I think the best advice here is that mostly, you just don’t. This type of activity is largely frowned upon in the greater public, and can have some pretty seriously devastating repercussions should things go pear shaped. You should probably be very good and sure that the person/s you are considering opening up to are people you can trust who won’t sell you downriver if the conversation doesn’t trend in a good direction. Things can get out of hand very quickly.I feel like it's a tough thing to find people who are willing to tall about it in person. Maybe it's just easier to so it behind a screen.