just wondering how i became how i am

[Comfortzone]

i dont know sometimes. i kinda feel like a piece of shit for liking this and the other stuff i like and im just wondering how i became like this. its odd. im really into this and everything else but at the same time i feel like garbage

 

[nekdoneco123]

noone knows... maybe brain defect, maybe some sort of nature's response to human overpopulation, who knows. it doesn't matter how you became whoever you are, but what you do with it.

 

[Pillar]

i dont know sometimes. i kinda feel like a piece of shit for liking this and the other stuff i like and im just wondering how i became like this. its odd. im really into this and everything else but at the same time i feel like garbage

Buddy, being into zoo isn't a big deal, although society certainly makes nonsense out of the issue. Just take a few steps back and be who you are, feel what you need to feel, accept that this is how you feel, and keep moving forward.

 

[V4rmint]

None of us know you well enough to tell you how you got this way. This isn't a one cause fits all situation... sometimes it truly seems to come from nowhere /shrug
If you don't like it, the way I see it you have 2 options
1: learn to suppress it & hope doing so doesn't damage you the way trans ppl trying to be cis & gay/bi/ace ppl trying to be straight damages them
2: learn to accept it & either do or don't act on it
You're the only one in the world who can make that choice for you.

 

[Kristy]

No need to feel like garbage when you're enjoying what you like, and without hurting any animals or humans, including yourself.
Why should societal "norms" dictate what feels good to you? They shouldn't. Create your own norms and enjoy them.
Leisure time, indeed, life itself, is too short to do otherwise.

Quit trying to figure out "how you became like this." Using verbiage such as that implies, to your own mind, that there is something wrong with it, so cut that out for your own good. You also may be creating your own "vicious circle," attempting to figure it out, then letting THAT come around and materialize into, "this is wrong and I am garbage."

 

[Alpha Cat]

I went through this and I was miserable because of it. It all stems from social conditioning, peer pressure from society itself. You cannot reprogram yourself no matter how hard you try. It is hard to overcome the years of brainwashing induced into us by society but if you do not come to terms with it then you are going to be in for years of self-loathing and depression and unlike other depressed people who can get help, you'll have the added stress of trying to hide it all.

 

[Pillar]

I went through this and I was miserable because of it. It all stems from social conditioning, peer pressure from society itself. You cannot reprogram yourself no matter how hard you try. It is hard to overcome the years of brainwashing induced into us by society but if you do not come to terms with it then you are going to be in for years of self-loathing and depression and unlike other depressed people who can get help, you'll have the added stress of trying to hide it all.

But that is a cross that MUST be carried! ?

But in all seriousness, if you're not harming anyone, screw what society says.

 

[V4rmint]

But that is a cross that MUST be carried! ?

But in all seriousness, if you're not harming anyone, screw what society says.

"An it harm none, do what ye will"

 

[Bayboyhorse]

I truly believe we are born this way. I have had zoo feelings for horses as long as I can remember. I’m almost 70.....long time..I was ..around 40 is when I got on the internet and found there were others out there like me. That gave me hope and opened up a wonderful world and sense of community. Along with that though....came the views of others who hated me because of what I am or stood for. So there are both sides of the coin....bottom line....we can’t change ourselves....don’t want too, any more that a non-zoo would want to be like us..
I had to learn after years of self hate, depression...and a lot of confiding to a few understanding close friends...they told me that being a zoo is just your sexual orientation. It does not define you. It is one dimension in your life. It took time and understanding to just be a normal person with a special desire. Just something in life to deal with. There is always a good side....we can be hugging and kissing a horse....and feeling like we are making out with him, just like a non zoo would be on a date and nobody knows....they can’t go up to a stranger and just start in on heavy petting.