While I enjoy a BJ, only one woman has every made me cum from it. Most do it for a minute or so and I like the feeling, but it never really pushes me over the edge or brings me fully to it. It's like a pleasurable massage but not orgasmic. I see people mentioning sloppy, the last girl I was with did that and was a bit of a surprise to me. I let her do her technique, but I think I like it looking clean and knowing she's swallowing anything I'm producing while being sucked versus slobbering it out. Most of the time, a BJ just turns me on more to want to eat them out instead, which I prefer to do over being sucked. And as mentioned, I do love pussy over being sucked, especially if there is that internal muscle control. Sucking is a massage, a pussy is milking. As for how the one girl got me off, it was with a finger in my ass, first and only one who actually would do anything back there willingly and on her own. I know she was probably hitting my prostate, but no one since, including myself, has been able to find the trigger she found. When it was time for me to cum and she was ready to swallow, she just pulled my trigger. No way I was stopping and she had full control, It was crazy, one moment it was a massage, and literally a second later I was losing my mind as she gulped down what she wanted. I've been sucked and had others use a finger trying to get the same reaction, but 30 years later, still hasn't happened. She also had the best pussy control I think I ever felt. If I stopped to keep from cumming, her muscles made sure I did. Sex was great...until the ring hit her finger and strangled the drive out of her. Then she'd go weeks and months before letting me have anything. I was addicted to her "crack" and suddenly she went cold turkey when we got engaged. The dating lasted longer than the marriage. She was my first serious relationship, but while I've loved others more, she still might have been the best sexual match. Had things not changed after getting engaged/married, I suspect we would have grown a lot sexually. As I think now, she seemed a lot more open to experiment than most partners since with the all to familiar "no" when I'd suggest things.