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How do you deal with anger?

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k9Queen

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I have friends that constantly let these POS guys ruin them and when I call them out, I’m a bitch!!! But 2 weeks later I’m “right and I should have listened”. People please just know your worth…. No one can define you.
I’m sorry, I’m just angry listening to this shit. Thank y’all for being here.
 
Friends are like clothes. When it's time to change out, it's time to change out. Things run their course and lose their meaning. Don't get caught up in sentimentality. Broken people are broken people, toxic is toxic. When the time comes, you have to cut ties for your own best interests.

Be a good friend as you can and cut ties when ties need cut.
 
In my experience, even if you care for others it doesn't mean that they will act in that way even if it is a repeating pattern. I would say even if it gets old wait and tell them when it is the time, if you care for that relationship. Sometimes truths and/or views will not be received well when someone is still going through something, no matter how old and repetitive it can be. I would just say stay calm and let them know when you both are not in a vulnerable place because believe be shit can go south and in those times people might not want to listen.

If it certain interacts get to you in a negative manner, set a boundary. Tell them to respect it so that the same situation does not repeat itself between you both even if it is a small thing now after a while of it happening over and over it won't be something you'll dismiss easily.

And if at all neither of the two look to be quite what you think will work or the relationship might not be worth the effort then it might be time to start distancing yourself they might see that and change or keep on their own path. No matter what in the end, just do what you can for you.

Friends come and go, and bad friends are mixed in that bundle like sprinkles on a cupcake.
 
k9Queen said:
I have friends that constantly let these POS guys ruin them and when I call them out, I’m a bitch!!! But 2 weeks later I’m “right and I should have listened”. People please just know your worth…. No one can define you.
I’m sorry, I’m just angry listening to this shit. Thank y’all for being here.
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We don’t listen we become blinded by the momant and our hopes and desires, than reality sinks in.
 
Normally a cup 'o tea always helps calm my nerves :) replace [tea] with whatever your favourite beverage may be if you're someone that lives across the pond :LOL:

Dating can be a "wonderful" (yes sarcasm) world of insecurities and painful incompatible personalities. For the most part, it can and will suck. Like big juicy balls. But, and a big but, when it goes well it feels like you're on top of the world :)
 
it is always difficult when you have acquaintances or friends who are about to do something wrong.
unfortunately, most of them don't want to hear any rar beats, even if it's the truth.
and in the worst case, you're right and you still get the blame for interfering.

but it's better to surround yourself with people who value your honest opinion than talk bad about your help.
 
K9heike said:
it is always difficult when you have acquaintances or friends who are about to do something wrong.
unfortunately, most of them don't want to hear any rar beats, even if it's the truth.
and in the worst case, you're right and you still get the blame for interfering.

but it's better to surround yourself with people who value your honest opinion than talk bad about your help.
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I'd personally just dump cunts like that and go celebrate with my real friends.
 
K9heike said:
but it's better to surround yourself with people who value your honest opinion than talk bad about your help.
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This. I've let "friendships" die when it became clear the people I was "friends" with were not good people and they didn't really care about me, my time, or anything like that. They just wanted a warm body to go to their parties and be part of their entourage.
 
Kill people, chop them up, etc

But actually, repression tends to be a good solution. Just swallow it down and keep moving
 
Boundaries are key!! Don't let people get you to that spot. Either tell them that you don't want to talk about it or just walk away. They will get the point and stop coming to you with the bullshit like that.
 
People don't want to hear the truth. They want that feeling of infatuation with all the hormones it releases. They also don't want to deal with their own bad habits and the fact that they are attracted to peoples who are users, losers or just bad for them. People want to believe in finding that one that will make life great but that doesn't exist without work and going through difficulty and supporting each other not one saving the other.
 
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