Human sex lack of interest

[jen_sweetvoxx]

I love a man that introduced me to the zoo life. Even though I get turned on by it all I can't imagine it replacing my desire for sex with a human male. Do men that are into this find that they just aren't interested or just not as turned on by heterosexual human sexual acts? He gets really excited by zoo acts but fucking me not really so much. I feel he is trying to force himself to for my sake or what society has told him he should be. Can anyone shed some light on their experience with this.

 

[JoeJoe_19]

There is some people that are zoo exclusive where they’ll feel absolutely no sexual attraction to humans (essentially the same as homosexuality and heterosexuality) where as some others will have multiple attractions (like bi sexuality)

 

[jen_sweetvoxx]

Okay. Thanks for responding. I'm thinking though that he may be attempting to force himself to want sex with me but he really isn't passionate about it.
I really don't think he wants to have sex with me and uses excuses.. and I'm really sexy and love sex.

 

[pes]

and I'm really sexy

That is what you think though.

 

[JoeJoe_19]

Okay. Thanks for responding. I'm thinking though that he may be attempting to force himself to want sex with me but he really isn't passionate about it.
I really don't think he wants to have sex with me and uses excuses.. and I'm really sexy and love sex.

Just ask him, but be careful about phrasing you don’t want to sound upset or harsh towards him

 

[jen_sweetvoxx]

Yes. I have no judgement. No reason to be harsh. I'm just trying to understand and help us both.

 

[Bluephoenyx]

I love a man that introduced me to the zoo life. Even though I get turned on by it all I can't imagine it replacing my desire for sex with a human male. Do men that are into this find that they just aren't interested or just not as turned on by heterosexual human sexual acts? He gets really excited by zoo acts but fucking me not really so much. I feel he is trying to force himself to for my sake or what society has told him he should be. Can anyone shed some light on their experience with this.

Well... i get your question and i can tell from my personal experience that i do find both experiences exciting and nice. I know some people actually focus TOO MUCH into the zoo aspect and i'm not gonna say it's good or bad, but i'd reconsider how is it and what to expect if i'd get in a relationship with someone if i'm just getting aroused by the zoo side of sex. Have you talked to him about this ? this could be a nice way to vent out some doubts from you, but i know this isn't always easy or sometimes it isn't either an option.

Ps: I always say that if i could mix both sexualities it would be a dream to me

 

[jen_sweetvoxx]

That is what you think though.

I almost attached a picture but no need.

 

[Mare Lover 1975]

No sexual interest at all in humans, it's nothing unusual with Zoos to only be attracted to whichever specific species they're into.

Mares and deer for myself, could not care if someone looks like Aphrodite they'll not get my attention.

 

[JazzyPaws]

I'll add that I'm MOSTLY just attracted to the dogs. Craving a human is extremely rare and even when I do, it falls short of what I thought it would be

 

[egoldstein]

Okay. Thanks for responding. I'm thinking though that he may be attempting to force himself to want sex with me but he really isn't passionate about it.
I really don't think he wants to have sex with me and uses excuses.. and I'm really sexy and love sex.

If you think he might not be interested, but attempting just to please...try talking with him. For some people the extra stress of feeling like they have to perform can tank what desire they do have. People don't have to have sex to love one another and equally important, having sex doesn't mean loving.

 

[jen_sweetvoxx]

I have talked with him so many times about this. He always says he does desire me and I know he loves me. I understand that sex isn't love and love isn't sex. Thing is that I miss the kind of sex that comes from real passion. I've told him that it feels as though he is going through the motions of trying to please me. The sex is very quick and not very satisfying for me. When we watch dog porn he gets turned on big time more than any reaction that he has for me. If a scene during the porn has at some point sex between humans he cools down. I love him so much for every other reason but the sex but I don't know if I can forever give up my sexual desires. Nor is it really fair to be asked to. I know it's a difficult subject to just bring up at the first of a relationship but I wish he could have been more honest with me about this in the beginning. This is really painful.

 

[egoldstein]

I have talked with him so many times about this. He always says he does desire me and I know he loves me. I understand that sex isn't love and love isn't sex. Thing is that I miss the kind of sex that comes from real passion. I've told him that it feels as though he is going through the motions of trying to please me. The sex is very quick and not very satisfying for me. When we watch dog porn he gets turned on big time more than any reaction that he has for me. If a scene during the porn has at some point sex between humans he cools down. I love him so much for every other reason but the sex but I don't know if I can forever give up my sexual desires. Nor is it really fair to be asked to. I know it's a difficult subject to just bring up at the first of a relationship but I wish he could have been more honest with me about this in the beginning. This is really painful.

Sometimes it isn't a measure of dishonesty or holding back, sometimes it's people figuring things out as they go and might not have known how they really felt at the time. Life is rarely easy for anyone. There was a time where I thought I could make a human sexual relationship work, but I on't think I can maintain one as I'm just not into humans. That's a me thing, but I can't deny it has had impact on the other humans in my orbit.

I'm zoo exclusive, but I've had human relationships so I think I can relate on how it can be complex and sometimes difficult to manage. I've had human sexual relationships and I've had human relationships where there's love, but no sex; all of this while juggling being a zoo, too. You just have to figure out what works for everyone and that usually involves a lot of trying things, talking, and more trying things until you find a process that works. Sometimes it means accepting that while you want a particular experience from a particular partner, but they are incapable of providing it and you accept it and work around it to fullfill your needs/desires. Sometimes parting is the solution, but if there's real love I would think a solution can be found if you're both open to it.

 

[jen_sweetvoxx]

I left a long marriage because it was sexless. A very painful parting. I had more than a decade of burying my desires until I just couldn't do it. Now this. I'm heartbroken. I've been struggling with this man for a year now trying everything to figure this out. He it seems just doesn't get it. He thinks things are fine. The sex is fine he says. He has never married nor has he had any relationships that have lasted more than two years and the reasons were always infidelity. I'm thinking because the sex was very unsatisfying just like what I'm going through. He is the sweetest most perfect person. I don't want to hurt him ever. But I can't give up my needs forever. I don't think it's sustainable. I see him only on weekends and temptation is very real for me. I was very active sexually before I met him and had no intention on changing that. I don't have any idea what to do. No solution that won't cause some real pain. And I don't want to loose him either.

 

[jen_sweetvoxx]

I left a long marriage because it was sexless. A very painful parting. I had more than a decade of burying my desires until I just couldn't do it. Now this. I'm heartbroken. I've been struggling with this man for a year now trying everything to figure this out. He it seems just doesn't get it. He thinks things are fine. The sex is fine he says. He has never married nor has he had any relationships that have lasted more than two years and the reasons were always infidelity. I'm thinking because the sex was very unsatisfying just like what I'm going through. He is the sweetest most perfect person. I don't want to hurt him ever. But I can't give up my needs forever. I don't think it's sustainable. I see him only on weekends and temptation is very real for me. I was very active sexually before I met him and had no intention on changing that. I don't have any idea what to do. No solution that won't cause some real pain. And I don't want to loose him either

 

[jen_sweetvoxx]

Thank you. I plan on talking to him this weekend. I've been crying off and on for days. I love him so much and I know that his orientation is not something he can change. I find myself turned on by dog porn we have watched and fantasize about it but for me it's really about knowing he would be turned on by it not really me getting turned on by the dog but me getting turned on because he is turning on. He is turned on by the dog. I need human sex. I think he would be happy if he and I had a brother sister relationship. I've thought that many times. I also think that our relationship gives him legitimacy with his friends who all have human partners. I absolutely adore this man but I don't think anything is going to change as far as our sexual life is concerned. He just doesn't seem that interested even though he really tries to act like he is and denies that he isn't interested. I know the difference. When we started watching zoo porn all his engines were suddenly running full speed. It actually shocked me and turned me on but after days of watching him jack off and not even attempting to have sex with me I finally got the picture.

 

[jen_sweetvoxx]

I think you should speak with him about it....as soon as I can pm you we can talk more about it

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[jen_sweetvoxx]

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[jen_sweetvoxx]

Can be any 10 as short or long as you want just 10 different ones

I'm working on it now

 

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[jen_sweetvoxx]

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[JustSomeGuy31983]

Okay. Thanks for responding. I'm thinking though that he may be attempting to force himself to want sex with me but he really isn't passionate about it.
I really don't think he wants to have sex with me and uses excuses.. and I'm really sexy and love sex.

Keep in mind, I'm new here but I feel like this touches on something I've given great deals of thought to. This is just my perspective and feel free to disregard if you think I'm off a bit. Personally... I've been on all sides of the internet and it does have an affect on the "conventional" m/f sexual act. I wouldn't necessarily place any emphasis on yourself immediately, though. Same for his desires for human play time... After being exposed to some of the less typical stuff, it might just be he's slightly desensitized to regular things. And that's just a generalisation I've found to hold true all the way to the first time someone discovers any dirty vids vs purely using their limited imaginations. Myself... I feel like it takes me longer to finish with my girlfriend than it would if I had stuck to normality. I might/might not have the endorphin and seratonin cravings at times. M/F human stuff is great and I always want sexy time with her. Maybe the kinkier side of taboo life makes me "seem" more eager... But I assure you, that's only the outward appearance (for me.) Sad thing about deviating from conventional things is the need to hide my urges and affections society deems "dirty." So to a great extent... The pet love side of things requires more stealth and caution. Because of that, it becomes more of a "jump on this" kind of mentality when the opportunity pops up... vs my GF that just needs me to lock a door and she's available any time. Maybe that's the difference you're feeling and again... For me, that appearance doesn't mean I'm more into my pets than my GF. I sincerely hope this is the same for you and your man. I'm also sorry for the mini novel, believe it or not... I cut some out.

 

[JustSomeGuy31983]

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[jen_sweetvoxx]

Keep in mind, I'm new here but I feel like this touches on something I've given great deals of thought to. This is just my perspective and feel free to disregard if you think I'm off a bit. Personally... I've been on all sides of the internet and it does have an affect on the "conventional" m/f sexual act. I wouldn't necessarily place any emphasis on yourself immediately, though. Same for his desires for human play time... After being exposed to some of the less typical stuff, it might just be he's slightly desensitized to regular things. And that's just a generalisation I've found to hold true all the way to the first time someone discovers any dirty vids vs purely using their limited imaginations. Myself... I feel like it takes me longer to finish with my girlfriend than it would if I had stuck to normality. I might/might not have the endorphin and seratonin cravings at times. M/F human stuff is great and I always want sexy time with her. Maybe the kinkier side of taboo life makes me "seem" more eager... But I assure you, that's only the outward appearance (for me.) Sad thing about deviating from conventional things is the need to hide my urges and affections society deems "dirty." So to a great extent... The pet love side of things requires more stealth and caution. Because of that, it becomes more of a "jump on this" kind of mentality when the opportunity pops up... vs my GF that just needs me to lock a door and she's available any time. Maybe that's the difference you're feeling and again... For me, that appearance doesn't mean I'm more into my pets than my GF. I sincerely hope this is the same for you and your man. I'm also sorry for the mini novel, believe it or not... I cut some out.

Thanks so much for the thoughtful response. I appreciate your thoughts and to a small degree give me some comfort and understanding. I know that my boyfriend has a rich history of varied types of taboo porn and has a habit of spending much private time involved in fantasizing and edging to these imaginings. I don't judge that nor does this bother me unless it affects our sexual interaction and specifically my access to sexual fulfillment. I enjoy novelty as well and this is exactly why when he introduced me to zoo knowing it turned him on I was hooked on exploring it at least in theory through porn. My issue is that my greatest sexual pleasure comes through vaginal penetration with a man. I've been used to being with men who wanted to give me exactly that and for hours. I've been on this forum reading account after account of people that tried to have human sexual relationships but found that these were just not satisfying for them because they were much more attracted to zoo. My guy had his most early sexual experience with the family dog and I'm thinking that this has imprinted on him this orientation possibly to a much greater extent and degree than his feelings for human sex. Even before I knew about his zoo desires I thought something was amiss because he has always had difficulty maintaining an erection with me and wasn't very interested in going down on me or fingering me or generally didn't seem to really want vaginal contact. It was like he did it as a last minute last thought thing to keep me coming back but not with any passion. He takes great pride in taking me out and showing me off to his friends etc... Like possibly he is trying to prove something. And believe me most men I've been with absolutely love my VJ so it's not me. At times I feel like he would be happy if we could just act like brother and sister with lots of extra affection. He doesn't ravish me. He adores me and likes to dress me up in sexy clothes and will get turned on to some degree but it usually doesn't end in a sexual act. I mean this is the thing I've read that people and you seem to agree have desires for both with varying appetites but what about the partner that is being shortchanged because they are needing that full attention given them. I mean he doesn't want to allow me to get some of my needs met elsewhere. Is this in any way fair? I'm left wanting to no fault of my own. In all fairness then I should be allowed to find myself a lover to fulfill me if he is getting a good part of his needs met elsewhere. I've actually asked him if we could have an open relationship and he says no way. I would rather it be him but it's just not happening.

 

[jen_sweetvoxx]

Keep in mind, I'm new here but I feel like this touches on something I've given great deals of thought to. This is just my perspective and feel free to disregard if you think I'm off a bit. Personally... I've been on all sides of the internet and it does have an affect on the "conventional" m/f sexual act. I wouldn't necessarily place any emphasis on yourself immediately, though. Same for his desires for human play time... After being exposed to some of the less typical stuff, it might just be he's slightly desensitized to regular things. And that's just a generalisation I've found to hold true all the way to the first time someone discovers any dirty vids vs purely using their limited imaginations. Myself... I feel like it takes me longer to finish with my girlfriend than it would if I had stuck to normality. I might/might not have the endorphin and seratonin cravings at times. M/F human stuff is great and I always want sexy time with her. Maybe the kinkier side of taboo life makes me "seem" more eager... But I assure you, that's only the outward appearance (for me.) Sad thing about deviating from conventional things is the need to hide my urges and affections society deems "dirty." So to a great extent... The pet love side of things requires more stealth and caution. Because of that, it becomes more of a "jump on this" kind of mentality when the opportunity pops up... vs my GF that just needs me to lock a door and she's available any time. Maybe that's the difference you're feeling and again... For me, that appearance doesn't mean I'm more into my pets than my GF. I sincerely hope this is the same for you and your man. I'm also sorry for the mini novel, believe it or not... I cut some out.

Please don't cut your thoughts out even though a letter. I wrote a letter of response. Lol

 

[Lokissimo]

Wow! I have been in EXACTLY this situation, so perhaps I can offer some advice...

First, kudos to you for wanting to salvage this relationship. You must really love him to take the time to try to understand his side and not immediately reject him. Thank you for being a good person!

As someone who also had his sexual awaking with the family dog, I can recognize what you strongly suspect. I feel like I was "imprinted" on zoo sex and while I find human females sexually attractive, and I'm able to maintain a long term relationship (I'm married with kids!), normal heterosexual relations don't excite me as much as zoosex or fantasies. To clarify: I love sexy women, love making love to my wife, love pleasing her, and I'm happy in my relationship BUT even when making love with her, I often fantasize about animals. This is never going to change.

My wife and I have found ways to make our love life work, but it took me several relationships and a good deal of therapy for me to figure out how to straddle both worlds. For US to figure it out, because even though I had figured out my balancing point before I met my wife, WE still had to figure out what each other needed to be happy. It's an extra layer of complication for our relationship and something not everyone is willing to do the work on. From your description, sounds like your BF is in denial about his sexual priorities. He probably IS using you as a beard, to appear normal in front of his friends and show off his sexy GF to gain legitimacy or allay suspicion. Been there, done that. Its a terrible place for you to be in! You are more than just a prop and deserve someone who passionately wants you.

Relationships often require compromise to make things work. Your proposal to have an open relationship sounds like a solid plan (we did the same) and shows me you are open to finding a solution. Are you willing to let him find an animal partner and fulfill his desires while you fulfill yours? Perhaps you two should dig deep and really discover what EXACTLY turns you on. Perhaps you can be a part of his fantasy and he a part of yours? If not, I'd recommend breaking things off and find someone who can meet your needs. Life is short, and you should enjoy your sexuality (and he his). While this may suck in the short term, I suspect he will thank you in the end and you will live a happier life.

Just my two cents! ?

 

[jen_sweetvoxx]

Wow! I have been in EXACTLY this situation, so perhaps I can offer some advice...

First, kudos to you for wanting to salvage this relationship. You must really love him to take the time to try to understand his side and not immediately reject him. Thank you for being a good person!

As someone who also had his sexual awaking with the family dog, I can recognize what you strongly suspect. I feel like I was "imprinted" on zoo sex and while I find human females sexually attractive, and I'm able to maintain a long term relationship (I'm married with kids!), normal heterosexual relations don't excite me as much as zoosex or fantasies. To clarify: I love sexy women, love making love to my wife, love pleasing her, and I'm happy in my relationship BUT even when making love with her, I often fantasize about animals. This is never going to change.

My wife and I have found ways to make our love life work, but it took me several relationships and a good deal of therapy for me to figure out how to straddle both worlds. For US to figure it out, because even though I had figured out my balancing point before I met my wife, WE still had to figure out what each other needed to be happy. It's an extra layer of complication for our relationship and something not everyone is willing to do the work on. From your description, sounds like your BF is in denial about his sexual priorities. He probably IS using you as a beard, to appear normal in front of his friends and show off his sexy GF to gain legitimacy or allay suspicion. Been there, done that. Its a terrible place for you to be in! You are more than just a prop and deserve someone who passionately wants you.

Relationships often require compromise to make things work. Your proposal to have an open relationship sounds like a solid plan (we did the same) and shows me you are open to finding a solution. Are you willing to let him find an animal partner and fulfill his desires while you fulfill yours? Perhaps you two should dig deep and really discover what EXACTLY turns you on. Perhaps you can be a part of his fantasy and he a part of yours? If not, I'd recommend breaking things off and find someone who can meet your needs. Life is short, and you should enjoy your sexuality (and he his). While this may suck in the short term, I suspect he will thank you in the end and you will live a happier life.

Just my two cents! ?

God thank you. So good to hear someone that gets it. It's taken me a year to understand whats happening. I'm planning on having a long discussion with him this weekend. It's truly not fair to me what's going on. I really feel for him because I know he is struggling also. I don't think he has been really honest with himself or me about things either. I think he was and is hoping somehow I can save him from his proclivity towards zoo and also as you said use me as a prop for his friends. I've tried everything to help the sex we have be more exciting but it doesn't matter I know what turns him on and even though he refuses to admit it it's dogs and also horses. I believe he does love me but more like a good friend and someone that gives him lots of affection... He does like that. He has refused all talk about an open relationship so I'm heartbroken that my choice will have to be to leave him. I also think he would be happy if he had a dog companion/lover. He wants us to get one together and he wants to watch me let a male use me. I find that actually a turn on but I've told him it can never replace my need for human sex even if that goal is reached. I also am pretty sure that he wants to be used by the animal also as he has hinted at it but is shy about talking about it. If that were to happen and I wait around for that to be a sexual release for him our poor sex life could very likely diminish into nothing. He has hinted at marrying me lately I'm thinking to seal the deal and make it harder for me to leave him. I have no intention of marriage again in my life. I do love him and I want the best for him truly but I have no faith he can change this thing as hard as he may at this point wish to. And I'm starving for sex. An entire year of perplexity and asking him what is wrong. Trying to get him to admit that something is just not working right sexually. If you don't mind can you share with me how you and your partner have worked this out?

 

[Keepinitlowkey]

God thank you. So good to hear someone that gets it. It's taken me a year to understand whats happening. I'm planning on having a long discussion with him this weekend. It's truly not fair to me what's going on. I really feel for him because I know he is struggling also. I don't think he has been really honest with himself or me about things either. I think he was and is hoping somehow I can save him from his proclivity towards zoo and also as you said use me as a prop for his friends. I've tried everything to help the sex we have be more exciting but it doesn't matter I know what turns him on and even though he refuses to admit it it's dogs and also horses. I believe he does love me but more like a good friend and someone that gives him lots of affection... He does like that. He has refused all talk about an open relationship so I'm heartbroken that my choice will have to be to leave him. I also think he would be happy if he had a dog companion/lover. He wants us to get one together and he wants to watch me let a male use me. I find that actually a turn on but I've told him it can never replace my need for human sex even if that goal is reached. I also am pretty sure that he wants to be used by the animal also as he has hinted at it but is shy about talking about it. If that were to happen and I wait around for that to be a sexual release for him our poor sex life could very likely diminish into nothing. He has hinted at marrying me lately I'm thinking to seal the deal and make it harder for me to leave him. I have no intention of marriage again in my life. I do love him and I want the best for him truly but I have no faith he can change this thing as hard as he may at this point wish to. And I'm starving for sex. An entire year of perplexity and asking him what is wrong. Trying to get him to admit that something is just not working right sexually. If you don't mind can you share with me how you and your partner have worked this out?

I hate to say it, but some people are just different. I had similar issues with an ex (non zoo related). At first things were amazing, but faded over the months. I blame the lack of passion towards the end on myself, because it just didn’t feel right being with her. She was incredibly attractive, great body, and the most amazing eyes (what got me lol) but we had our differences, and I just didn’t see a future with her. Your situation sounds somewhat similar, but I think your guy might be leaning a bit the other way, or he just get really excited at the thought of a woman being bred by a dog. I can understand getting excited, as my first time with a girl and my dog, I didn’t even get my dick in her and it was all over hahaha, and usually I’m good for at least 5 minutes lol.

 

[jen_sweetvoxx]

I hate to say it, but some people are just different. I had similar issues with an ex (non zoo related). At first things were amazing, but faded over the months. I blame the lack of passion towards the end on myself, because it just didn’t feel right being with her. She was incredibly attractive, great body, and the most amazing eyes (what got me lol) but we had our differences, and I just didn’t see a future with her. Your situation sounds somewhat similar, but I think your guy might be leaning a bit the other way, or he just get really excited at the thought of a woman being bred by a dog. I can understand getting excited, as my first time with a girl and my dog, I didn’t even get my dick in her and it was all over hahaha, and usually I’m good for at least 5 minutes lol

 

[jen_sweetvoxx]

Last time we had a serious disagreement about these same issues I said I needed space and time away he came unglued, I realized how hurt he was and how much I missed him. We got back together. I tried to stuff my desires and things got better a very little bit. But really nothing has changed. Doesn't mean we don't love each other. I think what you may be misunderstanding is that it's not like our sex has ever been good. It never has been great.