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KnottyKnotty73

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I don't know if this is the right place to mention this kind of thing but I really come here often outside the porn threads mainly because I'm too nervous to talk to anyone here. Was anyone else like that when they first joined?

Doesn't help that I'm also worried about rubbing someone the wrong way. I think I already did that with someone on here I met and I feel really terrible about it.
 
I don't start the conversation very often, but online talking is not so hard for me to do. I'm getting nervous when some other zoo wants to meet up irl, I just never trust someone enough for that.
 
It's just like any forum has ever been. Limit what personal info you put into the world, and remember that the other people are are just people as well. Everyone's here because we have the same interests, but that doesn't mean everyone is the same. There's going to be people you like, people you don't like, lurkers, active posters, etc.
 
KnottyKnotty73 said:
Doesn't help that I'm also worried about rubbing someone the wrong way. I think I already did that with someone on here I met and I feel really terrible about it.
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I assure you, as somebody that also suffers from social anxiety, that they have likely forgotten the interaction. Don’t worry too much about other people on here, some of them just like to argue for no reason.
 
dogandponyshow said:
as somebody that also suffers from social anxiety, that they have likely forgotten the interaction
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No, someone like that is more likely to continue replaying the interaction in their head over and over and over and over and over and over and over, fretting over it till the day they die of a brain hemorage.
 
dartel said:
No, someone like that is more likely to continue replaying the interaction in their head over and over and over and over and over and over and over, fretting over it till the day they die of a brain hemorage.
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The offender or the offended?
 
dartel said:
No, someone like that is more likely to continue replaying the interaction in their head over and over and over and over and over and over and over, fretting over it till the day they die of a brain hemorage.
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huh?? in my experience, any time i’ve said something where i’ve been dreading that it sounded totally stupid the person i said it to doesn’t even remember that i said it. does this clarify what i was saying?
 
dartel said:
No, someone like that is more likely to continue replaying the interaction in their head over and over and over and over and over and over and over, fretting over it till the day they die of a brain hemorage.
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That's what I've been doing for the past 2 weeks lol
 
KnottyKnotty73 said:
I don't know if this is the right place to mention this kind of thing but I really come here often outside the porn threads mainly because I'm too nervous to talk to anyone here. Was anyone else like that when they first joined?

Doesn't help that I'm also worried about rubbing someone the wrong way. I think I already did that with someone on here I met and I feel really terrible about it.
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I think everyone was like this at first when joining. Your not going to connect with everyone. There are people who are here probably for different reasons than yours. Sometimes you got to be the one to initiate that conversation you want. If you connect great, if not then move on. You can't be friends with everyone.
 
i was nervous when i first joined, always scared to msg first but sometimes i just do anyway, doesnt ever really work out but sometimes it can, just gotta do it
 
KnottyKnotty73 said:
I don't know if this is the right place to mention this kind of thing but I really come here often outside the porn threads mainly because I'm too nervous to talk to anyone here. Was anyone else like that when they first joined?

Doesn't help that I'm also worried about rubbing someone the wrong way. I think I already did that with someone on here I met and I feel really terrible about it.
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Live your life happily, do what ever you have desire for happiness and do not worry about what other think about it.
 
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KnottyKnotty73 said:
I don't know if this is the right place to mention this kind of thing but I really come here often outside the porn threads mainly because I'm too nervous to talk to anyone here. Was anyone else like that when they first joined?

Doesn't help that I'm also worried about rubbing someone the wrong way. I think I already did that with someone on here I met and I feel really terrible about it.
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Dear one, on a site like this, I seriously doubt you could rub anyone the wrong way
 
This is the first place where I’ve been open about my feelings and wants… it’s kinda scary but it’s nice knowing I’m not alone :D
 
You're in a place where everyone has at least one broad common interest. Take comfort in that, especially when it comes to taboo things like that. Most people are going to want to socialize and make connections because there are so few safe places to do so.
 
KnottyKnotty73 said:
I don't know if this is the right place to mention this kind of thing but I really come here often outside the porn threads mainly because I'm too nervous to talk to anyone here. Was anyone else like that when they first joined?

Doesn't help that I'm also worried about rubbing someone the wrong way. I think I already did that with someone on here I met and I feel really terrible about it.
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You can always just start with a friendly hi…no one will be upset over that. Take it slow, be honest and open, no personal info or questions that involve personal info and you’ll be just fine
 
KnottyKnotty73 said:
I don't know if this is the right place to mention this kind of thing but I really come here often outside the porn threads mainly because I'm too nervous to talk to anyone here. Was anyone else like that when they first joined?

Doesn't help that I'm also worried about rubbing someone the wrong way. I think I already did that with someone on here I met and I feel really terrible about it.
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yes I’m terrified of posting and when I get to the point that I can message I don’t even know if I’ll be able to reply or even get the courage to me anyone irl. I watch too much true crime, serie killer and SVU so I’ll forever stay on this forums.
 
kyle_62 said:
Dear one, on a site like this, I seriously doubt you could rub anyone the wrong way
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Oh, rubbing someone the wrong way can happen anywhere. Sometimes it's your fail, sometimes it's their fail. I'm still trying to learn the difference. So you have no need to feel bad if you get it wrong. Embarassed, yes, but not bad.

I have felt both in various places, and looking back ... various things are different :p
 
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