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Am I the only one irritated by this

Justforme

Justforme

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So I've been involved with animals for a long time, and I been a member of a couple different forums/websites through my life.
It seems like every website I've been on, 90% of people are just looking to find an owner and hookup, while 10% are actually looking for a legitimate group of friends.
I understand that because of the nature of this society, just to have someone who shares the same interests is an amazing thing in and of itself, but it shouldn't be the foundation of an entire friendship/relationship. I have made comments on other posts in the past stating the same thing. I'd like to find a group of friends that I can hang out with on a regular basis that I share more than one facet of life with.
I'm not sure if it's a community wide thing or if I'm coming out of left field here, but I just want to meet some good people to talk to. This whole aspect of our interests is just a bonus, not a focus.
 
Considering for a most people it’s a mainly sexual thing. Of course you’re going to get a bunch of horny desperate people. Unfortunately most of them are horny. I don’t trust the meet up section. I avoid it even ;)
 
Reconscope said:
I'm a male I'm talking about those who are willing to do depraved things to satisfy their lusts.

So I'm not really labeling the good guys. It's more of a observation of those who are not control of their baser instinct.

Wheat versus the chaff argument. You will find those diamonds eventually just not right away.
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OK fair enough, and yeah I'd totally agree with this comparison.
Like for me it's so weird because for me being someone attracted to zoo is no different than any other sexual orientation. Whether it's gay, hetero, or bi I don't know anyone who would just base an entire friendship around that one deciding factor. Like I have gay friends, straight friends, and I'm bi myself. It's not like the entirely of my conversations with my friends are going to revolve around my sexual preferences.
 
Mn42as said:
Everyone has their own preferences, i do like talking to real zoo's online and not only about zoo stuff, but for real face to face hang outs no tank you, i do want to stay as safe as possible so iff I do meet up to hang out it will only with someone i would really really trust, getting in to group things is absolutely not a thing i am craving for and attending to do.
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That's fair and I completely agree with the meeting up aspect. I'm just saying that it would be nice to have people to get to that point with.
 
Justforme said:
OK fair enough, and yeah I'd totally agree with this comparison.
Like for me it's so weird because for me being someone attracted to zoo is no different than any other sexual orientation. Whether it's gay, hetero, or bi I don't know anyone who would just base an entire friendship around that one deciding factor. Like I have gay friends, straight friends, and I'm bi myself. It's not like the entirely of my conversations with my friends are going to revolve around my sexual preferences.
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It's better to be real than it is to be shallow it feels more fulfilling
 
I've been lucky that pretty much everyone I've DMed on here was genuine rather than weird pervy dudes. But it always goes nowhere because people are so cautious/closed off (understandably) that you can't find mutual interests it's hard to make conversation . I kinda wish I could meet someone where it doesn't just turn into "hey how's it going" every once in a while.
 
gsdmixg said:
I've been lucky that pretty much everyone I've DMed on here was genuine rather than weird pervy dudes. But it always goes nowhere because people are so cautious/closed off (understandably) that you can't find mutual interests it's hard to make conversation . I kinda wish I could meet someone where it doesn't just turn into "hey how's it going" every once in a while.
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God of luck is on your side
 
Justforme said:
So I've been involved with animals for a long time, and I been a member of a couple different forums/websites through my life.
It seems like every website I've been on, 90% of people are just looking to find an owner and hookup, while 10% are actually looking for a legitimate group of friends.
I understand that because of the nature of this society, just to have someone who shares the same interests is an amazing thing in and of itself, but it shouldn't be the foundation of an entire friendship/relationship. I have made comments on other posts in the past stating the same thing. I'd like to find a group of friends that I can hang out with on a regular basis that I share more than one facet of life with.
I'm not sure if it's a community wide thing or if I'm coming out of left field here, but I just want to meet some good people to talk to. This whole aspect of our interests is just a bonus, not a focus.
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Unfortunately this is a common issue anywhere you go when it comes to zoo/beast related forums. There has been countless times that I get bombarded with "do you share your animals". Not even a hello, no greeting nothing. Straight down to wanting to fuck my animals. Some times I do go off and tell them about themselves. But most times I try to educate them on the correct way of talking to people. None the less it's just one of those things that happen. I can only imagine how females get hit up in DMS. It's like being an owner or a female is a green light to get blasted from randoms. Oh and don't get me started if you tell them no! Lmao. All of a sudden you're the bad guy and they are the victim. When all they wanted to do was objectify you're animals or in females cases them. I feel like I say this to often but my animal partners are not fuck toys. They are not to be used for some ones pleasure that has no regard for them and their well-being. People don't get that.
 
gsdmixg said:
I've been lucky that pretty much everyone I've DMed on here was genuine rather than weird pervy dudes. But it always goes nowhere because people are so cautious/closed off (understandably) that you can't find mutual interests it's hard to make conversation . I kinda wish I could meet someone where it doesn't just turn into "hey how's it going" every once in a while.
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I completely agree. That's why I was saying the part about a shared interests in zoo being a bonus and not a foundation.
 
Veganpawz77 said:
Your the creep who speaks for his dog and says it enjoys you fucking it.
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I feel like there's a huge disconnect here. As a zoo...hell an animal owner. You can tell when your animal likes or dislikes something. Even more so when you are a zoo you look for body language and how they act or react to certain situations. There are plenty of times that my mare has communicated that she was not interested in anything sexual that day. So I stop my advances. It's up to you NOT to proceed. There are many other days that she will run up to the fence and start to squat, wink her pussy and squirt up against the fence when she sees me. This is out of heat btw. It doesn't get much clearer than that. Animals will communicate with you the way they know how to. Which is different for every species. Regardless, Once you cross that line of continuing even with clear signs from your animal partner that they are not interested. You are no better than the abusers we hate to have in our community. The whole argument that dogs can't consent has been debunked many times over. I would please ask you to take the time to do some research. We are a community here and supposed to help and support others. Not attack them.
 
Meaty_19 said:
Unfortunately this is a common issue anywhere you go when it comes to zoo/beast related forums. There has been countless times that I get bombarded with "do you share your animals". Not even a hello, no greeting nothing. Straight down to wanting to fuck my animals. Some times I do go off and tell them about themselves. But most times I try to educate them on the correct way of talking to people. None the less it's just one of those things that happen. I can only imagine how females get hit up in DMS. It's like being an owner or a female is a green light to get blasted from randoms. Oh and don't get me started if you tell them no! Lmao. All of a sudden you're the bad guy and they are the victim. When all they wanted to do was objectify you're animals or in females cases them. I feel like I say this to often but my animal partners are not fuck toys. They are not to be used for some ones pleasure that has no regard for them and their well-being. People don't get that.
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I mean in the past I have politely asked one or two people if they would share, been politely declined, and just as politely thanked them anyway. I get why people are really cautious and it would be no different than approaching someone and asking to sleep with their human partner.
 
Justforme said:
I mean in the past I have politely asked one or two people if they would share, been politely declined, and just as politely thanked them anyway. I get why people are really cautious and it would be no different than approaching someone and asking to sleep with their human partner.
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I appreciate the way you handled that. You may be one of the few people that takes the time to understand and place yourself in another's shoes. Most of us that have what we have, have worked our butts off to have what we want in life. To be able to provide for our animal partners and give them the best life possible. Risking that for some random persons gratification is not something I'd wager many would do. I personally would not risk it. Now if you build a relationship and you are genuine friends and trust one another. That's a different story. I've had the pleasure of making some great friends through out my time in the community. My longest zoo friendship being about 12-13 years. We can shoot the shit and not even bring up zoo once. That's because we are friends with other interests outside of being zoo. Finding genuine people is very possible but we have our guards up for obvious reasons. I'd say don't give up on finding friends. Yes you will encounter some less than reputable folks but you will eventually find people that have other Similar interests as you and you will have made a friend for life.
 
Meaty_19 said:
I appreciate the way you handled that. You may be one of the few people that takes the time to understand and place yourself in another's shoes. Most of us that have what we have, have worked our butts off to have what we want in life. To be able to provide for our animal partners and give them the best life possible. Risking that for some random persons gratification is not something I'd wager many would do. I personally would not risk it. Now if you build a relationship and you are genuine friends and trust one another. That's a different story. I've had the pleasure of making some great friends through out my time in the community. My longest zoo friendship being about 12-13 years. We can shoot the shit and not even bring up zoo once. That's because we are friends with other interests outside of being zoo. Finding genuine people is very possible but we have our guards up for obvious reasons. I'd say don't give up on finding friends. Yes you will encounter some less than reputable folks but you will eventually find people that have other Similar interests as you and you will have made a friend for life.
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That's honestly what I'm hoping for, but you are correct about having guards up which sucks. Necessary for it to be that way given how society views the topic of zoo relationships, which in turn isn't helped by the people who act horribly.
I hope to meet some cool people though and the only way to do that is to try and stick it out.
 
Justforme said:
That's honestly what I'm hoping for, but you are correct about having guards up which sucks. Necessary for it to be that way given how society views the topic of zoo relationships, which in turn isn't helped by the people who act horribly.
I hope to meet some cool people though and the only way to do that is to try and stick it out.
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You seem to have a good head on your shoulders man. I do hope the best for you in this journey and that you find the friendships you are looking for. Feel free to hit me up if you ever wanna talk.
 
Justforme said:
So I've been involved with animals for a long time, and I been a member of a couple different forums/websites through my life.
It seems like every website I've been on, 90% of people are just looking to find an owner and hookup, while 10% are actually looking for a legitimate group of friends.
I understand that because of the nature of this society, just to have someone who shares the same interests is an amazing thing in and of itself, but it shouldn't be the foundation of an entire friendship/relationship. I have made comments on other posts in the past stating the same thing. I'd like to find a group of friends that I can hang out with on a regular basis that I share more than one facet of life with.
I'm not sure if it's a community wide thing or if I'm coming out of left field here, but I just want to meet some good people to talk to. This whole aspect of our interests is just a bonus, not a focus.
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There's no shortage of people who are looking for friends and social stuff and not sex; not saying sex doesn't sometimes happen, but it's the exception and not the rule; at least in my social groups. The vast majority seem to be horny guys either looking for a woman to watch or people who don't seem to care beyond just getting their rocks off. Maybe that's unfair and inaccurate, but that's my perception of the population here. Sadly, there aren't many places for zoos and for whatever reasons places without porn don't tend to see much activity, so we end up with places where there are two disparate groups existing side by side.

There's also no shortage of decent people, sexually active or not, who are looking for friends, not hookups. We're here and while activity from any particular individual may ebb and flow, there's usually at least a few of us about, but unless one is reading a lot of the non-porn threads it'd be asy to miss them. Sadly there's a low signal to noise ratio in most of the sections here for those seeking something other than titillation.


sshaderss said:
tbh in "societal" norms nobody here has a moral highground so yea.. :p
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I disagree. Society in general may lump me in with an abuser who doesn't care what happens so long as they get theirs, but there's a measurable difference in the care and happiness of my companions. Those who provide good care, nurturing environments and try to put the best interests of their companion animals above their own desires definitely occupy the moral high ground over those who do not and of those who treat them as objects.
 
Justforme said:
Did I do something wrong? If I posted this thread in the incorrect area, I apologize.
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No, you're fine. But you did get a couple of posts removed in the fray. Another user on here was the primary troublemaker in this case.
 
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Me too..

I'm looking for zoo freinds in Australia,
Even if not hooking up or sharing my Danes with them, chat buddies is always good.
 
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