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Just like that, our sex life is over

amorousdog5

amorousdog5

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My St Bernard girl and I had been having sex for about 8 years now. We have our own methods to communicate desire and consent; she will go to the specific place we make love and watch me with interest until I join her. We've always done missionary, which she indicates her readiness for by rolling onto her back and exposing herself.

Well a couple weeks ago I noticed she seemed reluctant to keep her legs open, so I didn't push for sex that day. I figured she wasn't really feeling it, and I'd have better luck another day. Unfortunately that was not to be the case. She soon stopped trying to open her legs at all, and then stopped going to the spot altogether.

I can't be sure what caused this change, and it could be a combination of things. Age is top on the list in my mind. She's definitely getting older, and although it's difficult to tell with her whether or not she's in pain, joint pain could be a factor. She also had an emergency spay for pyometra not so long ago, and although her sex drive seemed normal immediately after her recovery, it could just be that it took some time for her hormone levels to reach a new normal.

Regardless, she has made the choice that is right for her. I'm sad that this part of our relationship is over, but she's still my wonderful fluffy girl. :gsd_happysmile:
 
been there a year ago when my girl got spayed for medical reasons. about a month before "new normal" took effect sounds about right.

kuddos for respecting her.
 
Also happy to see that you're respecting her boundaries. Age may very well have something to do with it, can't speak a whole lot to how hormone changes affect older female dogs, but it does seem feasible that the hormonal changes could be affecting her. She may just be going through a phase, and while for you I hope she returns to how she was, for her as long as she's happy and healthy, she might just be over that part of her life. Give her a hug for me~ ❤
 
amorousdog5 said:
My St Bernard girl and I had been having sex for about 8 years now. We have our own methods to communicate desire and consent; she will go to the specific place we make love and watch me with interest until I join her. We've always done missionary, which she indicates her readiness for by rolling onto her back and exposing herself.

Well a couple weeks ago I noticed she seemed reluctant to keep her legs open, so I didn't push for sex that day. I figured she wasn't really feeling it, and I'd have better luck another day. Unfortunately that was not to be the case. She soon stopped trying to open her legs at all, and then stopped going to the spot altogether.

I can't be sure what caused this change, and it could be a combination of things. Age is top on the list in my mind. She's definitely getting older, and although it's difficult to tell with her whether or not she's in pain, joint pain could be a factor. She also had an emergency spay for pyometra not so long ago, and although her sex drive seemed normal immediately after her recovery, it could just be that it took some time for her hormone levels to reach a new normal.

Regardless, she has made the choice that is right for her. I'm sad that this part of our relationship is over, but she's still my wonderful fluffy girl. :gsd_happysmile:
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My runt all ways been a power nympho, you'd have to fight her off from having sex, but then at 12 n a half she hit a proverbial brick wall, and yup, just like that, and she never had an interest in tail hole play, so now, just lots of cuddles and pets, life is like that, but all so could be another heath issue you should get her checked out for.
 
Thanks everyone for your kind words and insight. Not very worried about her health since this is literally the only symptom (she's got her normal energy, good appetite, no issues with unusual discharge, diarrhea, vomiting, or anything else) but I did schedule a routine checkup just in case.
 
By just showing passion and kindness, you guys came a long way , she is still a part of you like you are to her ,that bond is strong ,maybe give her some time,but being there for her, she knows you care a lot for her .
 
While it does sound likely that it could be her hormones adjusting, if it is joint pain there is a chance that she will be interested again if you put her on anti-inflammatory meds. They can make a struggling dog into a brand new dog for a long time. Also, if it's joint pain she might have been "trained" by the discomfort to not ask for sex anymore so you might have to experiment respectfully a bit to figure out if they helped or not.

Sex aside, since joint pain is suspected getting x-rays and addressing it is important for her comfort.
 
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