How to tell my SO im into zoo?

Northeastman said:
Clear as the title. How do I tell my so I'm into zoo?
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Find a cute/funny zoo cartoon/drawing, email it to yourself, say a buddy showed it to you and you show it to her saying you find it funny/interesting/cute. Judge her reaction and go from there.
 
While I can understand, in theory, the desire to not feel the need to squirrel away your sexuality, the reality is that it is pretty unlikely that you will find someone who reacts positively.

The social stigma against zoo is so strong that even partners interested in it probably won't "take the bait" of a gentle hint for fear YOU will find their interest disgusting.

They would almost have to catch you "in action" or viewing zoo porn to have a chance to react positively if they were so inclined. Once you have "outed" yourself then the threat of how you will take their interest is removed but the small numbers of people estimated to be interested in zoo mean it's extremely risky.
 
saddlebum66 said:
Sorry to hear, but not surprised. The mundane world is not an open-minded place, and the minds are closing again.
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It's all good. :)
Reality is large and confusing, and efforts to revise what I've been able to cram into 3 pounds of bologna meat is ongoing.

Disgust is an important emotion. It engages our fast thinking, causing us to quickly move away from something that might cause us harm.
Google: why is sex dirty nasty and disgusting
People Find Sex Almost As Disgusting As Infectious Wounds
www.esquire.com

People Find Sex Almost As Disgusting As Infectious Wounds

And women are more disgusted by it than men, according to a new study.
www.esquire.com www.esquire.com

I know that sex is nice and pleasure is good for you.
*Normal* people have to engage a suspension of disbelief to get into that head space.
en.wikipedia.org

Suspension of disbelief - Wikipedia

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At least long enough to make babies, then it's back to... sex is disgusting. :(

Fast thinking is a human super power.
Emotions are tied to fast thinking.
Emotions are based on our feelings.
Our feelings are based on our implicit knowledge and it is foundational.
Someone can choose to behave differently from their implicit knowledge but they will always feel the feelings.
Within our greatest strengths we find our greatest weaknesses.

:)

- E
 
My previous partner and I were having a very open and vulnerable discussion about things we were interested in outside of what we had already engaged in. He asked if he could confide in me about something he was afraid to share because most people would find it off putting. I said he could. He confided in me and I in turn asked him the same and revealed I had thought about ”zoo”. He immediately got up took me by the hand and we went out to the garage and he called the two guard dogs from the yard and we proceeded to get down to business. It was almost an out of body experience as it happened so fast. i also made sure to make sure his new needs got met. We didn’t work out and no longer have any contact with each other.

My current partner, I don’t think he would be receptive in any way. We have had similar conversations about sex we have but what he considers kinky, I consider vanilla. Not that our sex is bad, I just don’t think he would understand. We’ve been together for 16 years so i feel like I have a pretty good judgement of what his reaction would be. Which sucks cause I can’t fulfill that part of my sexuality without feeling like I’m cheating or actually cheating. *sigh*
 
Enthrusted said:
It's all good. :)
Reality is large and confusing, and efforts to revise what I've been able to cram into 3 pounds of bologna meat is ongoing.

Disgust is an important emotion. It engages our fast thinking, causing us to quickly move away from something that might cause us harm.
Google: why is sex dirty nasty and disgusting
People Find Sex Almost As Disgusting As Infectious Wounds
www.esquire.com

People Find Sex Almost As Disgusting As Infectious Wounds

And women are more disgusted by it than men, according to a new study.
www.esquire.com www.esquire.com

I know that sex is nice and pleasure is good for you.
*Normal* people have to engage a suspension of disbelief to get into that head space.
en.wikipedia.org

Suspension of disbelief - Wikipedia

en.wikipedia.org en.wikipedia.org
At least long enough to make babies, then it's back to... sex is disgusting. :(

Fast thinking is a human super power.
Emotions are tied to fast thinking.
Emotions are based on our feelings.
Our feelings are based on our implicit knowledge and it is foundational.
Someone can choose to behave differently from their implicit knowledge but they will always feel the feelings.
Within our greatest strengths we find our greatest weaknesses.

:)

- E
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So...I read that Esquire article in the link and I think a BETTER interpretation is that women and men are apt to find PROMISCUITY "disgusting". Not necessarily bestiality/zoophilia per se.

The article suggested that disgust is an evolutionary response to avoid disease..i.e. promiscuous partners have sex with many people-->some of those people might have venereal disease-->if the promiscuous partner has sex often enough the odds are they will have sex with someone who is experiencing an outbreak-->they contract said V.D. as a result and pass it on to you.

Since the imperative of evolution is to help you both live longer personally and pass along your genetic material via spawning children, you therefore avoid behavior which might result in you contracting a disease that could cause you to die or become sterile.

It's not so much that we "get over" our disgust in order to have sex, it's that we as a species, generally speaking, don't offer our bodies as "available for sex" to just anyone who might be interested. We are "choosy" to varying degrees as to whom/what with which we would have relations.

To bring this back to the thread subject, we now not only have to disclose our interest in zoo to our S.O. if we wish to have complete honesty in our relationship but also be certain that our S.O. is either at least serially monogamous or is/was very stringent about making sure any sexual partners are/were tested for disease first in order to not be "disgusted" by the act of sex with them. Actually, depending on which species you're interested in sexually, the zoo part of it might be the LESSER of the risks.:husky_wink:
 
I talked with my S/O pretty early in our relationship about it. We've never liked keeping secrets from eachother and it built (for us) a stronger bond because it was already stuff she had watched most of her life, and experienced oral from male dog in the past, but got scared when he tried to mount her and didn't have a chance to try again later. She said she is more than willing later on when we are settled to do this with me and explore. It seems I got myself a Unicorn from other stories I'm seeing, which makes sense all things considered
 
It sort of just came up naturally between my husband and I earlier on in our relationship before we were married. It was one of those situations where we were already talking about a bunch of other shit in the heat of the moment, and zoo came out. It’s sort of just a part of things now. Don’t forget though, when and if you do get there with your SO, please try to remember that this could potentially give you a false sense of acceptance or normality as compared to others members of society. Don’t make the mistake of thinking that everyone is willing to accept it if your partner or SO does, the results of which could be catastrophic.
 
just be blunt and straight to the point, maybe in a more intimate moment... she will either like it or not...no matter how you say it to her
 
Trotea said:
just be blunt and straight to the point, maybe in a more intimate moment... she will either like it or not...no matter how you say it to her
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That's not the best idea I've ever heard. That's going to blow up in anyones face spectacularly. Better have your lawyer on speed dial.

Now, if you somehow are absolutely, positively, totally sure SHE is, then, yes, I agree, out with it, straight to the point. But never, ever, ever until you are that sure she is.
 
Dogdaddy69 said:
That's not the best idea I've ever heard. That's going to blow up in anyones face spectacularly. Better have your lawyer on speed dial.

Now, if you somehow are absolutely, positively, totally sure SHE is, then, yes, I agree, out with it, straight to the point. But never, ever, ever until you are that sure she is.
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Of course, if you are not sure what she thinks about it, tread the water a bit, some hints, see what she thinks... but if you are sure that she will like it, or if she gives off signs of liking it, there is no need to prolong it
 
Trotea said:
Of course, if you are not sure what she thinks about it, tread the water a bit, some hints, see what she thinks... but if you are sure that she will like it, or if she gives off signs of liking it, there is no need to prolong it
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Agreed.
 
From many examples here, telling your partner when the relationship is still new makes all the difference. If he/she takes it badly, then move on. I did this with my wife and gf. If your relationship is decades along, then the risks rise substantially. Goodluck to those willing to try 🙏
 
I have had this conversation with my so and it went extremely well. My SO who may not be into the lifestyle said she supports mine 100% and is willing to watch but not participate. In my opinion be honest about it but also broch the conversation carefully test the waters first in a joking matter maybe? If the relationship is new you can always move on... if not a new relationship. You should already know what eachother are into sexually (at least a little)if your both open a out it.
 
I’ve struggled with this also. How does one hint at or broach the subject? I speak to some ladies on another forum and I do ask, “how did you get into this?”

It usually breaks down to something like this: I grew up on a farm, so saw these things at an early age….I read a story and found it very erotic (usually this happened at a younger age)…the most common, I had a BF or husband that was into it, and he bought a toy or encouraged me.

My wife of three decades, while “kinky” in some respects doesn’t fit into any of the above categories. So how do you do it? Just buy a Bad Dragon or similar? Maybe just tell her it’s a ”dragon”, or accidentally stumble on a porn clip as one lady told me she did. It did the trick for her…

All the above posts are good info, well except for just blurting it out! Sorry Trotea, that one is fraught with danger!
 
Depending how long you’ve been together you should have an idea of it will be accepted. If you have any hesitation you shouldn’t.
 
Go to sexstories website (sexstories.com)

Go to a 'neutral' category "written by women" or something. Sort by popular there will ALWAYS be bestiality stories. They're quite popular on that site. You can just 'stumble' onto one. Problem is, many of the stories aren't that good, so might be a turnoff, maybe read them before and see which might be a good 'accident.'
 
Actually tell her you were thinking of getting a pup and researching on line and show her a video you tell her popped up get her reaction.
 
I would actually say that start by just juddging them on their opinion about zoo related toys first, see if they like.. And if they do, slowly start about telling them that you read some fantasy stories about zoo stuff..

I mean no matter how much you trust them or they trust you, it all boils down the concept of "zoo" being the biggest taboo in this world. So be careful and see where things would go before telling them exactly what you want to tell them..

If you are already engaging with animals, that is a different story all together.
 
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