I started playing with the dogs and getting engaged very young - 11-ish, but I didn't really "come out to myself" that I was "into" zoophilia as a part of my sexual make up until my mid-30's. Before that I was active, but still very guilty about my lifestyle. (Personally, I think there are lot of people who are zoo-friendly, but not fully committed that they are really a zoo.) Once I accepted it, I joined more chats and became more comfortable about who I am. Of course like most, others IRL don't know, nor do I feel like I need to tell everyone in my immediate circle that I enjoy this fetish. There are many fetishes that are part regular sexual lifestyle that aren't discussed with anyone other than one's partner. For me that's how I feel about being a zoo.