Hello, my wife of 9 years just told me last night that she used to let a small dog lick her pussy. She was a bit ashamed at first but after some discussion she at least understood that I didn't judge her for it at all. And I even admitted to having been turned on by it. But I'm worried that she will still use public opinion on the matter to feel ashamed. How can I help my wife explore without pushing to hard and scaring her?
My wife just told me she has let a small dog lick her when she was younger. How can I help influence her to try again?
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rocky_dp
Citizen of Zooville
You gotta use your best judgment here. Knowing her for 9+ years gives a way better edge than anyone on here.
That being said my suggestion would be not to mention it for a little while and then very casually and light heartily bring it up later. If you can peak her interest turn up the intensity a smidge and see what happens. If she starts to get upset or shows any sign that she isn't comfortable with the subject change the subject immediately. Last thing you wanna do is put a negative thought in her head.
Bottom line is if.....IF she is willing to explore this with you, you should both be very open and comfortable with it. Also don't get a dog as a sex toy for your relationship....that's just fucked up. Dogs aren't dildos.
That being said my suggestion would be not to mention it for a little while and then very casually and light heartily bring it up later. If you can peak her interest turn up the intensity a smidge and see what happens. If she starts to get upset or shows any sign that she isn't comfortable with the subject change the subject immediately. Last thing you wanna do is put a negative thought in her head.
Bottom line is if.....IF she is willing to explore this with you, you should both be very open and comfortable with it. Also don't get a dog as a sex toy for your relationship....that's just fucked up. Dogs aren't dildos.
Goattobeloved
Esteemed Citizen of ZV
So she used to do it, she never did it again.
Maybe start by understanding exactly why she never did it again. Then do not be pushy and leave her in her comfort zone. Even if that means she wants to keep away from that.
It is great that she dared talk to you and you showed you were not grossed by it. She may be more confident in the future but... assume it:
Anyone who is *really* into it and get the nerve to try and like it will *not* stop unless something causes it.
Most likely it was an experimentation fase she grew out of. For your relationship sake, I'd be most careful in trying to get her back into that. Might well backfire
Maybe start by understanding exactly why she never did it again. Then do not be pushy and leave her in her comfort zone. Even if that means she wants to keep away from that.
It is great that she dared talk to you and you showed you were not grossed by it. She may be more confident in the future but... assume it:
Anyone who is *really* into it and get the nerve to try and like it will *not* stop unless something causes it.
Most likely it was an experimentation fase she grew out of. For your relationship sake, I'd be most careful in trying to get her back into that. Might well backfire
We both have always owned dogs. Her best friend (non sexual pup) passed away in October. They are our companions and our family. But ironically mine is a total fruit so she knows he wants it. Lol and that was our conversation last night that made her comfortable was that, how can it be wrong if ALL parties involved want it. She had to admit the dog she allowed to lick her loved her more then anything. And mine only wants her so much because he wants to make her as happy as I do when we bone. Plus he likes the smells
tinybluefrogs
Tourist
If she has done it before then I guarantee she has thought about it since then. If she really wanted to do it again she will eventually so all you can do is be cool about it and not push the issue. Idk maybe see if watching a video of it interests her somehow? Getting to the point of actually involving a dog and having a good relationship with one takes a lot of steps
saddlebum66
Supreme Citizen of ZV
Theres nothing you can do to "help". IF that conversation took place, and was remotely as you represent it, youve expressed your approval of the act. You're done. IF she wants to go farther the ball is now in her court. As has been mentioned, if shes had "thoughts" since the original occurrence, and hasn't acted on them as yet....that's a statement of her intent. Respect it. If she wants this, it will happen. You aren't owed a thing in this regard.
tinybluefrogs
Tourist
On the fact that when you're lying in bed trying to fall asleep your brain will inevitably wander back to memories of things you've done in the past. Getting licked is an unforgettable experience so it's definitely come to mind again. The question is whether it's a good memory or something shed rather not repeat
Dude no