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How Many People do You Chat With

Miss ZW

Miss ZW

Esteemed Citizen of ZV
How many different people do you chat with on a daily or semi daily/regularly basis on here? Are you a guy that only talks to women? Are you a woman that only talks to guys? Is there a decent mix? How many messages do you end up ignoring usually because of dud conversations?

I’m just curious what people’s chatting habits are on here. It feels like most of the time I message someone, they respond so quick I can’t get to my other messages.

I’m a woman and the vast majority of my conversations are with guys. I have about 15 people that I regularly chat with on a daily basis. Only 2 are women. Only 3 of them have I really gotten to know very well and they know me very well. I have maybe 10 or so dud conversations each day that I can’t commit the energy to reply to the same questions over and over again or that are just “hey how are you” copy pasted every day.
 
Miss Zoo Whore said:
How many different people do you chat with on a daily or semi daily/regularly basis on here? Are you a guy that only talks to women? Are you a woman that only talks to guys? Is there a decent mix? How many messages do you end up ignoring usually because of dud conversations?

I’m just curious what people’s chatting habits are on here. It feels like most of the time I message someone, they respond so quick I can’t get to my other messages.

I’m a woman and the vast majority of my conversations are with guys. I have about 15 people that I regularly chat with on a daily basis. Only 2 are women. Only 3 of them have I really gotten to know very well and they know me very well. I have maybe 10 or so dud conversations each day that I can’t commit the energy to reply to the same questions over and over again or that are just “hey how are you” copy pasted every day.
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You are lucky. I feel like being female is kind of an advantage when it comes to anything like this. Everyone will want to talk to you, even women.

I'll honestly talk to anyone that messages me, but I only have like 3 people that have even kept responding, but it takes days for them to respond. I think I've talked to a total of 5 or 6, but other have just faded off. I enjoy chatting with others and I'm an open book, but I'm a guy, sooo... lol I had some great friends on AoZ. It sucks that we all lost contact.
 
zoofeelya said:
You are lucky. I feel like being female is kind of an advantage when it comes to anything like this. Everyone will want to talk to you, even women.

I'll honestly talk to anyone that messages me, but I only have like 3 people that have even kept responding, but it takes days for them to respond. I think I've talked to a total of 5 or 6, but other have just faded off. I enjoy chatting with others and I'm an open book, but I'm a guy, sooo... lol I had some great friends on AoZ. It sucks that we all lost contact.
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I definitely understand that guys really get screwed in pretty much every kind of forum or dating site or app or whatever. Since it’s typically guys pursuing the girls, y’all gotta message first and more often and usually end up getting ignored. And from what I’ve heard, y’all don’t really talk to each other too much on any of these things since you’re mostly just trying to talk to girls.

I will say though, both sides have their cons. I try to be nice and respond to every message. But I get so many messages that are just zero energy, pushy, boring, or just not my cup of tea. Ignoring people makes me feel so awful/guilty because I know that that person is just trying to shoot their shot or they just don’t have great communication skills and they are lonely.
 
The majority of my incoming DMs are guys asking if I'm male or female, the moment I let them know I'm male nothing else is said lol

I generally don't send unsolicited message to people but if someone comments on my profile etc asking for DM I'll message them.

Current active chats right now: 0 ? (I prefer to just shitpost on threads anyway lol)
 
Miss Zoo Whore said:
I definitely understand that guys really get screwed in pretty much every kind of forum or dating site or app or whatever. Since it’s typically guys pursuing the girls, y’all gotta message first and more often and usually end up getting ignored. And from what I’ve heard, y’all don’t really talk to each other too much on any of these things since you’re mostly just trying to talk to girls.

I will say though, both sides have their cons. I try to be nice and respond to every message. But I get so many messages that are just zero energy, pushy, boring, or just not my cup of tea. Ignoring people makes me feel so awful/guilty because I know that that person is just trying to shoot their shot or they just don’t have great communication skills and they are lonely.
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This is true. I don't know what my sexuality is. Probably pansexual, because I don't mind any gender. But I do prefer women.

I can get pretty long winded when I click with someone. lol I'm definitely not usually short, unless they just don't give me much to go with. There is definitely that shooting a shot thing, but more often than not, it's ignored or just fades. I currently have a gf, and this is probably bad to admit, but she is so vanilla and sheltered. I'd like to find someone who is more open and fun.
 
LustyGSD said:
The majority of my incoming DMs are guys asking if I'm male or female, the moment I let them know I'm male nothing else is said lol

I generally don't send unsolicited message to people but if someone comments on my profile etc asking for DM I'll message them.

Current active chats right now: 0 ? (I prefer to just shitpost on threads anyway lol)
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You just reminded me. My last avatar got the attention of a few guys who thought I was a female then dropped off after I said I was male. lol
 
I only chat with one person. She is a girl and very kind. I am always happy when i hear from her and she makes my life brighter every day.
Miss Zoo Whore said:
How many different people do you chat with on a daily or semi daily/regularly basis on here? Are you a guy that only talks to women? Are you a woman that only talks to guys? Is there a decent mix? How many messages do you end up ignoring usually because of dud conversations?

I’m just curious what people’s chatting habits are on here. It feels like most of the time I message someone, they respond so quick I can’t get to my other messages.

I’m a woman and the vast majority of my conversations are with guys. I have about 15 people that I regularly chat with on a daily basis. Only 2 are women. Only 3 of them have I really gotten to know very well and they know me very well. I have maybe 10 or so dud conversations each day that I can’t commit the energy to reply to the same questions over and over again or that are just “hey how are you” copy pasted every day.
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zoofeelya said:
You just reminded me. My last avatar got the attention of a few guys who thought I was a female then dropped off after I said I was male. lol
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Honestly, that should be the meta for actual female users getting flooded with messages to just reply... "sorry mate, I'm actually a man with big hairy balls"

They'll never hear from them again (y)
 
zoofeelya said:
This is true. I don't know what my sexuality is. Probably pansexual, because I don't mind any gender. But I do prefer women.

I can get pretty long winded when I click with someone. lol I'm definitely not usually short, unless they just don't give me much to go with. There is definitely that shooting a shot thing, but more often than not, it's ignored or just fades. I currently have a gf, and this is probably bad to admit, but she is so vanilla and sheltered. I'd like to find someone who is more open and fun.
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I am bisexual. I like guys and girls pretty equally. I’m not one to initiate private conversation though since I’ma bit shy and I just assume everyone is busy doing their own thing.

Some conversations are just gonna naturally fade I think. It’s up to the persons involved to either restart things back up or let it die. But I understand sometimes people just lose interest. I’m sorry to hear your current partner isn’t as adventurous in the bedroom. Maybe she’s too embarrassed to let out her kinky side or maybe she truly just doesn’t like anything outside of the normal missionary. I think healthy conversation can determine which and if you or both of you are willing to live with those differences.
 
Miss Zoo Whore said:
I am bisexual. I like guys and girls pretty equally. I’m not one to initiate private conversation though since I’ma bit shy and I just assume everyone is busy doing their own thing.

Some conversations are just gonna naturally fade I think. It’s up to the persons involved to either restart things back up or let it die. But I understand sometimes people just lose interest. I’m sorry to hear your current partner isn’t as adventurous in the bedroom. Maybe she’s too embarrassed to let out her kinky side or maybe she truly just doesn’t like anything outside of the normal missionary. I think healthy conversation can determine which and if you or both of you are willing to live with those differences.
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Yeah, I don't initiate many private convos either, which is my problem. Haha

We've had the conversations and she definitely isn't into much. She doesn't even like porn. Regular, boring porn. She thought masturbation was gross until she was in her 20s. It's completely opposite of everyone else I've ever been with.
 
Miss Zoo Whore said:
I typically say that I’m actually a 400 pound gorilla. But sadly it seems many guys here are into that. ?
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lol I don't think you should use an animal on a zoo site. Might wanna go with sumo wrestler. I don't know anyone who finds big Asian men wearing thong diapers appealing. But if Fetlife taught me anything, it's that there is a fetish for everything.
 
As I a guy, I completely acknowledge that women here get absolutely bombarded with messages from dudes probably all the time asking for content. To that point, I actively try to not bother the females here because I don’t want to be “that guy.” I only have 4 convos that are stop and go.
I‘d be more than happy to have convos ideally with females, but knowing the ratio here, I don’t go out of my way to start them. I just respect the space, the fact women are here in the first place, and if a private convo starts and vibes are good, great. If not, no biggie.
 
zoofeelya said:
Yeah, I don't initiate many private convos either, which is my problem. Haha

We've had the conversations and she definitely isn't into much. She doesn't even like porn. Regular, boring porn. She thought masturbation was gross until she was in her 20s. It's completely opposite of everyone else I've ever been with.
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Wow that sounds pretty hardcore. Well it’s not up to me to tell you what to do with your life or relationship. I’ll just say that I would not be able to stick around. Sex is most certainly not everything in a relationship, but I feel like it’s one of the leading reasons people start looking elsewhere.
 
Miss Zoo Whore said:
Wow that sounds pretty hardcore. Well it’s not up to me to tell you what to do with your life or relationship. I’ll just say that I would not be able to stick around. Sex is most certainly not everything in a relationship, but I feel like it’s one of the leading reasons people start looking elsewhere.
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I feel the same way. We haven't even had sex for about a year now. I have a crazy high sex drive too, so I'm just horny all the time with lack of sex and lack or zoo partner. It's been a rough time. lol
 
Bruceyboy said:
As I a guy, I completely acknowledge that women here get absolutely bombarded with messages from dudes probably all the time asking for content. To that point, I actively try to not bother the females here because I don’t want to be “that guy.” I only have 4 convos that are stop and go.
I‘d be more than happy to have convos ideally with females, but knowing the ratio here, I don’t go out of my way to start them. I just respect the space, the fact women are here in the first place, and if a private convo starts and vibes are good, great. If not, no biggie.
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It’s sad though that in you trying to not be part of the problem, you and other people may miss out on some solid connections.
 
Not many really after a few messages I stop getting replays, I'm a Male in my 30s and I will chat with anyone about anything really.
 
Miss Zoo Whore said:
It’s sad though that in you trying to not be part of the problem, you and other people may miss out on some solid connections.
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That's happened to me twice in life. Then later when the girl was with someone else and I admitted it, she asked why I didn't shoot my shot. Then regret sets in. lol We just can't win.
 
Miss Zoo Whore said:
How many messages do you initiate typically? Do you ask people if you can dm them and then after a bit it dies off?
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Most of the time it's me initially messaging, and yeah I usually said in my 1st message, ' hi there I would love to chat with you if you want '.
And yeah it tends to die off or I just don't get any response, am I doing anything wrong with that? Any help would be appreciated.
 
wheelz99969 said:
Most of the time it's me initially messaging, and yeah I usually said in my 1st message, ' hi there I would love to chat with you if you want '.
And yeah it tends to die off or I just don't get any response, am I doing anything wrong with that? Any help would be appreciated.
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I will say, 99% of the messages I get are that exact same phrase. You gotta try to stand out. Title your private message something other than “hello”. If you want to message with someone, put in some effort to learn a bit about them. Where did you see them in the forum? What kind of stuff were they posting or talking about? What’s some of their recent activity in the forum? Title the private message something interesting that stands out. Your first message should more be about starting the conversations already. Something like, “Oh hey there! I saw you were in (this thread) and what you said really caught my attention.” And then build on that in your first message. Keep it brief but not just 2-3 sentences. I’d say a good first message should be at least a full paragraph. Give the other person something to think about and respond to.
 
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Miss Zoo Whore said:
I will say, 99% of the messages I get are that exact same phrase. You gotta try to stand out. Total your private message something other than “hello”. If you want to message with someone, put in some effort to learn a bit about them. Where did you see them in the forum? What kind of stuff were they posting or talking about? What’s some of their recent activity in the forum? Title the private message something interesting that stands out. Your first message should more be about starting the conversations already. Something like, “Oh hey there! I saw you were in (this thread) and what you said really caught my attention.” And then build on that in your first message. Keep it brief but not just 2-3 sentences. I’d say a good first message should be at least a full paragraph. Give the other person something to think about and respond to.
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I'm pretty much in love with you, so I wouldn't know what to say to you. But then I'd get really long winded and ramble probably. ?
 
zoofeelya said:
I'm pretty much in love with you, so I wouldn't know what to say to you. But then I'd get really long winded and ramble probably. ?
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Ok don’t open with “I’m in love with you” in your first message. Coming on a little too strong right out the gate. ? But thank you. Focused rambling can be ok. Especially if it’s on a subject you both like.

We’re all just humans. Talk to people like we are humans you actually want to get to know. Find common ground. Work from there. Have energy to yourself and your conversations. Don’t start out overly sexual either. That works for some women if we’re horny but those conversations only go for so long.
 
Miss Zoo Whore said:
Ok don’t open with “I’m in love with you” in your first message. Coming on a little too strong right out the gate. ? But thank you. Focused rambling can be ok. Especially if it’s on a subject you both like.

We’re all just humans. Talk to people like we are humans you actually want to get to know. Find common ground. Work from there. Have energy to yourself and your conversations. Don’t start out overly sexual either. That works for some women if we’re horny but those conversations only go for so long.
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Obviously figure of speech. But you are intriguing from all of your stories and posts. Plus, you have a great body. :)

I don't ever start out sexual at all. Maybe that's why I lose interest. lol
 
zoofeelya said:
Obviously figure of speech. But you are intriguing from all of your stories and posts. Plus, you have a great body. :)

I don't ever start out sexual at all. Maybe that's why I lose interest. lol
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I figured. ? Just made me think of the SpongeBob episode where they are selling chocolate and Patrick opens with “I love you” to the random person they are trying to sell to. ?

Everyone is gonna be different. I prefer actual conversation for a bit before any kind of sexual talk typically. Like, I’m an adult. I know your end goal 99% of the time is to get into sexual stuff. Even though I know that, it’s nice to work up to it sometimes.

Obviously this is all just my preferences I’m talking about. Everyone is different.
 
Miss Zoo Whore said:
I will say, 99% of the messages I get are that exact same phrase. You gotta try to stand out. Title your private message something other than “hello”. If you want to message with someone, put in some effort to learn a bit about them. Where did you see them in the forum? What kind of stuff were they posting or talking about? What’s some of their recent activity in the forum? Title the private message something interesting that stands out. Your first message should more be about starting the conversations already. Something like, “Oh hey there! I saw you were in (this thread) and what you said really caught my attention.” And then build on that in your first message. Keep it brief but not just 2-3 sentences. I’d say a good first message should be at least a full paragraph. Give the other person something to think about and respond to.
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Thanks
 
In the beginning I was constantly getting texts from annoying people with dumb questions and copy/paste compliments. It took a while for them to stop bothering me with their nonsense. So, they generally stopped annoying me. Sometimes I get interesting people who write me 2-3 pages of private messages, and the annoyances have dwindled to a sanitary minimum, even more so since they realized I'm not zoo and there's no chance I'll visit their "boy".
I have a few friends here that I text with regularly, 3 men and one woman. There are a few more that we text with occasionally.

In general, I don't bite much. If anyone thinks they have something to say to me, welcome. The way you treat me is the way I treat you. I can be a rude bitch, I can also be nice and kind.
 
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I have a few regulars I chat with, some have been ongoing for months and years. Mostly females since I'm a straight guy who is fascinated by knotty girls, but will chat with anyone who I have common interests with.
 
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