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I came out!

Spekpup

Spekpup

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I came out to my bf finally as a zoo and to my shock he still accepts me and took everything in calm and collected with the same sense of humor he always has.

I’m tearing up thinking about it now but was a sobbing mess when he embraced me and let me know he still loves me and supports me. So far he’s the only one who knows and to be honest that’s totally ok with me. It feels like a giant burden off my shoulders while trying to live this double life.

I just want to thank the forum and everyone I’ve talked to so far for giving me the courage and confidence to do it .
 
Spekpup said:
I came out to my bf finally as a zoo and to my shock he still accepts me and took everything in calm and collected with the same sense of humor he always has.

I’m tearing up thinking about it now but was a sobbing mess when he embraced me and let me know he still loves me and supports me. So far he’s the only one who knows and to be honest that’s totally ok with me. It feels like a giant burden off my shoulders while trying to live this double life.

I just want to thank the forum and everyone I’ve talked to so far for giving me the courage and confidence to do it .
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I came out to my girlfriend about how I have been a zoo since I was 14 years old. I was in tears, sobbing like a child as if I was ashamed. We had just got back together after eleven years apart. She just burst out laughing at me and told me she had known since I was 16! I was apparently the inspiration for her to become a zoo. I had no idea!!

Life is a strange thing. It was through the support of my ZV friends that I found the strength to do it. I love this place.
 
HoundDogRuffDog said:
Hey, that's wonderful! Congrats!

I've come out to many of my partners. Maybe all of them if you only count by "serious relationship" status, I didn't tell flings, of course.
IRL very few people really care, the internet might seem like a zoophile-hate machine, but it's just reactionary and performative.
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Thank you, that really means a lot since it’s been a bit tough I’ll admit in reference to online spaces. I’m trying to learn to laugh at the really awful stuff and not take it personally since none of those people saying these asinine things know me or what I stand for
 
Spekpup said:
I came out to my bf finally as a zoo and to my shock he still accepts me and took everything in calm and collected with the same sense of humor he always has.

I’m tearing up thinking about it now but was a sobbing mess when he embraced me and let me know he still loves me and supports me. So far he’s the only one who knows and to be honest that’s totally ok with me. It feels like a giant burden off my shoulders while trying to live this double life.

I just want to thank the forum and everyone I’ve talked to so far for giving me the courage and confidence to do it .
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verry brave
 
so first off, i am happy for you.

but I also wonder. why? I would never tell anyone unless i know they are into it too. I had a friend who came out and his parents disowned him and even called the cops on him. I am very happy for you taht it went well. But especially given the current cultural climate, Society is way more anti-zoo then ever. They equate all zoo with abuse and even lump it together with other forms of sexual abuse. I feel like it's taking a big risk. especially if you have animals. then they could be like "this person is raping their animals" and call the cops and then you are screwed.
 
beastboi88 said:
so first off, i am happy for you.

but I also wonder. why? I would never tell anyone unless i know they are into it too. I had a friend who came out and his parents disowned him and even called the cops on him. I am very happy for you taht it went well. But especially given the current cultural climate, Society is way more anti-zoo then ever. They equate all zoo with abuse and even lump it together with other forms of sexual abuse. I feel like it's taking a big risk. especially if you have animals. then they could be like "this person is raping their animals" and call the cops and then you are screwed.
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Me and my partner pretty much tell each other everything and it became too much guilt to bear to keep something this important away from him. I already have a clear understanding of his character and already weighed out the pros and cons of this heading south- at worst I’d have a broken relationship and have to move out as there’s no physical evidence of abuse and he knows bottom line I would NEVER harm an animal like that.

Sometimes you just have to trust your gut on these things and I chose mine and for my situation it went fine but for others it may not
 
Congratulations! :husky_happysmile:I remember when I came out to my girlfriend what a relief it was to have someone so close to you accept you. It's good to have that amount of trust with someone
 
You are very lucky my friend! I am proud you were able to come out so successful. Also a bit envious XP I tried coming out once by introducing the subject; luckily I was watching a movie that made a jab at the subject so it was a good segway; the person I was with had a reaction to my bringing it up that was pretty unpleasant lol. Compared us to pedos; despite his claim being flat out wrong I can't blame him for feeling that way, so many of the people in the world do. Luckily it's not scaring me from expressing my zoo side....it's always gonna be part of me. Now I just hope I can meet more people in this community....those who aren't flakes or odd jobs
 
Congratulations, sounds like this was a reallly good experience for you which is wonderful to hear. I can't imagine summoning up the courage it must take. Maybe one day...
 
Congratulations, I'm very happy for you.
Thats how a realationship should be, two people who love, accept and support each other, no matter what.
I know the relief and happiness when you tell your partner and he/she is ok with it.
 
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