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SouthPupUK

SouthPupUK

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There are so many post looking for owners and I find that this puts authentic owners off as they feel harassed and frustrated by those who don't really care about the animal and just want to take, take, take not even interested in creating a relationships with the owner or start with a reasonable conversation.
Why should owners do all the legwork and drive the conversation and take all the risk for those who want 5 mins of fantasy - if they are that interested, they need to put the work in.

Personally, I want to meet someone with an active friend that we could play together, and you will see that I have done several times in the past and I am so so grateful for it though I am always looking for more - I am willing and happy to add the care, consideration and support into it happening.

I have a lad, he.is.GEORGOUS!
He's handsome and cute and a lovely size for most people but, he has no interest, zero, never had any interest in being part of anything - so, of course, I have never asked or pushed him to as it MUST be by consent. But I don't mind, that is how the way of the world goes. I love him dearly, I care for him and I would be devastated without him.

But when those who come 'begging' with - "are you an owner" - what I hear is 'can I fuck your dog' and aggravates me beyond belief

Anyway - just wanted to rant about this - Is there anyone else in the same situation?
 
i agree im and owner of a small dog he humps occasionally but hes too small for any type of interaction most i let him do is hump my hand he seems to enjoy it but everyone hears its a small dog and leave cause all they wanted was a dog they could fuck
 
SouthPupUK said:
There are so many post looking for owners and I find that this puts authentic owners off as they feel harassed and frustrated by those who don't really care about the animal and just want to take, take, take not even interested in creating a relationships with the owner or start with a reasonable conversation.
Why should owners do all the legwork and drive the conversation and take all the risk for those who want 5 mins of fantasy - if they are that interested, they need to put the work in.

Personally, I want to meet someone with an active friend that we could play together, and you will see that I have done several times in the past and I am so so grateful for it though I am always looking for more - I am willing and happy to add the care, consideration and support into it happening.

I have a lad, he.is.GEORGOUS!
He's handsome and cute and a lovely size for most people but, he has no interest, zero, never had any interest in being part of anything - so, of course, I have never asked or pushed him to as it MUST be by consent. But I don't mind, that is how the way of the world goes. I love him dearly, I care for him and I would be devastated without him.

But when those who come 'begging' with - "are you an owner" - what I hear is 'can I fuck your dog' and aggravates me beyond belief

Anyway - just wanted to rant about this - Is there anyone else in the same situation?
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All the dogs in my life are not animals I pursue anything with—they’re my parents’ dogs and while we live together and I love the dogs deeply, my mom gets her dogs from a breeder who insists on neuter/ spay (not my preference—I think you shouldn’t neuter or spay a dog unless it’s medically necessary to improve their quality of life).

Both because they’re my family’s companions also (although in my primary care, often), and because they’ve never shown interest we have entirely non-sexual relationships.

And yeah—I find the way people talk about owners on here somewhat soulless/ objectifying of the animal involved. For me zoo is about my affection for animals which *can* include sexual connections but doesn’t need to. I value my friendships with animals far more than I value sex (similarly I value friendships with people over sex and sexual companionship).

I can’t imagine ever trying to pursue a sexual relationship with an animal that didn’t start with friendship and trust—and I’m on here more to connect with likeminded people (animal lovers, people who truly understand how deep friendship & companionship with animals can be) than I am looking for someone with a companion I can pursue sexually.
 
That's why at this point I'm only really interested in making friends with other owners. My boy isn't a thing for someone to have their first experience. I don't care how desperate people say they are.

I also don't fall for that bs when people say they want to be friends and hopefully gain my trust that I'd let them have an experience in the future. I smell fake friendship. Why would I want to be someone's friend if my dog is the persons end goal.
 
curvydollycharlie said:
All the dogs in my life are not animals I pursue anything with—they’re my parents’ dogs and while we live together and I love the dogs deeply, my mom gets her dogs from a breeder who insists on neuter/ spay (not my preference—I think you shouldn’t neuter or spay a dog unless it’s medically necessary to improve their quality of life).

Both because they’re my family’s companions also (although in my primary care, often), and because they’ve never shown interest we have entirely non-sexual relationships.

And yeah—I find the way people talk about owners on here somewhat soulless/ objectifying of the animal involved. For me zoo is about my affection for animals which *can* include sexual connections but doesn’t need to. I value my friendships with animals far more than I value sex (similarly I value friendships with people over sex and sexual companionship).

I can’t imagine ever trying to pursue a sexual relationship with an animal that didn’t start with friendship and trust—and I’m on here more to connect with likeminded people (animal lovers, people who truly understand how deep friendship & companionship with animals can be) than I am looking for someone with a companion I can pursue sexually.
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This is it right!?
there are so many levels and the like and if they are not into it - that's just the way it is. You love them and keep them and care for them.

As you say, regardless of it all - there has to be trust and understanding either that is between the owner and their animal, or the animal and the person engaging with them. there has to be a base.
 
FlareFanatic said:
That's why at this point I'm only really interested in making friends with other owners. My boy isn't a thing for someone to have their first experience. I don't care how desperate people say they are.

I also don't fall for that bs when people say they want to be friends and hopefully gain my trust that I'd let them have an experience in the future. I smell fake friendship. Why would I want to be someone's friend if my dog is the persons end goal.
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Absolutely! I totally agree with you - they stand out a mile! :)
 
FlareFanatic said:
That's why at this point I'm only really interested in making friends with other owners. My boy isn't a thing for someone to have their first experience. I don't care how desperate people say they are.

I also don't fall for that bs when people say they want to be friends and hopefully gain my trust that I'd let them have an experience in the future. I smell fake friendship. Why would I want to be someone's friend if my dog is the persons end goal.
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How dare someone be interested about animal sex on an animal sex website!
 
I have a boy like that.
Will lust after bitches, might get an interest in strangers, but almost zero response to me.
Goes like that, I am happy with him.

In the positive side, that is great to learn who is interested only on sex.
For one, I try not to be very forward about having animals or not, then I clearly state animals are not part of the deal... and if that someone finally finds out they are not vicious sex machines, most lose interest fast and drop contact.

Any remaining one, if any... might prove an interesting person to keep in touch 🙂
 
SouthPupUK said:
There are so many post looking for owners and I find that this puts authentic owners off as they feel harassed and frustrated by those who don't really care about the animal and just want to take, take, take not even interested in creating a relationships with the owner or start with a reasonable conversation.
Why should owners do all the legwork and drive the conversation and take all the risk for those who want 5 mins of fantasy - if they are that interested, they need to put the work in.

Personally, I want to meet someone with an active friend that we could play together, and you will see that I have done several times in the past and I am so so grateful for it though I am always looking for more - I am willing and happy to add the care, consideration and support into it happening.

I have a lad, he.is.GEORGOUS!
He's handsome and cute and a lovely size for most people but, he has no interest, zero, never had any interest in being part of anything - so, of course, I have never asked or pushed him to as it MUST be by consent. But I don't mind, that is how the way of the world goes. I love him dearly, I care for him and I would be devastated without him.

But when those who come 'begging' with - "are you an owner" - what I hear is 'can I fuck your dog' and aggravates me beyond belief

Anyway - just wanted to rant about this - Is there anyone else in the same situation?
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Literally this. It’s so annoying when people spam my DMs wanting nothing but to try my dogs cock? Like dude if you bothered to read anything by my posts you’d know he is neutered 😂 it’s so sad when you know there are genuine people out there but just getting their name tarnished by clowns who want to use a dog as a sex toy
 
akirazoo said:
Literally this. It’s so annoying when people spam my DMs wanting nothing but to try my dogs cock? Like dude if you bothered to read anything by my posts you’d know he is neutered 😂 it’s so sad when you know there are genuine people out there but just getting their name tarnished by clowns who want to use a dog as a sex toy
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Absolutely :)
 
Goattobeloved said:
I have a boy like that.
Will lust after bitches, might get an interest in strangers, but almost zero response to me.
Goes like that, I am happy with him.

In the positive side, that is great to learn who is interested only on sex.
For one, I try not to be very forward about having animals or not, then I clearly state animals are not part of the deal... and if that someone finally finds out they are not vicious sex machines, most lose interest fast and drop contact.

Any remaining one, if any... might prove an interesting person to keep in touch 🙂
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it certainly clears the board a bit easier :p
 
SouthPupUK said:
This is it right!?
there are so many levels and the like and if they are not into it - that's just the way it is. You love them and keep them and care for them.

As you say, regardless of it all - there has to be trust and understanding either that is between the owner and their animal, or the animal and the person engaging with them. there has to be a base.
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Went back and read my rambling reply from the other day and whew! I’m glad the core of what I was trying to say came through despite the run on sentences.

Yes! Trust is so key. For any relationship.

For me what it comes down to is that I see animals as persons—not human persons. But as fully formed beings in their own right.

They’re also much more vulnerable than we are as adults because of their legal status and lack of protections—and because of how most people see them.

But nothing has convinced me more that animals have agency than sharing a life with my cat, who truly is my best friend. We both met as adults. And I’ve watched her heal from trauma and she’s helped me heal too. I don’t know what I’ll do when she passes, honestly. Be devastated, likely.

I love her so deeply. And I love my family’s dogs as well. Our relationship doesn’t have to be sexual in nature for it to be precious because they’re precious for other reasons.

And while legally I own my cat and my family owns the dogs, in reality they belong to themselves. So what they choose is what matters most to me—both sexually and nonsexually. There’s a lot of compromise and finding ways to make sure everyone’s needs and wants get fulfilled. I just want the animals I love to have a full life in which they get to shape how they live & love.
 
knotandplay said:
How dare someone be interested about animal sex on an animal sex website!
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I don’t think you understood the point here at all.

Pretty sure everyone in this thread, including OP, is interested in having sex with animals.

The issue is that our companions aren’t sex objects. Their consent matters. Their safety matters.

Where I live zoo sex is illegal, and when discovered the animals involved are usually euthanized and killed. Sorry if my first instinct is to protect my companion and friend’s life rather than let other people get their dick wet.

I don’t know you (general you, not you specifically). And my companions are some of the creatures I love most in this world. I’m not putting them at risk just because someone else sees them more as an easy fuck than a fully formed autonomous being.
 
curvydollycharlie said:
I don’t think you understood the point here at all.

Pretty sure everyone in this thread, including OP, is interested in having sex with animals.

The issue is that our companions aren’t sex objects. Their consent matters. Their safety matters.

Where I live zoo sex is illegal, and when discovered the animals involved are usually euthanized and killed. Sorry if my first instinct is to protect my companion and friend’s life rather than let other people get their dick wet.

I don’t know you (general you, not you specifically). And my companions are some of the creatures I love most in this world. I’m not putting them at risk just because someone else sees them more as an easy fuck than a fully formed autonomous being.
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Completely agree with you bud, don’t take any unnecessary risks for you or your babies.
 
curvydollycharlie said:
Went back and read my rambling reply from the other day and whew! I’m glad the core of what I was trying to say came through despite the run on sentences.

Yes! Trust is so key. For any relationship.

For me what it comes down to is that I see animals as persons—not human persons. But as fully formed beings in their own right.

They’re also much more vulnerable than we are as adults because of their legal status and lack of protections—and because of how most people see them.

But nothing has convinced me more that animals have agency than sharing a life with my cat, who truly is my best friend. We both met as adults. And I’ve watched her heal from trauma and she’s helped me heal too. I don’t know what I’ll do when she passes, honestly. Be devastated, likely.

I love her so deeply. And I love my family’s dogs as well. Our relationship doesn’t have to be sexual in nature for it to be precious because they’re precious for other reasons.

And while legally I own my cat and my family owns the dogs, in reality they belong to themselves. So what they choose is what matters most to me—both sexually and nonsexually. There’s a lot of compromise and finding ways to make sure everyone’s needs and wants get fulfilled. I just want the animals I love to have a full life in which they get to shape how they live & love.
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This is adorable and so eloquently written! thank you for taking the time :)
Yes, they all have their own agency, and whilst we are guardians of them, to ensure their health and wellbeing - they are souls unto themselves! :)

Devastation comes with the loss of any loved one. Don't focus on it now - the time, sadly, will come but until then Focus on the the best times and good times that you will have and have had :)
 
curvydollycharlie said:
I don’t think you understood the point here at all.

Pretty sure everyone in this thread, including OP, is interested in having sex with animals.

The issue is that our companions aren’t sex objects. Their consent matters. Their safety matters.

Where I live zoo sex is illegal, and when discovered the animals involved are usually euthanized and killed. Sorry if my first instinct is to protect my companion and friend’s life rather than let other people get their dick wet.

I don’t know you (general you, not you specifically). And my companions are some of the creatures I love most in this world. I’m not putting them at risk just because someone else sees them more as an easy fuck than a fully formed autonomous being.
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Indeed, you are not wrong with my thoughts and desires - they are there - but yes, those people who treat owners and their animals as a fetish fancy ONLY, are the ones that I have been speaking about.
There is nothing wrong with curiosity and fetishes - but it needs to be understood that they are not things - and they have needs themselves. So being open about wanting to try and willing to learn are all part of the experience - not just a dive in get done, go again!
 
I totally get all of this! I'm not an owner at the moment but I really understand why owners are hesitant to meet. I'm waiting til I get my own dog, which I'm incredibly excited for, then maybe I'll try reaching out to other owners. I just love dogs so much and have been waiting forever for the right moment to bring one into my life.

There are people out there who have an animal 'kink', and others that are truly animal lovers, and it's sometimes hard to make it clear which one you are. And even then, how well would I trust a stranger? Would I accept any risk to my dog? Probably not...
 
I get this, I've been active in this community on other platforms before, you see people that just want sex everywhere. I get it, but it's exhausting and dangerous.

Our animals are so much more then just toys and to me at least being a zoophile isn't just a sexual thing. It's building a relationship and desiring such a deep relationship with your partner. It's just as in any human relationship.

I never understood the kink part, do people just like the idea because it's taboo? Do they understand our animals emotions and well being matter? The kink part always creeped me out in that regards, because so many people just want to use them for their own pleasure with no care.
 
Flµff said:
Yes, some people are like that. And I don't like that. Some want to try a new thing, but pets are not "things". But thoose ones are not that mean, at least, they are not totally disgusted by people of our kind.
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everyone had to try right - and not everyone can be an owner - but it's the approach that some take - just so self centred and needy - "you an owner?"

It's the same on the 'hook up sites' "got more pics?" from a blank profile - YEAH SURE let me offload all my private pictures to you without you even giving an ounce of interest in being able to talk to me - or the message of "hi" that's it. FFS try a little harder! "hi, saw your pics/read your profile - this really interested me because...how's things with you" IT'S NOT HARD!

I was lucky enough to have an experience from meeting someone from the old B Forum, but it was all down to just chatting as I was touring in the area and happy to chat with like minded people - didn't know he was an owner until he told me. I was lucky on that one.
 
seems like we all agree on the fact that we should be getting to know other zoos before asking about their companions and when someone does ask about the companions they should ask mor about their personalities and likes and dislikes before asking dick size. NOW HOW CAN WE CHANGE THE WAYS PEOPLE INTERACT WITH US? personally i think instead of responding with “im an owner” we could respond with “my companion is (x) years old their name is (insert name here) and they enjoy digging holes in my yard and going on walks in the woods” tell them s whole bunch about your companion without over sharing any personal info. if the person u talk to still decides to only ask about sex u will know their intentions.
 
labluv658 said:
seems like we all agree on the fact that we should be getting to know other zoos before asking about their companions and when someone does ask about the companions they should ask mor about their personalities and likes and dislikes before asking dick size. NOW HOW CAN WE CHANGE THE WAYS PEOPLE INTERACT WITH US? personally i think instead of responding with “im an owner” we could respond with “my companion is (x) years old their name is (insert name here) and they enjoy digging holes in my yard and going on walks in the woods” tell them s whole bunch about your companion without over sharing any personal info. if the person u talk to still decides to only ask about sex u will know their intentions.
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OOOOOO I like this :) Nice response - rather than putting up the wall immediately - guide and teach the person the boundaries and respect with the attitude expected :)
 
curvydollycharlie said:
All the dogs in my life are not animals I pursue anything with—they’re my parents’ dogs and while we live together and I love the dogs deeply, my mom gets her dogs from a breeder who insists on neuter/ spay (not my preference—I think you shouldn’t neuter or spay a dog unless it’s medically necessary to improve their quality of life).

Both because they’re my family’s companions also (although in my primary care, often), and because they’ve never shown interest we have entirely non-sexual relationships.

And yeah—I find the way people talk about owners on here somewhat soulless/ objectifying of the animal involved. For me zoo is about my affection for animals which *can* include sexual connections but doesn’t need to. I value my friendships with animals far more than I value sex (similarly I value friendships with people over sex and sexual companionship).

I can’t imagine ever trying to pursue a sexual relationship with an animal that didn’t start with friendship and trust—and I’m on here more to connect with likeminded people (animal lovers, people who truly understand how deep friendship & companionship with animals can be) than I am looking for someone with a companion I can pursue sexually.
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This was beautifully said !!! I couldn’t agree more
 
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