I am thinking your thread got hijacked by someone else talking that way.
My advice is to get a younger dog, preferably a puppy, and really work to get a strong bond and relationship going from day one.
I can't stress that enough. Make him as much of a part of your everyday lives as you possibly can. Speak to him as though you believe he's understanding you all the time, and look him in the eye with a friendly expression on your face. Make a point of watching his body language and also trying to use your own.
Get down on all fours and play!!
If he bites too hard during rough play, yipe like a dog would to let him know it was too hard, and go back to playing.
Never, EVER hit him!! If you hurt his feelings, and you'll know when you do if you take the time to learn his body language, go put your head down next to his and nibble his nose to let him know he's forgiven and it's ok.
If he hurts your feelings, show him the same body language he would show you if the roles were reversed.
Let him be him and guide him in the same way a mother dog would.
But try try try to learn his body language and use it yourself as much as possible and SPEAK to him while you do it, and do it as frequently as possible! As in devote HOURS per day into this. Bring him into the bedroom with you always.
I'd even say to cook for him, and at the very least, have him eat with the family when you eat. Better yet, is to cook for all of you, put his food on your plate, and as you eat, one bite for him, one bite for you, right off of your fork.
Involvement is key.
Have sex in front of him, but don't encourage or discourage him if he tries to get involved. Never ever discourage him from being on the bed with or without you guys.
The first time he does something that you're ok with, but it isn't really a great time, go out of your way to make it an ok time if possible. In this way he will know a particular behavior is ok. After that first time, then you can say "not right now". Remember to use "no" and "not right now" appropriately, never using "no" when you really mean not right now.
The first time he tries behavior that you never want him to do, just tell him no very friendly. Get stronger in tone if he does it again.
In this way you are showing him that he doesn't have to be afraid of your reactions by his own exploration of the world. So many make that mistake and as a result, they get scared to explore and learn. You need to encourage them exploring and learning. Doing something you don't want them doing is part of that process. Encourage it!!
I could say more, and I think I will be writing an article soon on this topic. Hope this helps!