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Human sex lack of interest

jen_sweetvoxx said:
Last time we had a serious disagreement about these same issues I said I needed space and time away he came unglued, I realized how hurt he was and how much I missed him. We got back together. I tried to stuff my desires and things got better a very little bit. But really nothing has changed. Doesn't mean we don't love each other. I think what you may be misunderstanding is that it's not like our sex has ever been good. It never has been great.
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Don’t let his feeling control you. I’ve had a few friends with similar boyfriends. My ex did the same thing, and always played it off like she wasn’t. People can be very manipulative. Just be careful. The longer it goes on, the messier it will be. People will say they love someone, and do some pretty fucked up things.
 
jen_sweetvoxx said:
I left a long marriage because it was sexless. A very painful parting. I had more than a decade of burying my desires until I just couldn't do it. Now this. I'm heartbroken. I've been struggling with this man for a year now trying everything to figure this out. He it seems just doesn't get it. He thinks things are fine. The sex is fine he says. He has never married nor has he had any relationships that have lasted more than two years and the reasons were always infidelity. I'm thinking because the sex was very unsatisfying just like what I'm going through. He is the sweetest most perfect person. I don't want to hurt him ever. But I can't give up my needs forever. I don't think it's sustainable. I see him only on weekends and temptation is very real for me. I was very active sexually before I met him and had no intention on changing that. I don't have any idea what to do. No solution that won't cause some real pain. And I don't want to loose him either
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Dump him. Find someone who gives you what you need and don't waste any more time on him. Women know what a man isn't fully committed and this one obviously isn't.
 
jen_sweetvoxx said:
I love a man that introduced me to the zoo life. Even though I get turned on by it all I can't imagine it replacing my desire for sex with a human male. Do men that are into this find that they just aren't interested or just not as turned on by heterosexual human sexual acts? He gets really excited by zoo acts but fucking me not really so much. I feel he is trying to force himself to for my sake or what society has told him he should be. Can anyone shed some light on their experience with this.
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I can not speak for your man but I know I am equally thrilled by the prospect of a willing human partner as I am with any animal. Just as you have asexual folks, homosexuals, lesbians, etc.. so too are there going to be those like your SO. Life can throw so many curveballs and sadly there is no way to change the facts no matter how hard we want things to be.

I say dump him a this point because where you state he will not let you find a way to fulfill your desires he has shown himself to be a very selfish, self centered, self serving individual. He found a willing dupe who he could use to fulfill all his needs wants and desires and has hung you out to dry it would seem. If you are not married there is no need to to be part of something that is one sided in his favor. I personally would encourage you to find someone to help you find complete happiness if I could not provide for all you needs if I was in his shoes. True love says I care enough to let you be happy in all things and ways go find that happiness and come back to me when your are fulfilled and I will love you as much if not more than before heck bring the dude home so we can meet and make friendly. Hell get a younger man than I if that floats yer boat. No room for jealousy or restrictions in this short life If I can sample many flavors of ice cream so too should I not be able to sample all the wonderful flavors that humanity has to offer? Such a lovely banquet that is on the table for our feasting and so many folks opt of a boring bowl of oatmeal.

I say do what will make you fulfilled and happy it is your right as a free human being to do so.
 
jen_sweetvoxx said:
God thank you. So good to hear someone that gets it. It's taken me a year to understand whats happening. I'm planning on having a long discussion with him this weekend. It's truly not fair to me what's going on. I really feel for him because I know he is struggling also. I don't think he has been really honest with himself or me about things either. I think he was and is hoping somehow I can save him from his proclivity towards zoo and also as you said use me as a prop for his friends. I've tried everything to help the sex we have be more exciting but it doesn't matter I know what turns him on and even though he refuses to admit it it's dogs and also horses. I believe he does love me but more like a good friend and someone that gives him lots of affection... He does like that. He has refused all talk about an open relationship so I'm heartbroken that my choice will have to be to leave him. I also think he would be happy if he had a dog companion/lover. He wants us to get one together and he wants to watch me let a male use me. I find that actually a turn on but I've told him it can never replace my need for human sex even if that goal is reached. I also am pretty sure that he wants to be used by the animal also as he has hinted at it but is shy about talking about it. If that were to happen and I wait around for that to be a sexual release for him our poor sex life could very likely diminish into nothing. He has hinted at marrying me lately I'm thinking to seal the deal and make it harder for me to leave him. I have no intention of marriage again in my life. I do love him and I want the best for him truly but I have no faith he can change this thing as hard as he may at this point wish to. And I'm starving for sex. An entire year of perplexity and asking him what is wrong. Trying to get him to admit that something is just not working right sexually. If you don't mind can you share with me how you and your partner have worked this out?
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It’s really up to you how you proceed with this relationship. In my opinion it sounds like from his habits he masturbates a lot and may have developed unrealistic standards towards sex irl. But since he does seem very against talking and working things out he may just be straight zoosexual but may also just enjoy humans romantically
 
jen_sweetvoxx said:
God thank you. So good to hear someone that gets it. It's taken me a year to understand whats happening. I'm planning on having a long discussion with him this weekend. It's truly not fair to me what's going on. I really feel for him because I know he is struggling also. I don't think he has been really honest with himself or me about things either. I think he was and is hoping somehow I can save him from his proclivity towards zoo and also as you said use me as a prop for his friends. I've tried everything to help the sex we have be more exciting but it doesn't matter I know what turns him on and even though he refuses to admit it it's dogs and also horses. I believe he does love me but more like a good friend and someone that gives him lots of affection... He does like that. He has refused all talk about an open relationship so I'm heartbroken that my choice will have to be to leave him. I also think he would be happy if he had a dog companion/lover. He wants us to get one together and he wants to watch me let a male use me. I find that actually a turn on but I've told him it can never replace my need for human sex even if that goal is reached. I also am pretty sure that he wants to be used by the animal also as he has hinted at it but is shy about talking about it. If that were to happen and I wait around for that to be a sexual release for him our poor sex life could very likely diminish into nothing. He has hinted at marrying me lately I'm thinking to seal the deal and make it harder for me to leave him. I have no intention of marriage again in my life. I do love him and I want the best for him truly but I have no faith he can change this thing as hard as he may at this point wish to. And I'm starving for sex. An entire year of perplexity and asking him what is wrong. Trying to get him to admit that something is just not working right sexually. If you don't mind can you share with me how you and your partner have worked this out?
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You are more than welcome. I understand how challenging this situation can be, for both sides of the relationship. I am happy to share a bit of my experience if it helps you! I'll send you a personal message with what's worked for my partner and I, if that's ok. Some things are, well, personal. But in the meantime, let me address some of the things you mentioned.

Your reasoning and intuition are probably on the money. No doubt he is struggling with this, as many of us on this board are. It took years and years of me trying to suppress and deny my sexual orientation to realize it was something I could not change. For me, it was not a choice - I am just wired this way. He might also be struggling with homosexual attraction to animals (at least) which is another difficult thing to deal with as a "real man" in our society. So your suspicion that he might be looking to you to "save him" in some way makes sense. I did the same thing with my first few relationships and it didn't work. I wish the best for you, but until he's honest with himself, he'll never be honest with you. It's a real shame because you sound like a keeper! At least a thousand guys on this board would give their left nut to have their GF be willing to try things with a dog and be turned on by it! Perhaps you shouldn't waste any more time.
 
It seems you're possibly dealing with more factors than I'm able to account for with just my experience, and I do my best to only give advice when I'm not guessing/speculating. I can't tell you whether it would be best to address this directly or not, but keeping it to yourself doesn't seem healthy if you're feeling neglected or like things have reached the point where sacrifices are being made as a one way street. I sincerely hope this ends up being something you can work through with as little frustration as possible. I, personally... would do almost anything to find another accepting woman to share all my quirks with. It's been a few years and I really miss it.
 
jen_sweetvoxx said:
I love a man that introduced me to the zoo life. Even though I get turned on by it all I can't imagine it replacing my desire for sex with a human male. Do men that are into this find that they just aren't interested or just not as turned on by heterosexual human sexual acts? He gets really excited by zoo acts but fucking me not really so much. I feel he is trying to force himself to for my sake or what society has told him he should be. Can anyone shed some light on their experience with this.
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I like both but my partner not really into zoo stuff but if say that the zoo is more of something to do when she's not going to be here for a couple of days
 
Its a little odd as he obviously had a sexual interest in you to start with and then introduced you to Zoo sex. So at some point he had sexual interest in you we presume. I get he is very much into Zoo sex now and things change. Perhaps you could share animal like activities in your human sex, pony/pup play, using a tail etc. Maybe you could enjoy your animal partner together ? Its all a little difficult without hearign his side of things. You really need to talk with him about it. It need not be confrontational, but you both want to enjoy a fulfilling sex life, hopefully together, so ask what that may look like for him and in turn yourself. Ask in a manner that would show you are looking to expand and grow with him, not challenge his needs. You have this!
 
ChestnutDane said:
Its a little odd as he obviously had a sexual interest in you to start with and then introduced you to Zoo sex. So at some point he had sexual interest in you we presume. I get he is very much into Zoo sex now and things change. Perhaps you could share animal like activities in your human sex, pony/pup play, using a tail etc. Maybe you could enjoy your animal partner together ? Its all a little difficult without hearign his side of things. You really need to talk with him about it. It need not be confrontational, but you both want to enjoy a fulfilling sex life, hopefully together, so ask what that may look like for him and in turn yourself. Ask in a manner that would show you are looking to expand and grow with him, not challenge his needs. You have this!
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So that's pretty much what we did this weekend. We did the usual watching dog porn which I really enjoy also. Then we had sex a few times without that focus. It was a good weekend because as is the pattern after a few weeks if me feeling sexually neglected he will focus on pleasing me. Then the repeat. We had a frank conversation about my fears and he admits that they are somewhat legitimate.
 
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Good job on having the difficult conversations ? Relationships are hard work! The only thing I would add is how do you break the cycle? Maybe you put the ball in his court and challenge him to come up with a solution? This can't be only your priority.

I think it would also be worth discussing what exactly excites both of you when you watch the porn. If you know what each other are feeling and what fantasies it evokes, this would help gain some insight into what works for each of you. Might lead to an even more interesting sex life, or might make you realize you are on opposite ends of the spectrum but hopefully the former and not the latter!
 
Lokissimo said:
Good job on having the difficult conversations ? Relationships are hard work! The only thing I would add is how do you break the cycle? Maybe you put the ball in his court and challenge him to come up with a solution? This can't be only your priority.

I think it would also be worth discussing what exactly excites both of you when you watch the porn. If you know what each other are feeling and what fantasies it evokes, this would help gain some insight into what works for each of you. Might lead to an even more interesting sex life, or might make you realize you are on opposite ends of the spectrum but hopefully the former and not the latter!
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Believe me we have discussed this. For me it's directly that I feed off his excitement. He claims it's the same for him. But I didn't introduce him to it he introduced me.
 
I have lack of interest for the vast majority of females I encounter.
Also not shy about calling a female a BITCH to her face if I’m provoked.
That must be a side effect of watching doggy porn ?.
 
jen_sweetvoxx said:
Believe me we have discussed this. For me it's directly that I feed off his excitement. He claims it's the same for him. But I didn't introduce him to it he in
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Have you considered getting him to like stop watching any porn at all? Even if it's just for like a few days or a week maybe?

I'm assuming he's jacking it big time lol maybe he just needs a break and when he's restless because he's craving sexual release then you're the one to provide it.

You could also go really overboard making the sex as intimate as possible. Always whisper in his ear and make lots of eye contact. When you're riding him, rub his chest and make him feel special. Do whatever you can to make sure that watching porn is just a dull experience compared to being with you?
 
It may not be the same case, but I can say I enjoy both sex, nevertheless, my housband is who isinuated me to have sex, from my part i will practically no look for it.
While mating with my dog, it is a little bit different since i look for him to mount me, it is a kind on necessity, i am a lot more exited when I know i will be mating with my dog, all the game for sure is more intense between the licking mount and breeding, so I can say I am more intrested in zoo tha in human sex
 
jen_sweetvoxx said:
I love a man that introduced me to the zoo life. Even though I get turned on by it all I can't imagine it replacing my desire for sex with a human male. Do men that are into this find that they just aren't interested or just not as turned on by heterosexual human sexual acts? He gets really excited by zoo acts but fucking me not really so much. I feel he is trying to force himself to for my sake or what society has told him he should be. Can anyone shed some light on their experience with this.
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Whats naturally physically special about humans? Nothing, soo we dont need em.

Animals just do fine and they are simple, they dont wear clothes because its shameful or inapropiate i love simple natural life as do they, screw humans pound a horse save a horse.
 
Sodamnrandom said:
Have you considered getting him to like stop watching any porn at all? Even if it's just for like a few days or a week maybe?

I'm assuming he's jacking it big time lol maybe he just needs a break and when he's restless because he's craving sexual release then you're the one to provide it.

You could also go really overboard making the sex as intimate as possible. Always whisper in his ear and make lots of eye contact. When you're riding him, rub his chest and make him feel special. Do whatever you can to make sure that watching porn is just a dull experience compared to being with you?
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Yeah well I already do all of that. I've suggested he tone down his porn addiction. He has tried. He knows it has an affect on our sex. Life. It's complicated.
 
Yù lóng said:
Whats naturally physically special about humans? Nothing, soo we dont need em.

Animals just do fine and they are simple, they dont wear clothes because its shameful or inapropiate i love simple natural life as do they, screw humans pound a horse save a horse.
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Well I think humans are absolutely fabulous. Nothing can replace them if that's what you are wanting. I absolutely love men. I can't imagine anything that could replace that for me. My boyfriend is absolutely lovely to me and he feels the same about me. Just saying.https://mega.nz/file/utRXWbBS#NsxPj2X84Jd9BQSuwo2UMhTg2qvZvh34Qf8xHGdQTqA
 
RebeccaAlx said:
It may not be the same case, but I can say I enjoy both sex, nevertheless, my housband is who isinuated me to have sex, from my part i will practically no look for it.
While mating with my dog, it is a little bit different since i look for him to mount me, it is a kind on necessity, i am a lot more exited when I know i will be mating with my dog, all the game for sure is more intense between the licking mount and breeding, so I can say I am more intrested in zoo tha in human sex
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perfecto
 
RebeccaAlx said:
It may not be the same case, but I can say I enjoy both sex, nevertheless, my housband is who isinuated me to have sex, from my part i will practically no look for it.
While mating with my dog, it is a little bit different since i look for him to mount me, it is a kind on necessity, i am a lot more exited when I know i will be mating with my dog, all the game for sure is more intense between the licking mount and breeding, so I can say I am more intrested in zoo tha in human sex
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Love your mindset. I gues your husband get to go as a sloppy second?
 
As I got older I've come to find humans universally unattractive and our species as a whole to be downright disgusting in many ways. I can tolerate a few but overall I don't like being around or talking with people for anything more than a few minutes. I'm pretty much only attracted to a variety of anthro species and feral horses. I'll occasionally fool around with people, on the rare occurrence that we share niche interests and kinks as I can sometimes be attracted to a person's personality, but only men.
 
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