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Loneliness and Zoo lifestyle

Pat98 said:
You think mating has become addicting for me? Is that why I see it as an all encompassing thing? As a silver bullet to any kind of emotional issue that may arise in everyday life?

Because I see it as a massive emotional comfort. And obviously a physical one too.

You think my mating with her is an emotional distraction?
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Sex is fun and awesome, whether you enjoy it with four legs or two doesn't matter. Everything else around it and besides the sex will decide whether you should get a human partner or embrace a serious relationship with your girl. The choice is yours but get some more experience with women before you decide, put your mind at ease.
 
SaltyDog said:
Do you take your dog to the park or other locations where people are? Having a dog at your side can often be an icebreaker in social situations. And when you do so, put on a smile. You just might be surprised what happens.

I'm wondering if you're over analizing things here. Often, when we stress over things we end up with too much pressure, for life to happen in a natural way. So, simply choose to be happy where you're at in life at the moment, and also choose to mingle with humans in a relaxed way.

So, cherish this. So many people don't have what you have with your girl. You are so lucky to have her in your life. Trust me on this one.

Well of course. @ZephyrZoo, myself and others here have been saying this as well. And it's ideal that you keep your dog as #1 in your life too.

NOT AT ALL!!! This is what makes Zoo love so special. This intimate bonding between the two of you is so very special. So STOP feeling "weird" or "guilty, lonely" or anything else that doesn't serve you well. Each of you are consenting adults. That's a beautiful thing!!!

So, I hope this helps you change your mind on how things really are for you. You have a lot going for you. Embrace it, own it, live it!

Hope this helps... ?
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Absolutely! Everything he said?? You think you've got your foot stuck in tar but it's honey I promise.
 
I have not had intimacy with a dog but have dreamed of it since I was 13-14. I have had intimacy with humans, but it did not give me the satisfaction I know I would get the first time with the right dog.

I've always been more prone to imagining scenarios with dogs or horses or (insert x here). With humans, unless I really know them and have high respect for them, I don't get attracted to them just by seeing them.

Like a random person on a street, I probably wouldn't imagine them in bed with me but with a loving and affectionate local dog? Probably.

That is not to say I don't crave a relationship romantically or sexually with humans, I just have not gotten there, so intimacy (does not even have to be sexual) is much more of an acquired desire.
 
America is no joke with adoptions. Almost like you have to sign away your life and pour all of your life savings into adopting ONE animal from a clinic or a shelter.

Yes, yes, I know they do it for security and safety of the animal but like, c'mon! It is so much. Why do you need to know my mother's maiden name and the last four digits of my social? /j
 
I never had those feeling at all I got into the lifestyle just by sheer curiosity after watching on a porn website and I wanted to experience it and I fell in love with it
 
That's certainly a question for you. I've dated or even loved women and men. Never effected my interest in dogs especially. When I first dated women I was excited, but it never felt right for me. Like it was always something that was expected of me, but I wasn't really into it.

Then I fell in love with a dude and life turned upside down. Ive been lucky enough to have lots of great relationships with wonderful people. But even still my attraction to dogs never left me.
 
Pat98 said:
A few days ago I was casually pounding my girl doggystyle….and we were facing our basement bedroom window. It was a very nice late afternoon early evening and as I was ploughing her….I saw a steady flow of young couples holding hands being very flirtatious with one another. My apartment building faces restaurants and bars.

For some reason when I saw that sight I started pounding her even harder…lots of flesh on fur type of sex, my balls slapping on that soft furry body of hers and then in a couple of minutes I came inside her.

The realization that the only sex I’ll get is with my dog wife made me think of something.
I really underestimated how much sexual frustration played a key role in me practically jumping at the opportunity to mate with my dog.

Would my life have been different if I had lost my virginity to a girl? Would I have even thought of ploughing my golden retriever if I had been like those couples I saw that evening?

Has anyone else faced these same questions? Did anyone else here start mating with their dogs because of how lonely and sexually frustrated/desperate they were? And then it sort of snow balled into something more? Into a lifetime mating kind of thing?

Let me know guys.
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For me, I saw it like a stair, it's more than being lonely it's more about being confident with ourselves, I first had sex with my dog, then I had sex with very near friends and then I had a partner with who I had a lot of sex. In the human history and even today in some small towns of Latin America, fathers make their sons have sex with cows, donkeys, horses and dogs to encourage them to have sex with women, I think today we have a lot of tabu in our civilization that make everyday people be more lonely, that's why I understood to don't judge and stop having fears, just be careful in who I can trust, just find someone who thinks like you about love, that's why this forum exist, maybe you can find love here more easily, I just will say, what ever makes your heart be filled, just doit, just with respect and don't hurting anybody.
 
I think i'm in the same boat as Pat. I have some friends but communication is few and far between and i'm usually the one who initiates. I've never had a gf and probably never will and i told myself i will get a female dog for companionship and sex. Makes me feel bad tbh
 
I must be retarded or something else, bc my attraction to (to be specific, quadrupeds, and then later figured out canine) came to me at age 10ish or less. Before "Puberty" I "whoops" found out I like canine in heat before reasonable thought, because my first ever sexual memory was with a border collie that I think was in heat.
 
My loneliness stems from a lack of being able to be myself and celebrate with others around me. I was able to do this when I came out as gay, and I had people support, humble, and help me ease into accepting this about me. With this? I can't even visit someone in person without that lingering fear of it being a bust. I need local support to feel accepted in myself. I can't do this due to the legality of it. Because at least these days. Thankfully. Being gay won't send you to jail but God forbid you learn how to satisfy your male dog in heat. God forbid I want to suck a dog dick knowing how it pleases them and how not to do it and make them happy but I'm cruel. This world sucks man. I guess it's not I'm ashamed of who I am but I definitively feel loneliness and just wish I could meet mutuals without having be to scared. Let alone be accepted in public.
 
I think you can have both if your heart desires. Finding someone accepting of your practice that you can trust and partner up with is great. Personally, I need human contact but maybe not so much for sex. Its nice to have someone around to share all of life's other rewards.
 
I feel you on this one. There's a lot of complexity in the way loneliness and sexual frustration can lead someone down paths we might not have anticipated. Your story resonates with the dichotomy between what society deems "normal" and the personal journeys we undertake.

For some, the zoo lifestyle isn't just about sexual frustration or loneliness; it's about a deep connection with their animals, a bond that transcends the conventional. However, I can't deny that for others, including myself at times, these feelings have indeed played a significant role in the beginning.

When I first started, it was partly from a place of loneliness and curiosity, wondering if there could be more to this relationship than companionship. Over time, what started as a desperate act or an experiment evolved into something much deeper, a part of my identity. I found not just sexual satisfaction but a profound emotional connection, something that felt missing from human interactions in my life at that point.

Would things have been different if I had more typical human sexual experiences earlier? Maybe, but who's to say if they would have been better or worse? The zoo lifestyle, for me, has become about more than just filling a void; it's about companionship, love, and yes, sexual fulfillment, but on terms that are uniquely mine. You're not alone in these questions or feelings. I've seen and heard from others in the community who started out of similar places of loneliness or frustration, only to find that their experiences evolved into something that's a significant part of their life. It's a journey from what might be seen as a point of desperation to one of discovery and acceptance of oneself.

The key here is understanding why you feel this way, what you seek from these relationships, and how they fit into your life now. It's about navigating your desires, your loneliness, and how you connect with your "dog wife" in a way that's fulfilling for both of you.

You're part of a community where these feelings are shared, where we can discuss the complexity of our choices and experiences without judgment. Keep talking, keep sharing, because in doing so, you might find clarity or at least companionship in your thoughts and experiences💕
 
Pat98 said:
A few days ago I was casually pounding my girl doggystyle….and we were facing our basement bedroom window. It was a very nice late afternoon early evening and as I was ploughing her….I saw a steady flow of young couples holding hands being very flirtatious with one another. My apartment building faces restaurants and bars.

For some reason when I saw that sight I started pounding her even harder…lots of flesh on fur type of sex, my balls slapping on that soft furry body of hers and then in a couple of minutes I came inside her.

The realization that the only sex I’ll get is with my dog wife made me think of something.
I really underestimated how much sexual frustration played a key role in me practically jumping at the opportunity to mate with my dog.

Would my life have been different if I had lost my virginity to a girl? Would I have even thought of ploughing my golden retriever if I had been like those couples I saw that evening?

Has anyone else faced these same questions? Did anyone else here start mating with their dogs because of how lonely and sexually frustrated/desperate they were? And then it sort of snow balled into something more? Into a lifetime mating kind of thing?

Let me know guys.
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That’s beautifully described. I can picture the scene. Wish I could help you have the human experience also. Ideally we need both.
 
Pat98 said:
A few days ago I was casually pounding my girl doggystyle….and we were facing our basement bedroom window. It was a very nice late afternoon early evening and as I was ploughing her….I saw a steady flow of young couples holding hands being very flirtatious with one another. My apartment building faces restaurants and bars.

For some reason when I saw that sight I started pounding her even harder…lots of flesh on fur type of sex, my balls slapping on that soft furry body of hers and then in a couple of minutes I came inside her.

The realization that the only sex I’ll get is with my dog wife made me think of something.
I really underestimated how much sexual frustration played a key role in me practically jumping at the opportunity to mate with my dog.

Would my life have been different if I had lost my virginity to a girl? Would I have even thought of ploughing my golden retriever if I had been like those couples I saw that evening?

Has anyone else faced these same questions? Did anyone else here start mating with their dogs because of how lonely and sexually frustrated/desperate they were? And then it sort of snow balled into something more? Into a lifetime mating kind of thing?

Let me know guys.
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I myself haven't actually done anything besides letting a boy lick me. But I do often ask myself would I be the same if I had friends growing up or having dated other guys.. ik what I'm happy with rn and stuff but I also feel lonely cause I don't feel like I relate to many ppl irl.. and I feel like I have to hide anywhere I go. But I mean I'm happy, so yea I've had questions kinda like that at times. I'm still trying to be ok with who I am I think, and I will :) ty for sharing btw.
 
My impression of human-dog relationships have changed a lot over time. This post made me think I should describe it in a separate post.
 
Hi Pat. I noticed your thread, and I wanted to share my thoughts. I know this is long, but I think it will all apply and give you some perspective.

You've gotten great advice from the community, and I wanted to share with you a little, if that's ok.

Just to give you some background, my first sexual encounter ever was a pony mare that took my virginity (I am a guy... just want to make that clear, lol). I have always been attracted to horses- I have loved them all my life. Being somewhat isolated from girls my own age and being teased and picked on in school, I wasn't popular, and had little to no interaction with girls romantically, although I desperately desired a relationship with a girl. Being a horny teenager, I wanted sex like crazy, and the pony mare was happy to oblige. We had sex multiple times, but it was never able to develop past that as she didn't belong to me.

I was approached by a girl in high school that wanted to be with me, and I fell in love with her almost instantly. Sadly, this girl destroyed me by breaking up with me not long afterwards. I was crushed. We dated again for a short period of time, but she broke it off completely and I was left to nurse my broken heart for a long time (it took me a year to be able to hear a certain song without breaking down in tears).

My first marriage failed as a result of my spouse repeatedly cheating on me. We had both dogs and cats, and although I wasn't able to do anything sexually with the dogs (they were too small), I did let my dogs French kiss me. I enjoyed the feeling of their tongues in my mouth, and would have done more if I could have. Between my first and second marriages, I bought my first two horses. Other than masturbating while astride them, I was not sexually active with them.

I got married again, not learning my lesson from my first marriage. We had my two horses and we bought a third together. We ended up selling one of my two, and settled there for quite some time. We ended up having two boys together, and our marriage started eroding after the kids came along. As the marriage eroded, my previous sexuality started arising and I became interested in sex with horses again. The last years of our marriage were very unhappy, and sexuality between us was very limited. I turned to the horses for sexual release, and had many mare lovers, as well as a few geldings that enjoyed anal sex.

After we split, a Facebook friend of mine shared a post with me on the most lovely mare I've ever laid eyes on. A GORGEOUS chocolate colored mare with a beautiful long mane and thick full tail. I went down to meet her, and was smitten almost instantly. She was kind, affectionate, and exceedingly beautiful. I took her home and started working with her, and we built a beautiful, trusting relationship. I was fully active sexually with some of the mares I was around, and of course, my interest was on her, but I wanted to make sure we had built a good relationship together before I attempted anything with her.

We had just started being intimate when I met a woman and we started seeing each other. As I didn't want secrets in our relationship, I told her that I had been intimate with my mare, and she, of course, was shocked. She then got jealous and mistrusting of me and my mare (which I had stopped being intimate with because of my and my girlfriend's relationship) and we fought a lot because of her. I finally (and heartbreakingly) decided to sell my mare, as she was causing too many problems between us. I thought our relationship could go the distance, so I wanted all my effort and attention on it. That turned out to be one of the worst decisions I've ever made, as our relationship crumbled two years later.

Fortunately, the mare I sold ended up with one of my best friends, and after my gf and I split, she offered the mare back to me. I gladly accepted, and my mare has been back with me for over a year now.

That's my background- now here's the part I'm sharing with you because I'd like you to see how a relationship with your dog can develop. Over the past year, I have been developing the relationship with my mare. It's like we picked up right where we left off... like we were never apart. I've continued her training, as to my standard she was still green (still learning how to be ridden properly) when I got her back, and over the course of that time I have started being more aware of how SHE feels with what I'm doing with her. I have moved to positive reinforcement techniques for training, and that was the big jump-start to our current relationship.

A few months ago, a fellow zoophile started challenging me to see her in a different light. To spend more time with her, but not to train her, but just to be WITH her. To hear her, to understand what she might be saying to me, to listen to her. It didn't take long before I started to fall in love with my mare. When that happened, things started to shift yet again. She is now my mate, my wife. I have given her a surname, and in my heart I have taken her surname instead of giving her my last name. She is a part of my soul now... and it's painful to be away from her for any length of time. I attached pictures of my ring for her and her rhythm bead necklace, which is her "ring", to show my commitment to her.

I wanted to share this with you, as in your original post you were talking about seeing others in relationship and how it turned you on. Perhaps the reason why it turned you on is that you're now EXPERIENCING relationship with your pooch, and seeing couples together is helping you to realize that you have that with her, which sexually excited you. I am discovering the amazing depth of connection that I have with my mare, and the love that I feel for her is incredible. An animal communicator friend of mine told me that she is deeply in love with me as well, and that is a balm to my soul, to know that my love for her is reciprocated. I also wanted to share my perspective from the human relationship side of things. Relationships with humans become complex, as emotions, past baggage, and personality conflicts arise. Sexuality with humans tends to complicate things, as the women I have been with tend to use sex as a weapon to get things to be how they want them to be. I'm not trying to discourage you from trying, as several different members suggested you try a human relationship to see what you think. I agree with them. I now know that relationship with my animals is far less complex and easier to manage that a relationship with a woman. I also feel safe to love again, as I know that my mare will not break up with me and break my heart. A deeply committed relationship with your pooch will be an amazing thing. You should see where it goes!!
 

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SaraZooville said:
I feel you on this one. There's a lot of complexity in the way loneliness and sexual frustration can lead someone down paths we might not have anticipated. Your story resonates with the dichotomy between what society deems "normal" and the personal journeys we undertake.

For some, the zoo lifestyle isn't just about sexual frustration or loneliness; it's about a deep connection with their animals, a bond that transcends the conventional. However, I can't deny that for others, including myself at times, these feelings have indeed played a significant role in the beginning.

When I first started, it was partly from a place of loneliness and curiosity, wondering if there could be more to this relationship than companionship. Over time, what started as a desperate act or an experiment evolved into something much deeper, a part of my identity. I found not just sexual satisfaction but a profound emotional connection, something that felt missing from human interactions in my life at that point.

Would things have been different if I had more typical human sexual experiences earlier? Maybe, but who's to say if they would have been better or worse? The zoo lifestyle, for me, has become about more than just filling a void; it's about companionship, love, and yes, sexual fulfillment, but on terms that are uniquely mine. You're not alone in these questions or feelings. I've seen and heard from others in the community who started out of similar places of loneliness or frustration, only to find that their experiences evolved into something that's a significant part of their life. It's a journey from what might be seen as a point of desperation to one of discovery and acceptance of oneself.

The key here is understanding why you feel this way, what you seek from these relationships, and how they fit into your life now. It's about navigating your desires, your loneliness, and how you connect with your "dog wife" in a way that's fulfilling for both of you.

You're part of a community where these feelings are shared, where we can discuss the complexity of our choices and experiences without judgment. Keep talking, keep sharing, because in doing so, you might find clarity or at least companionship in your thoughts and experiences💕
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I love how you expressed this! I'd like it if I could. Like your profile picture btw
 
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