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werewolf92

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Hello,

I'd like some advice and/or external point of view regarding zoophilia and relationship.

As stated in my introduction, I've been attracted to animals (and even more dogs) since I've been sexually mature. At first I though I would stay single forever, but after a few years I felt the need to also have a human lover. At first I though the zoo part would go away - and it did for a time. But, alas, it came back biting me (I posted about it at the time being). Few years passed, my SO and I broke up and I'm now a bit lost.

On one hand I tend to feel like I can never be with another human as very few understand our way of life (not many understand respect toward animal, so love is even more uncommon). In my country this is illegal and meeting someone or opening to somebody is very risky. And I also fear spending time and effort for another failure
On the other hand I feel the need to have another human being with me. I feel the need to have both: dogs are like my "main species", but there are things only other humans can bring (comfort growing old, understanding of human-related trouble like job or society as well as human-related passions and activities, and so on).

I also have additional difficulties for a human relationship (like it was not already enough): I'm pretty sure I'm neuro-divergent (self-diagnosed at the time) and don't work like everybody, I'm not at ease with humans, much more empathic toward animals, I'm more willing to share my bed with my dogs than with another human (literally), and I'm not much into sex with fellow humans. When I come here I feel like most people are here for sex, but that's not what I'm looking for in a human partner, I'm looking for emotional bonding, sharing a life and growing together.

So here I am, not really sure what I want, nor what I need. Any advice or suggestions are welcome
 
Hello,

I'd like some advice and/or external point of view regarding zoophilia and relationship.

As stated in my introduction, I've been attracted to animals (and even more dogs) since I've been sexually mature. At first I though I would stay single forever, but after a few years I felt the need to also have a human lover. At first I though the zoo part would go away - and it did for a time. But, alas, it came back biting me (I posted about it at the time being). Few years passed, my SO and I broke up and I'm now a bit lost.

On one hand I tend to feel like I can never be with another human as very few understand our way of life (not many understand respect toward animal, so love is even more uncommon). In my country this is illegal and meeting someone or opening to somebody is very risky. And I also fear spending time and effort for another failure
On the other hand I feel the need to have another human being with me. I feel the need to have both: dogs are like my "main species", but there are things only other humans can bring (comfort growing old, understanding of human-related trouble like job or society as well as human-related passions and activities, and so on).

I also have additional difficulties for a human relationship (like it was not already enough): I'm pretty sure I'm neuro-divergent (self-diagnosed at the time) and don't work like everybody, I'm not at ease with humans, much more empathic toward animals, I'm more willing to share my bed with my dogs than with another human (literally), and I'm not much into sex with fellow humans. When I come here I feel like most people are here for sex, but that's not what I'm looking for in a human partner, I'm looking for emotional bonding, sharing a life and growing together.

So here I am, not really sure what I want, nor what I need. Any advice or suggestions are welcome
It sounds like you have quite the dilemma on your hands! While it's definitely challenging to balance the needs of animals and humans in a relationship, I think there are some things that might help. One is to recognize that it's okay if you don't find a human partner who understands or accepts all aspects of your lifestyle or personality - sometimes compromise is necessary in relationships, but that doesn't mean you have to give up on what's truly important to you.
Another suggestion would be to seek out others in similar situations as yourself. Online communities like this one can provide a safe space to share experiences and advice without fear of judgment or rejection.
 
Thanks for both of your feedback !

Making friends would surely benefit me, but that's not something I'm good at ^^' It's hard to find people who share the same interest as me, and on the forum it's also a bit difficult to balance how much I can tell without giving so much details that one could identify me in real life :/ (That's one of my biggest fear and I may be too paranoiac). Overall, I'm looking at making new friends (not only among other zoos) as my current friends are all living far from me and don't make much effort to stay in contact - mainly because they already have friends closer to them. Yet I don't really know how to proceed to meet people like me as I'm more of the reserved kind :/

it's okay if you don't find a human partner who understands or accepts all aspects of your lifestyle or personality
Then it means hiding it from them ? I get that many zoo does hide that aspect of their life, but I'm not sure I could. It would be a lot of stress and fear and I would feel like I would be betraying my partner by hiding such a thing.
 
I'm similar to yourself in some ways.

I just echo everyone else so far in that talking online with people, maybe seeing if you can find a friendship that way that could grow into something more is the best option.

It's a long and kinda lonely road unless you've been lucky enough to find someone who's also into it.
 
My suggestion would be to check out the personals sections here for whatever country / state you live in and make a post on there. Also if other people have made posts, respond to them. You can write on your profile that you are looking for friends too. I think finding some friends we can openly and honestly talk about zoosexuality with is incredibly valuable. ?❤️

I will also be in the same boat whenever I'm looking for a human partner again, so I can't really speak to that. However I have found a couple of local friends here by trying what I've written above. It may take some time and patience though. In terms of finding an intimate partner, I personally am not banking on finding one here. I am not sure how I'll go about that yet anyway. ?

I am with you - I don't think it's a good idea to keep this aspect of yourself secret with a partner. Speaking from experience, that's a sure way toward anger, resentment, pain, and destroyed trust. Better that they know up front!
 
Just keep taking your shot but don’t force it. Be interested and not interesting
Ask people honest questions and give honest answers
I don’t have too many challenges with the opposite sex IRL but I know the odds of finding “her” that is into the whole zoo thing is a long shot… like the longest of shots. Online dating is shit and on here you can’t even see what the other person looks like so just have some fun with it and talk to some cool people you might never ever EVERRRR meet in life let alone sleep with
Cheers and happy ZooGooning
 
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