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justadude2

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I’m a non exclusive zoo, I am about equally attracted to human bodies as I am animal bodies. I’ve been struggling really hard lately because I really want a human partner but I can’t imagine someone wanting to date me if they knew this about me, it honestly feels a bit like a curse lol. I’m just posting this here to see what other people’s experiences are, what it was like for them growing up, how they navigate their attractions, etc. I used to not hold it against myself, I’ve never actually tried to have a relationship with an animal before that wasn’t just platonic, but after coming out of a relationship I’m seeing now that my attractions are way more “real” if that makes sense, I just wanna know if I’m a weirdo or not lol.
 
I'm in a open poly relationship so I'm not scared of having both humans and non-humans partners at the same time, but can't really afford to tell my human ones I am also a zoosexual...
 
Estafantom said:
I'm in a open poly relationship so I'm not scared of having both humans and non-humans partners at the same time, but can't really afford to tell my human ones I am also a zoosexual...
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Can I ask what that’s like? Do you love and enjoy your human partners just as much as your animal ones? Are each equally as appealing to you? I personally don't think I could live with just one for the rest of my life.
 
Jmmp2803 said:
Unfortunately when I’m in a relationship I just do my best to turn off the dog-loving part of me
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I feel that, a lot of the time when I'm in relationships I tend to just let myself lean into my non-zoo attractions and really try to embrace my partner. Though after a while it does get me down a bit, the same goes for me the other way around as well.
 
justadude2 said:
Can I ask what that’s like? Do you love and enjoy your human partners just as much as your animal ones? Are each equally as appealing to you? I personally don't think I could live with just one for the rest of my life.
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Each of my partners give me different attraction and fill different needs, so I don't really try to search who's is better than who. Sadly I have yet to get a canine partner but I know I would be really sad to only have one and unique partner no matter the species. (and right now I'm frustrated to live without a dog)
 
justadude2 said:
I’m a non exclusive zoo, I am about equally attracted to human bodies as I am animal bodies. I’ve been struggling really hard lately because I really want a human partner but I can’t imagine someone wanting to date me if they knew this about me, it honestly feels a bit like a curse lol. I’m just posting this here to see what other people’s experiences are, what it was like for them growing up, how they navigate their attractions, etc. I used to not hold it against myself, I’ve never actually tried to have a relationship with an animal before that wasn’t just platonic, but after coming out of a relationship I’m seeing now that my attractions are way more “real” if that makes sense, I just wanna know if I’m a weirdo or not lol.
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I’m not zoo exclusive either. Growing up I hid my zoo side from everyone. I still do hide it from non zoo folks. But I’ve held out hope that there might be other zoo guys (either fwb, or as a LTR) who I could share zoo love with.
The challenge for me has been the spectrum of human sexuality when adding zoo to the mix. With other humans, people can fall anywhere between 100% straight, 100% gay, and every bisexual percentage in between. When you add zoo to the mix, it’s the same thing, only with animals. It can make for a tall order. IE: He’s completely into women, and mostly into male animals. Or, in my case, I’m primarily gay with people, and 100% into female animals. It would be great to meet a hubby who also has a passion for female animals, but my experience has been that if a guy is into other guys he also tends to be more into male animals. I’d love to be wrong about that.?
Alas, that has been my challenge.
Now, after so many years of searching, I’ve decided if it happens it happens. If not, I’ll be happy to have zoo friends and love my female critters as a single guy.
 
Otter1 said:
I’m not zoo exclusive either. Growing up I hid my zoo side from everyone. I still do hide it from non zoo folks. But I’ve held out hope that there might be other zoo guys (either fwb, or as a LTR) who I could share zoo love with.
The challenge for me has been the spectrum of human sexuality when adding zoo to the mix. With other humans, people can fall anywhere between 100% straight, 100% gay, and every bisexual percentage in between. When you add zoo to the mix, it’s the same thing, only with animals. It can make for a tall order. IE: He’s completely into women, and mostly into male animals. Or, in my case, I’m primarily gay with people, and 100% into female animals. It would be great to meet a hubby who also has a passion for female animals, but my experience has been that if a guy is into other guys he also tends to be more into male animals. I’d love to be wrong about that.?
Alas, that has been my challenge.
Now, after so many years of searching, I’ve decided if it happens it happens. If not, I’ll be happy to have zoo friends and love my female critters as a single guy.
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Doesn't it feel so weird, I like that I can be "normal" with most people (seeing as this is relatively rare), and also have a secret side of myself only a select few people get to see.
 
My boyfriend and I are both zoos. It happens or it doesn't I suppose. I don't know if I'd be able to feel like I was in a fulfilling and complete relationship if I'd have to hide being attracted to animals from my partner, but its probably the safest way to live your life keeping it to yourself tbh.
 
MagicPup said:
My boyfriend and I are both zoos. It happens or it doesn't I suppose. I don't know if I'd be able to feel like I was in a fulfilling and complete relationship if I'd have to hide being attracted to animals from my partner, but its probably the safest way to live your life keeping it to yourself tbh.
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This might be a tad personal to ask but as someone struggling to figure themselves out what’s it like for the two of you? Does it come up often, does it play any role in your relationship with them feelings wise? I had a boyfriend who was a non zoo and even though I never disclosed it I never felt bad or distant and like I was hiding anything,
He felt like a soulmate. it just didn’t feel super important to mention It almost sort of took a backseat in my mind tbh.
 
It can be a tightrope to walk between worlds, but it can be done. I'm attracted to women as well as dogs and horses (and others in the right situation) and have always had non-zoo relationships. Some have crossed the line and my secrets have been exposed. Sometimes that was disastrous, and sometimes surprisingly okay! People are getting to be more open-minded about the subject thanks to mainstream media (like family guy) and online porn - I think it has opened up a lot of people's minds to the possibilities. Just have to be careful and read the room. I finally found a non-zoo woman who I was completely honest with about my attractions and she accepted me, warts and all. You will too, if you are patient and honest with yourself and your partner-- just be careful of whom you share this with. Make sure, as best you can, they are worthy of your trust. You will find lots of strategies on this site for sussing people out. Do some research and good luck!
 
Lokissimo said:
It can be a tightrope to walk between worlds, but it can be done. I'm attracted to women as well as dogs and horses (and others in the right situation) and have always had non-zoo relationships. Some have crossed the line and my secrets have been exposed. Sometimes that was disastrous, and sometimes surprisingly okay! People are getting to be more open-minded about the subject thanks to mainstream media (like family guy) and online porn - I think it has opened up a lot of people's minds to the possibilities. Just have to be careful and read the room. I finally found a non-zoo woman who I was completely honest with about my attractions and she accepted me, warts and all. You will too, if you are patient and honest with yourself and your partner-- just be careful of whom you share this with. Make sure, as best you can, they are worthy of your trust. You will find lots of strategies on this site for sussing people out. Do some research and good luck!
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Thank you this helps a lot, being unsure about my zoosexuality atm while also knowing that I love and desire human sexual contact/romance has been very strange and difficult. Your comment gives me hope that others may hopefully be accepting even if they don’t experience the feeling.
 
justadude2 said:
This might be a tad personal to ask but as someone struggling to figure themselves out what’s it like for the two of you? Does it come up often, does it play any role in your relationship with them feelings wise? I had a boyfriend who was a non zoo and even though I never disclosed it I never felt bad or distant and like I was hiding anything,
He felt like a soulmate. it just didn’t feel super important to mention It almost sort of took a backseat in my mind tbh.
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It comes up a decent amount, since we're both attracted to dogs and intend to own more dogs in the future, with the possibility of being sexually active with them if they are interested in it. But other than that, id say it's a regular relationship otherwise, and likely a lot like any you would have with a non-zoo person. As long as you're happy in whatever relationship you're in, that's more important.
 
k9Queen said:
I love my dog and I’m still attracted to men (and some women). I have no plans on letting them know but I’m not really dating until I’m done with med school I don’t need the drama that comes with a human relationship.
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I put my wife through med school, I would of loved if she was knotted by our boy. Instead she was fucking the neighbor and guys from school!!
 
I'm non exclusive but in the past 7 or 8 years iv felt exclusive. I haven't been in a human relationship in that long.

I quite easily could have but i didnt because iv just grown tired of the games women play. I can generally see right through them the moment I meet them and just from experience know they arent right for me. It's just not worth my time with the pain and heart ache that comes along with it. Just seems like if you are a guy with a good job, a decent place and no criminal arrest record their pussy just dry up but they'll use you as a place holder, stepping stone or a meal ticket until they can find some asshole with 7 baby-mommas and a couple felonies.

Iv never told any women about my zoosexuality because that's just not worth the risk although the thought has crossed my mind after realizing the relationship was going nowhere just to see their reaction.
 
rocky_dp said:
I'm non exclusive but in the past 7 or 8 years iv felt exclusive. I haven't been in a human relationship in that long.

I quite easily could have but i didnt because iv just grown tired of the games women play. I can generally see right through them the moment I meet them and just from experience know they arent right for me. It's just not worth my time with the pain and heart ache that comes along with it. Just seems like if you are a guy with a good job, a decent place and no criminal arrest record their pussy just dry up but they'll use you as a place holder, stepping stone or a meal ticket until they can find some asshole with 7 baby-mommas and a couple felonies.

Iv never told any women about my zoosexuality because that's just not worth the risk although the thought has crossed my mind after realizing the relationship was going nowhere just to see their reaction.
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So do you mean you could fall in love with either but choose animals over people because of your general distrust of women? Interesting.
 
I’ve been trying to hook up with another furry so the chance of them also being zoo is like 1000x more likely
 
just_do_it said:
I put my wife through med school, I would of loved if she was knotted by our boy. Instead she was fucking the neighbor and guys from school!!
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Those are the same breaks as everyone gets....Marriage is, at best, a crapshoot. A pre-nup would be great, but for most its so unromantic they shy away. Some make it, some get screwed in ways they never would have imagined. Pick a partner as carefully as youd pick a critter. You might still get the shank, but at least you'll have tried.

The Education she got is half yours....but you'll never get a dime out of it....C'est La Vie
 
Lokissimo said:
I wouldn't count on that! You are more likely to find a militantly-anti-zoo crusader trying to compensate for their attraction to animals.
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Lol that’s what I’ve been saying, I think they need to be more realistic because for at least half (I’d argue more) theres probably some low level zoophilia going on that they just don’t want to admit to, in my personal opinion it’s probably for a lot of them a case of non exclusive zoophilia where they simply deny their equal/lesser feelings of zoo vs non-zoo attractions it’s personally a lot easier to say “fuck zoos” then it is to say “yeah I’m sexually attracted to animal and human bodies but I don’t want to have sex with animals for (insert reason)” I seriously think if everyone could just chill out about it, and realize there’s probably a lot more non exclusive/lesserly attracted zoos in the world then we think and to not instantly make it a moral judgement.

There are tons of non zoos/furries who acknowledge this from the outside and are cool with it (This is all coming from a furry who came to these realizations/conclusions)
 
justadude2 said:
So do you mean you could fall in love with either but choose animals over people because of your general distrust of women? Interesting.
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In a nut shell yes. I guess I'm just jaded cause its happened so many times. I never go into anything with the intention of it failing and I always stay on top of things to help move it in the right direction but no matter what I do or how I do it I can never get a women interested in me. She will act like she is and as soon as I really commit it back fires. Every time.
 
saddlebum66 said:
Those are the same breaks as everyone gets....Marriage is, at best, a crapshoot. A pre-nup would be great, but for most its so unromantic they shy away. Some make it, some get screwed in ways they never would have imagined. Pick a partner as carefully as youd pick a critter. You might still get the shank, but at least you'll have tried.

The Education she got is half yours....but you'll never get a dime out of it....C'est La Vie
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In the beginning the agreement was to be truthful. Lying and deceit is toxic and an emotional chaos ending bad mostly. She was upfront on what she wanted to do and I worked through it. The physical feeling of her and her stories soon out weighed the emotions. She was truthful and still coming home to me. We did some swinging after for years as well. 30 years together now and a couple of years ago i got her hooked on the knot cock sleeve. Which she loved. Told her about my desires and she gave it a try. Our two boys didn’t know what they were doing, with a allergic reaction it was all short lived.
But yes I think its best to be upfront about everything before ya make the commitment of marriage.
 
I'm not zoo exclusive, and when it comes to humans I'm straight. Attracted to only women.

For the entire time I knew I was zoo, I wanted a partner who would share that lifestyle with me. It is a part of myself I can't leave behind, and I couldn't be a zoo behind their backs. That would be cheating on them, and I will not betray their trust in me. That said, there were periods where I struggled with that part of myself. Whether to cast it out, or accept it as who I am. Ultimately I accepted it, and I think I'm happier for it.

Every girl I've dated knows about it. Sometimes it went okay, sometimes it went poorly. For some, I tried to leave being zoo behind. I've been lucky that it never got out to friends and family.

It took a long time and a number of failed relationships, but I have finally found that person. She wasn't zoo until I introduced her to the idea. We have since been active zoos for the better part of a decade. We have had our own separate experiences, and shared ones. We have fantasies we discuss and would like to make reality, together.

It can happen, but not without significant risk. You have to decide for yourself if it's worth taking. For me, it was.
 
All I know is...I worked HARD for her degree. And I got zip.
knotjen said:
Well, if we stopped stepping over all the red flags we don't want to see we might have a better time of it.

I'm convinced the part of the brain which squeeeeees from being "in love" easily drowns out the part of the brain which systematically identifies, categorizes, and processes red flags.

Lord knows I've stepped over a quite a few myself.



Most people seem to be rather idealistic when it comes to concepts about love and marriage, so having a conversation about "what if?" really hurts their head (and/or heart) in significant ways. My ex and I were like that when we got married (me 22, him 29), as we both whole-heartedly believed love conquers all.

Another factor has to do with our life position when we get married. Often, people marry young, long before they have any kind of net worth to worry about.

Today, at my age, I wouldn't consider marriage without a prenup. As unromantic as the idea is, I learned a valuable lesson from the first time - practicality rules!



Each US state has different laws regarding divorce even though they have a lot in common. Where I am, her education costs, if paid for out of marital funds, would for certain be considered an asset during the divorce and financially considered.

That happened to a friend of mine - her nursing degree was paid for out of marital funds and when they split, her education came out of her half of the split - which for her and her ex roughly equaled the equity in the house they bought while married, so he kept the house and she kept the education. Though, neither of them were anything less than practical about their divorce so they didn't have the "I will stab thee through my lawyer" scenario that happens so often. They were both fair and reasonable throughout, with some tears along the way.
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All I know is I worked HARD for her degree....and she could not be bothered returning the favor she agreed to. She might not have gotten the Gold mine, but her second Hub is a Doctor. She made damn sure that I got the shaft. Happy days
 
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