever heard about closest companions. I don't have to "sneak." I have don't have to lie or hide. That is a HUGE, wonderful thing to have in life.
It's that big a deal. Generally the advice here is going to be "No! Shhhhh!" But only you can know. This is incredibly thin ice you're talking about walking on.
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Zoo_curious
Tourist
Hi Sarah
I'll give you an answer from the perpestive of a partner that has been asked.
With hindsight it turned out to be one of the most erotic acts that I have been privileged to witness. It has widened my appreciation of the sensuality that can be shared with a partner.
It all started so innocently when my partner was playing with her dog. She was sitting in front of the fire rubbing the side of the dog's flank. The dog was getting excited whirling around her. So much so the red tip of its penis appeared. She noticed me looking, giggled and nonchalantly enquired would I like to see more.
The more she teased and played the more was the dog's excitement. To the extent that what I thought were two additional testicles appeared. When I stupidly enquired has he got four? More giggles was the response. She then explained it was the dog's 'love knot'.
At this stage it was the rubicon I was about to cross. Have you ever seen a dog ejaculate. No. Would you like to be shown? I was at such a heightened sense of curiosity the answer was a resounding yes.
Without a hesitation she grasped the shaft of the dog's penis behind the knot, pinned her hair behind the back of her ear so I had a full unobstructed view as she proceeded to run the tip of her tongue up and down the side of the dog's penis.
Wow, I was getting a hard on in my jeans that felt like a rock and she absolutely knew it.
I looked on in amazement that after several probes with her stiff tongue in the tip of the penis the dog ejaculated.
It was at this stage that she confessed to what now I had assumed.
She had had penetrative sex with her dog but found it frustrating when repeatedly the dog would fail to connect or stay mounted.
Would I help her.
As she slipped her knickers off I could help but notice the damp patch of excitement in her knickers.
She demonstrated to be how to glasp the dog's penis behind the knot. She got her on all fours. I mounted the dog on her still holding the penis, rubbed it up and down her labia then presented it to the entrance of her vagina.
Much to my surprise the dog just took off.
With each thrust the dog penetrated her more and more. So much so that after a while the dog's love knot disappeared up my partner's vagina.
At this point the dog just stopped thrusting and hung there motionless for an incredible 5 minutes.
During which I witnessed my partner climaxing twice.
Unbeknown to be at the time but explained by her after the event she had locked the dog's Penisula at the base of the knot with the muscles at the entrance to her vagina. This causes the dog's penis to expand in her vagina followed my ejaculation
Probably the most sensual experience of this extra ordinary event was as she slowly released the dog the sight of her vulva parting, the love knot crowning quickly followed by the penis
Then an absolute torrent of the dog's semen.
It was the most erotic sex act I've had the privilege to witness.
I wouldn't have missed it for the world.
My partner rewarded me by performing exquisite fellatio on me, all the while her dog was licking her pussy.
Go for it and don't fear any regrets.
Nothing ventured, nothing gained.
Locoluv
Citizen of Zooville
All good but make sure he is okay with it at least first, or it may end in disaster, Good luck @Sarah and you are a lucky man @Zoocurious
Latina Lover
Tourist
Keep to.yourself for a while...
Start playing silly games with your dog... Scratching his belly and Etc... Try to have sex somewhere where the dog can watch and let the dog hump on you while giving a BJ to your BF
Start playing silly games with your dog... Scratching his belly and Etc... Try to have sex somewhere where the dog can watch and let the dog hump on you while giving a BJ to your BF
Latina Lover
Tourist
Do you want to be my boyfriend?
petshoplust
Tourist
Here is what I did with my spouse.
I said I read a news article on The NY Times web site about a guy who was arrested for having sex with a dog. Glad I put it that way. She thought it was really gross, and something perverts did and really SICK people did. Needless to say, I did not bring up MY interactions with female dogs.
so for you. Can say you read a news story about a girl who was arrested when some tapes of her and a male dog were turned over to the police. It opens up the subject without revealing anything about your desires. Good luck.
I said I read a news article on The NY Times web site about a guy who was arrested for having sex with a dog. Glad I put it that way. She thought it was really gross, and something perverts did and really SICK people did. Needless to say, I did not bring up MY interactions with female dogs.
so for you. Can say you read a news story about a girl who was arrested when some tapes of her and a male dog were turned over to the police. It opens up the subject without revealing anything about your desires. Good luck.
KuriousK_9Kouple
Tourist
Seems to me this approach would illicit a normal societal response that it was repulsive because of the way the subject is being broached.
Zoo_curious
Tourist
Couldn’t agree with you more.
To approach a via negative question is probably not going to reveal the answer you desire.
This girl obviously is very fond of her dog.
Pick an opportunity which tests the potential more cleverly. Playing with the dog, it’s penis starts to show. ‘Gosh I wonder what it would be like to play with a dog‘s penis?‘ Encouraging response, next question ‘I wonder if a dog would enjoy oral as much as when I do it to you’.
Do it that way and she could find herself pushing at an open door.............
To approach a via negative question is probably not going to reveal the answer you desire.
This girl obviously is very fond of her dog.
Pick an opportunity which tests the potential more cleverly. Playing with the dog, it’s penis starts to show. ‘Gosh I wonder what it would be like to play with a dog‘s penis?‘ Encouraging response, next question ‘I wonder if a dog would enjoy oral as much as when I do it to you’.
Do it that way and she could find herself pushing at an open door.............
Zoo_curious
Tourist
re. This ‘should I get my bf to help’
it’s all about how you go about it.
what’s the difference between rape and seduction?
Technique.....
it’s all about how you go about it.
what’s the difference between rape and seduction?
Technique.....
lovezoomoms
Tourist
do you know his kinks? If any of his are 'weird' and he's openly admitted to them, that should at least be grounds for you to mention this.
I've told 4 women in my life that i'm into this, two of them said 'eh whatever, not for me', one was also into it and the other said she was but idk if it was true.
That being said, my kink is watching women fuck dogs/bringing a dog into the bedroom so maybe its easier to hear "I wanna watch a girl fuck a dog" than "I wanna fuck a dog"?
If it's someone you're open with sexually anyway, the liklihood is they'd just say they arent into it and leave it at that.
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BlueBeard
Guest
Or one step further... You got some good dirt on him? Counter blackmail? Then yeah, by all means pull the trigger!!!
My wife will never spill the beans about my zoophilia knowing I might reveal she screws her cousins.
Then you're *almost* safe to ask him to help.
LOL!!!
lovezoomoms
Tourist
I should hope OP doesnt have to treat it like blackmail
I just told them in person, that way in the unlikely event they were so grossed out that they decided to tell the world, there's no proof. Seems to work for me!
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BlueBeard
Guest
I should hope OP doesnt have to treat it like blackmail
Yep! Another way (though blackmail's cooler, just for the fact you know something kinky about the other person no one else knows.).
I see it going like this:
Her: "I would like your help having sex with the dog. How do you feel about that?"
Him: "Are you fuckin kidding me? OMG! Gross! I'm going to call the cops on you!!!"
Her: "About what?"
Him: "About fuckin our dog!"
Her: "Ew! Why would you think I wanted to fuck our dog?"
Him: "Because you just said so!"
Her: "No I didn't."
Him: "Yes, you did."
Her: "Nope. You have a sick mind."
Him: "Me?"
Her: "What kind of porn have you been watching, puts an idea like that in your head?"
Him: "But...."
Her: "I forgive you. Just don't do it again."
If they're not planning on ever getting married, doesn't matter. That kind of conversation sounds so marital, it would designate them common-law at the very least.
Counter blackmail (which I am not against for obvious reasons) and manipulation... Ouch. Sounds like some marriages to me though (and it's a damn shame having to say something like that though.) Gotta keep yourself safe though... ?
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chzmzz
Guest
I would love to....
Knotytoday
Tourist
Dump him. You wanna go out together???
nekdoneco123
Esteemed Citizen of ZV
was this really worth the necro?
Knotytoday
Tourist
I would agree. Kinda tease around the subject and see where it goes.
Bigpaws_Bear
Esteemed Citizen of ZV
My dog, asked me if I could get your Telephone number..
And I thought I was the thirsty one...