Hello everyone, I am a 20 something year old male currently very internally conflicted about his possible zoosexuality, I'm not here to judge anyone but for as far as I've lived my entire life I've always thought having sex with animals was inherently wrong because of their inability to consent, I say this to give an example as to why I'm so conflicted. I am not asking for a diagnosis but I suppose I am wondering if anyone else can relate to my story and give me some advice on what they think is up/what I should do? When I was young my first real sexual experiences started with watching human porn, I liked it, and eventually stumbled across furry porn which I also really liked. Then came transformation stuff, I loved watching people transform into various animals, anthro ones, feral ones, semi anthros, semi ferals, etc. I had huge sexual crushes and never ending fantasies of creatures all up and down the animal to human spectrum having sex with me and turning me into one of them, and of course that included said feral animals. Over the years I'd rate my feral to human/anthro ratio of porn consumption/fantasizing at 25%(feral)/75%(human/anthro). An important side note is that sometimes I would feel disgusted by feral stuff and at other times I would only be able to be sexually aroused by it. but I'm getting carried away with exact numbers. I'd never once felt the desire to have sex with an actual animal though, and that really confuses me because back then it felt like my mind somehow divided the ones in my head from the ones in real life. I did on and off experiments with looking at animals mating from time to time, I found it strongly sexually arousing but it quickly lost its appeal to me for some reason and I moved on. All my life because of this porn consumption I eventually formed an extremely deep rooted identity as a furry (this was roughly 5 years ago) and pretty much almost exclusively looked at non feral porn with relative ease, but I never hated myself for finding it mildly/highly arousing depending on if it had TF or not, it did not feel like I needed it in order to feel fulfilled romantically or sexually, I was fine with just imagining big buff werewolves coming to bang me instead of real ones. Everything remained like this for a long time until I met my (now) ex boyfriend who also loved TF and werewolves, long story short we formed one of the deepest most meaningful bonds I have ever experienced in my entire life, we were vulnerable to our cores and we loved one another, I had always loved humans, having a boyfriend and experiencing real human love was just as important to me sexually and romantically as my sexual fantasies (if anything moreso). We broke up on extremely bad terms, and ever since then I've felt an extremely deep shift in my sexual attraction, my thoughts have been extremely upsetting to me because ever since our breakup I've felt this persistent urge to only look at and sexually romanticize imaginary/real animals. If anything it feels like a complete 180 into zoo exclusivity is trying to break through into me and take over, if that makes sense? I've had an extremely debilitating time dealing with it, it plagues my thoughts every day 24/7 and it is ruining my life, no matter how much I try to accept it as being possibly true I always feel like I'm fighting it for some reason. I've looked at, and sexually enjoyed depictions of feral TF many times since the breakup, I looked at IRL beastiality as well but that weirdly cant turn me on. But yeah that's basically the gist of this, I really don't know what to make of my current situation, my general though process is "well you're so fucked up that if you can find animal bodies attractive that means you want to have sex with them and have romantic feelings for them and that makes you a monster" is this typical for anyone else? Am I just a bisexual zoophile that switches between wanting human and animal partners? Am I in denial? Am I an awakening zoophile? What are your guys's thoughts because i have no idea where to go from here and I'm really unhappy.
Hello I am new here, I figured here would be a good place to ask questions regarding my possible zoosexuality.
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K_9River_rat
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I can totally relate!
For starters, there's NOTHING wrong with you!
Society has placed a huge burden on all of us.
Some might flame me for this next part, but after looking around and knowing myself, I totally believe there's a distinct difference between bestiality and zoo.
Basically, bestiality involves just a physical act.
Zoo is being emotionally connected/attracted to an animal with or without physical interaction.
Personally, I'm zoo, and the idea of someone using an animal just for sex just turns me off.
There's so much more to all of this than would seem on the surface.
Try to get more posts up so you can DM and shoot me a DM.
Gosh, use paragraphs. This is difficult to read.
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Though in your case I think you might eventually get back to wanting a human partner.
So it might be beneficial to resolve the trauma you have from your previous relationship which could help you get another partner. If animals are still attractive for you after that, then you will have to do some self acceptance.
How a female dog expresses consent with body language
Flagging (normally they do this behavior in standing heat) is how a female dog expresses that she is willing and ready to mate with a male, lifting of the vulva and tucking the tail off to one side are clear signs of consent, it is part of the k9 body language, they are absolutely capable of...
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How does your dog show they're wanting sex?
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How Does Your Animal Say No to Sex?
When hearing about animals and consent, we generally start off with examples of our animals demonstrating desire and knowledge about what they want, or attempting to explain it from a theoretical perspective. However, in my own relationships there have been many times where my advances were met...
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To you do not seem to be a typical zoophile. You want to have a deep relationship with a human and these feelings you have might be a phase in between relationships.
Lots of zoos go through the process of self acceptance. It is not always simple.
Though in your case I think you might eventually get back to wanting a human partner.
So it might be beneficial to resolve the trauma you have from your previous relationship which could help you get another partner. If animals are still attractive for you after that, then you will have to do some self acceptance.
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JazzyPaws
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The topic of consent is well covered here. Society's views on zoo/beast is why you feel that way, and I encourage you to please read stuff here with an inquiring and open mind. Even if you are not, ultimately, zoo, there's is a lot to learn
I trimmed this, but it's a lot to unpack.
I really want to echo what @pes said about getting to the root of your confusion and potential trauma from the breakup. You kind of sound all over the place and you're trying to tackle everything at once.
Sit, take a breath, Rome wasn't built in a day, and you will find your answers. I will say that I have zero negative feelings towards my own zoosexuality, while at first there was a little shame, it's only guarded self preservation now.
I have had human relationships in the past as well, and it was thru realizing my human relationships were ultimately hollow and worthless, compared to my animal relationships, that I just assumed being Zoo-Exclusive.
Zoo/Human mixing does happen, just as much as poly, bi, etc. I do really like that distinction tho, between Beast/Zoo that @K_9River_rat mentioned.
Look back at your relationship, do you want that again?
justadude2
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So to answer the first question he was sexually abusive to his cousins (who were children) and was a pedophile, he was actively struggling with urges but refused to admit them to me and was too ashamed to tell me (until the very end) that he was actively doing such things to kids. Honestly I know and understand that nobody has control over what they're sexually into and what they yearn for in that regard so as much as it grossed me out I was more devastated by the fact that he lied to me about it and broke my trust about something so serious. (trust is a very touchy subject for me to say the least). It felt like all of our vulnerability we'd shared was wasted because he wasn't willing to work through those feelings with me to reach some kind of a nonharmful conclusion. Also molesting kids is a horrifyingly bad thing to do so that also felt very traumatizing.The topic of consent is well covered here. Society's views on zoo/beast is why you feel that way, and I encourage you to please read stuff here with an inquiring and open mind. Even if you are not, ultimately, zoo, there's is a lot to learn
I trimmed this, but it's a lot to unpack.
I really want to echo what @pes said about getting to the root of your confusion and potential trauma from the breakup. You kind of sound all over the place and you're trying to tackle everything at once.
Sit, take a breath, Rome wasn't built in a day, and you will find your answers. I will say that I have zero negative feelings towards my own zoosexuality, while at first there was a little shame, it's only guarded self preservation now.
I have had human relationships in the past as well, and it was thru realizing my human relationships were ultimately hollow and worthless, compared to my animal relationships, that I just assumed being Zoo-Exclusive.
Zoo/Human mixing does happen, just as much as poly, bi, etc. I do really like that distinction tho, between Beast/Zoo that @K_9River_rat mentioned.
Look back at your relationship, do you want that again?
to answer the second question I suppose that would take a lot of time and thinking, but my immediate answer would be yes simply because of how terrific it was. As much as I feel like I am deeply and romantically/sexually tied to certain animals and their aspects (wolves to be specific) I at this exact point in time cant see myself completely happy with just imagining myself with one despite the fact that part of me wants to feel that way because of complete breach of trust he committed.
I'll admit I wrote this while having a particularly hard and confusing time in my head so thank you for the advice, though I do want to leave a question and explain it as best I can. Would it be considered non exclusive zoosexuality (zoobisexuality? omnisexuality? interspecies-pansexuality?) if someone fell deeply in love with humans and animals romantically, but was more sexually attracted to humans/furries? My own sexuality seems to lie somewhere in something like that, I can't ever imagine myself 100% satisfied by a person, but an animal also doesn't share every property that I love about people either, furries/werewolves (in all their forms) just kind of seemed like the natural answer for how I felt.
Jesus that's horrible, I'm so sorry you had to go through that.
But for the second thing, that's my own orientation and the one of many here. I guess it could be considered something like bi-species-sexuality? Idk, labels are for clothes.
JazzyPaws
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To your question there is such a thing as just a not exclusive zoo. This is not uncommon at all. Sexuality is honestly a spectrum, you'll find people at every point.
justadude2
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See I guess that's where I've been really confused, regardless of whether or not I think it's okay to have sex with animals (I'm unsure at the moment) I always assumed people who were attracted to animals at all were strictly and only attracted to them. I never knew there could even be someone who's more attracted sexually to people than they are animals. I would by lying if I said there wasn't something about them that I found sexually appealing, but I've always felt like I could compare it to someone who's bisexual but is more straight than gay and just decides to identify/act on their straight feelings. How would you describe your own? I'm very interested in talking about this and hearing how you see your own if it's similar to mine.
justadude2
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I'm honestly surprised by this, I mean I suppose I knew it was true about human sexuality but I guess I never realized how true it could be for this kind of stuff. Would explain why my entire life I've had huge crushes on human and animal alike.
Well I'm mostly attracted to women and male dogs, and I'm attracted to both in roughly equal measures, although the ''pool'' for dogs might be a bit smaller.
JazzyPaws
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Absolutely! It's honestly less common to have people like me, who are zoo-exclusive, vs ones who, at the very least, regularly dabble in a little skin monkey
K_9River_rat
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I like to dabble in some monkey skin!! ? unfortunately not a one of them has ever treated me right once they got me to the bedroom and got a card on my bank account!!Absolutely! It's honestly less common to have people like me, who are zoo-exclusive, vs ones who, at the very least, regularly dabble in a little skin monkey
K_9River_rat
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Hang around! You'll find some answers. There is nothing wrong with taking notice of an animal in a sexual or emotional way.. for me it feels natural/normal..
JazzyPaws
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I'm sorry they never treated you properly
K_9River_rat
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As one friend told me.. bad target selection in women... although I totally didn't see it coming with the last one... first one.. yea..I'm sorry they never treated you properly
JazzyPaws
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See I'm glad that I have both tested, and proven, that I have nearly no emotional capacity for humans. I don't get tempted to try again, and ultimately end up burned because I'm not great with choosing good humans.
K_9River_rat
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I do have it for some.. but at this point in my life, I'm just not giving it out anymore.. it's here.. but it's going to have to be earned...