Dating in today's society is terrible

[Mazikeen_x]

Across all the women I know first hand, ranging from relatives to acquaintances, that is not at all what I see. Granted, most of my friends are somewhat around my age - mid 50's - so that may be a difference right there.

One of my friends has a very specific requirement though - she'll only consider dating firefighters, police officers, and active military men. Other than her, the rest of my friends have very realistic expectations from relationships, give or take a few hot buttons which we all have from time to time.

age absolutely makes a huge difference, I'm in my twenties, I feel like this generation is more immature than previous ones by a large margin.. definitely attribute it to having internet access at a young age but that's just speculation really

also to address what you said about your partner being a 10 to you; I don't feel like that's true these days either. I can't honestly say I've been with, or met, anyone that was perfect in my eyes, just a lot of settling for good enough

 

[Goattobeloved]

I'm guessing you've run into some seriously poor communicators? I know I have!

I *am* a poor communicator, but should be the same for both genders.
Given the places I tried, I'd go for people in there being in a "we are not really serious, just liking to see guys drool" approach. Well, I am not that type ? I just enjoy a little talk and (if) whatever comes.

My struggle is in the online world. I'm good IRL because I read body language really, really well, almost subconsciously and can adapt and adjust in a way where they'll relax and be more comfortable, open, sharing, etc.

Plus, I hate typing lol.

I am on the opposite side. Sociable person, but poor social skills (religious boy only schooling has that). So I am sort of unconfortable asking or sharing deep in personal matters until an advanced phase. Plus... Why ruin a frienship by bringing sex innuendos into it? LOL
Too bad for me about real life dating.

Written gives me some additional thinking time to express what I really want to say, and when I meet someone I sort of know them a little so I avoid the "uh..." faces and react more like myself?

 

[TheZipper]

Not any better for seniors. Maybe it has more to do with where I live. Tough to find someone like minded. It’s exhausting!!