"So when will you find a girlfriend?"

[FoxyAdmirer12]

A question that is for people who are rather zoo exclusive, but others might have something to add as well. How do you deal with a peer-pressure from your family and friends about your romantic relationships with humans? You know, when your parents are wondering why you don't seem to date anyone (and when you spend time with your dogs/horses/etc).

"So when will you find a girlfriend?"

"We want grandkids!"

"We already had a wedding when we were at your age."

I can't much imagine what to say to my parents and such... Obviously I can't say "I am a zoo, lol."

The best strategy probably is let it slowly rot until your family kinda accept you are "hopeless case" even though they might not understand why.

Or perhaps you can find someone as a disguise... Something like Dexter had Rita. I don't know...

 

[AppleDash]

Whenever the question came up, I would deflect it: too shy to go out and meet girls. That usually worked. Weirdly enough, the pressure was off a bit when my siblings started their families. Right now I'm probably the crazy uncle in all that there. Thankfully, my parents are aware that it's harder now to start a family than when they did, and I can top it up - if needed - with "this is not the world I want to raise my children in" (just watch Threads...), but overall, saying I'm shy is enough. They have known me and my idiosyncrasies since the day I was born.

 

[dartel]

The only time it ever came up with my family was 10 years ago when I was in my early 30s. I was still identifying as asexual at the time and had absolutely no desire to date. I just said "I like my freedom. I like my privacy. I like my money. I like my sanity." My dad just said something to the effect of "Give it time, you'll want to some day" and I've never heard a word about it since.

Of course I'm not even out to them as gay, so...

It's really none of their business.

 

[pes]

I am unfortunately failing at finding excuses as well.
Moreover there is a valid reason to have a human partner. Such as it splits the load in two and you have someone to turn to for help. It becomes more relevant the older you are and the more help even just health related you might need.
My problem is that I just do not believe I can fall in love with someone. Or enjoy having a physical relationship. I simply have no drive to lovingly touch a human. Something I can quite easily do with an animal.
This is pretty much an unsolvable problem.
The only solution would be an agreement to live with someone in a similar situation who would have to be a zoo as well and on top be otherwise compatible so we would not eat each other alive.
I am not afraid to say that chances of that are extremely low.

The idea of having a non-zoo partner is pretty much out of the question, because I would have to throw away a significant portion of my life that I do want to keep. That for a relationship I would not have the ability to enjoy much.

 

[dartel]

It becomes more relevant the older you are and the more help even just health related you might need.

I know that's something heavily on the mind of the guy I just started seeing. He was talking about that last weekend when we were together.

 

[milabue]

Well, I would like a wife. Us failures sometimes get criticism like that.

Man, how many reasons why parents say that, expecting one thing or another of their kids.

 

[MashaSobaka]

Already when I was in high school and I was a jerk and just told it. When they asked me I said -I fuck my dog, fuck off-, what do you think i'm doing?
I was start high school when I answered them for the first time that I had fucked our GSD and was going to marry her. They answered that I was stupid, and then they didn't talk about it anymore. Even then, they guessed that what I was saying was true.
A few years after high school, they realized that I wasn't just saying this as a prank and a joke, it was true, I was still alone and not looking for anyone, but I had already bought my third dog.
They stopped asking such questions very quickly.

If they need a grandchild, they should make a new one for themselves. They have genitals, they can do it.