RichardFirst
Tourist
Here's a thought that has been worming away in my mind for some time. I think that I will not step on any toes by saying that the sexual proclivities that we all share are at least somewhat esoteric. I personally have never even discussed animal sex with another person lest it be through the anonymity offered online. Sadly, it seems to me that most would find zoophilia to be either simply unappealing or even revolting, for which I am saddened.
What I often wonder about is how people interested in zoophilia manage to function in relationships. Is this something that they simply hide from their partners, or have they been lucky enough to find a partner who shares and understands their sexuality? I want to illustrate the point of my thread through my own experiences, but this is NOT a thread to talk about me. It's simply easier to illustrate the point through subjective experience.
I'm at an age where many of my peers are married or at least settled with long term girlfriends (I'm male). I am in my mid 30s, and I'm still single. I have many reasons for this, but one of the outstanding motivations for remaining on my own is that I have never found a sexually compatible lady. In past relationships, I have had to hide most of my sexual desires from my partner, and this left me frustrated and unfilled. Ultimately, I deemed it to be unfair to myself and to the woman in question, and the relationship ended.
To me, one of the the most important pillars of a good relationship is sexual honesty. If one partner has a sexual desire that the other cannot fulfill, then he or she will be left wanting something, and that's very likely to lead to an affair. This is something I simply dont' want to have to deal with. On the other hand, the idea of keeping these desires bottled up and unrealised is an equally repugnant prospect.
So, my question to this great community is this; how do you balance your sexuality with the very human need to have companionship? Do you remain single? Do you hide your feelings from your partner or have you been lucky enough to find a compatible lover? In the case of the last question, how did you do this?
Hopefully, this will be an inspiring discussion!
What I often wonder about is how people interested in zoophilia manage to function in relationships. Is this something that they simply hide from their partners, or have they been lucky enough to find a partner who shares and understands their sexuality? I want to illustrate the point of my thread through my own experiences, but this is NOT a thread to talk about me. It's simply easier to illustrate the point through subjective experience.
I'm at an age where many of my peers are married or at least settled with long term girlfriends (I'm male). I am in my mid 30s, and I'm still single. I have many reasons for this, but one of the outstanding motivations for remaining on my own is that I have never found a sexually compatible lady. In past relationships, I have had to hide most of my sexual desires from my partner, and this left me frustrated and unfilled. Ultimately, I deemed it to be unfair to myself and to the woman in question, and the relationship ended.
To me, one of the the most important pillars of a good relationship is sexual honesty. If one partner has a sexual desire that the other cannot fulfill, then he or she will be left wanting something, and that's very likely to lead to an affair. This is something I simply dont' want to have to deal with. On the other hand, the idea of keeping these desires bottled up and unrealised is an equally repugnant prospect.
So, my question to this great community is this; how do you balance your sexuality with the very human need to have companionship? Do you remain single? Do you hide your feelings from your partner or have you been lucky enough to find a compatible lover? In the case of the last question, how did you do this?
Hopefully, this will be an inspiring discussion!
