Want to get away from feeling animal-exclusive

[otteriffic]

I feel as if I've lived feeling more into animals than humans since at least 12 or 13. Only had one experience, not much happened, a little sucking on my male dog.

I have never had a moment since then to have any animal experiences, and i honestly don't feel all that attracted to people in general.

I do have a partner, but i have a difficult time keeping it up during sex. What is wrong with me, am i into beastiality as porn to jerk off to, or am i just into animals and don't know it.

How would one speak to a therapist about this? I want to feel attracted to humans, but i struggle to find myself thinking "hey, he's hot" (I'm gay, not interested in women). I guess i love people for companionship rather than sex.

 

[FloofyNewfie]

I personally see zoophilia as a sexual orientation. I'm also more attracted to female animals (particularly dogs) than I am to women. It's not something that I even got to decide for myself. It kind of just is and always was since puberty. It's kind of something I just live with, but I can take solace in the fact that I don't cause any harm to my animal lover from participating in our form of love.

I stepped away from being a zoo, before I had my animal lover. I tried to leave that part of me behind for almost two years. Ultimately, I was unhappy, and I eventually came to the conclusion that fighting against my zoo nature is realistically fighting against myself. I never did see a therapist about it though, as I didn't see zoophilia as wrong. I just wanted to try and be a "normal" member of society, despite truly being attracted to animals.

I believe that societal pressure relating to what society generally as a whole expects of you is what's getting to you. But that in itself is an assumption. You know more about your own feelings than any of us will ever know. If you believe you need to seek a therapist be VERY careful. There are many therapists out there that are not trained to handle these types of matters. Many zoos that have gone to therapy will attest that it ended up doing way more harm than good. If this is what you really want, seek a secular therapist and seek one that has training in sexology. It's still a gamble though, as therapists are simply human like the rest of us.

 

[Octavian]

I understand your desire to feel and be normal, trust me, I've been there. I still am there to a degree, I suppose that feeling will never go away completely. Being different can be difficult, especially when it means identifying with something so taboo and, well...illegal. You say you aren't attracted to humans and have a difficult time performing with your partner. You never mentioned what you ARE interested in though, or what you want. Not what you want to want, but what you actually desire.

As my good friend Uncle Iroh once said:

 

[otteriffic]

I understand your desire to feel and be normal, trust me, I've been there. I still am there to a degree, I suppose that feeling will never go away completely. Being different can be difficult, especially when it means identifying with something so taboo and, well...illegal. You say you aren't attracted to humans and have a difficult time performing with your partner. You never mentioned what you ARE interested in though, or what you want. Not what you want to want, but what you actually desire.

As my good friend Uncle Iroh once said:

I honestly don't know what i desire to be honest. I feel like I want to be interested in human males, but i feel drawn more to want to have fun with a dog.

Wishing i could have an experience but am not able to. I discovered zoophillia around puberty and basically stuck with it.

I'm not very social as it is, i have a hard time talking, so talking about my sexual interests usually being male animals rather than human males, when i feel like i should desire men more, i just don't as much.


I don't know. I know I'm not interested sexually in females, humans that is, but i guess with animals i could be open.

 

[pawsforreflection]

I’ve had the same issue! I just got out of a relationship where we always had issues in sex regarding me keeping it up or being the one to want it and initiate (we broke up for unrelated issues but this was still a continuing thing). I had suspicions when we were together but when we broke up I fully realised that I’m just more sexually attracted to dogs at base. (And ive done a huge amount of introspection about gender, sexuality, etc, so im pretty sure at this point. Also i’m gay and exclusive leaning too so I feel close to what youre saying).
One of the big ways I figured out my sexuality was a lot of thinking about crushes - fictional or otherwise - and experimenting with various types of porn. Also, for the companionship side of things, daydreaming and seeing what sounded the nicest. After all this I’ve figured out that i just like the sexual and romantic company of dogs better, and I think that can be ok! I understand being stuck wishing you weren’t so exclusive, because I’ve been there, but I think its really ok to be.
I believe someone already commented that a relationship doesnt have to be sexual! You can definitely have a less sexual companionship based relationship with someone human and also have fulfilling sex with dogs. Thats pretty much what I’d want relationship-wise, so I dont think its impossible!

 

[Zetaman40]

I feel as if I've lived feeling more into animals than humans since at least 12 or 13. Only had one experience, not much happened, a little sucking on my male dog.

I have never had a moment since then to have any animal experiences, and i honestly don't feel all that attracted to people in general.

I do have a partner, but i have a difficult time keeping it up during sex. What is wrong with me, am i into beastiality as porn to jerk off to, or am i just into animals and don't know it.

How would one speak to a therapist about this? I want to feel attracted to humans, but i struggle to find myself thinking "hey, he's hot" (I'm gay, not interested in women). I guess i love people for companionship rather than sex.

Suppressing your true orientation is not gonna benefit you, it's basic psychology. You've pretty much acknowledged that you are more attracted to animals than people. That's a step in the right direction to accepting this part of yourself. Maybe it's time for you to embrace it further. Find a way to make it come to fruition. You should be honest to your SO and tell him you just aren't really interested in sex lately and wish to be platonic for the time being. Instead of dragging the situation on longer than it needs to go. It will save you and him from further disappointment in the bedroom. Maybe you should get a dog? You might find a deeper romantic companionship with them than people if you are truly zoo exclusive and you may find a sexual connection with them you can't seem to have with people. There is nothing wrong with that or you as long as it's consensual! Don't let anyone convince you otherwise. There's only one way to find out these things. You have to take a leap and see how it goes. Tbh I definitely advise against talking about this lifestyle with a therapist. If anything, if you feel lost and need someone to talk to feel free to pm me. I've been zoo exclusive all my life with zero attraction to people (I tried in the past to no avail) so in a way I understand exactly what your going through. Take care and know you have support here ❤